should i be annoyed...*update*

*update* well still nothing and its really starting to annoy me more and more everyday!! now what if she like forgot she didnt give us anthing? how will she be riminded? i know i should just give up on this, and get over it...but me and DH really are trying to save up for a house! and everything helps! And as much as i had the bestest best time at my wedding im starting to regret my dad's offer to give us a down payment for a house instead of the wedding!
im going to cry!!
i have such a different relationship with my parents! if it were the other way aruond i would be like yo mom, dad! where the heck is my gift! i kinda mentioned it to my DH the other day and he would never say anything to his mom...all he said was 'my mom already gave you the best gift ever...me' lol im going to try and not dwell in this anymore cuz it just makes me sooooooo angry!
im officially over it! lol well trying to be!






So my MIL has not yet given us a wedding gift!
now the wedding was paid for ENTIRELY by my parents! Minus the Photographer and Videographer which DH and I paid for...

so the day after our wedding DH and I opened all the envelopes and nothing from his mom, DH said his mom said she will give it to us later...ok fine, alot of people either gave us their envelope before or after the wedding so with all the confusion of that day didnt want it to get lost or anything..fine...
we got back from our honeymoon and on our door was a bag with two pictures frames welcoming us back and a note from his mom saying 'here is a little something before the better one'

24 days we have been married, just curious when she planned on giving us our wedding gift? not to sound greedy but umm i was told on serveral occasions 'it was coming' well where is it?

and now its time for her to pick out pictures for her album that we are paying for, meanwhile we didnt get his father an album (oh his parents are divorced by the way) because the package we got only came with two parent albums and everyone was like the fathers really dont care about having an album...so they threw in extra printed pictures to give him...but now he gave us a gift! and she didnt! so i almost feel the father should get the album!!!!!

i will prob just look like a spoiled brat when she finally does give us our gift...but i kinda would just like it before our 1 year anniversary! especially cuz my BIL is getting married Oct 2 and i was just curious if they would get their gift before us!

Not to defend your MIL, because I dont know the circumstances, but we had something similar happen to us but w/ a close set of friends of ours. They gave us an envelope but had written about how embarrassed they were about not having our gift there, but had received email from place they bought the gift 2 days before the wedding that it was on backorder. So they apologized profusely & said when it comes it we will give it to you. We come back from our honeymoon & see them at a mutual friends labor day party & she told us that the orig company she bought it from said item was still on b/o while we were on our HM - so she cancelled & bought it from another company. She then got an email from that company the next day the the item from that company was on b/o too. She cancelled order w/them & then found it on amazon.com - placed the order - got a confirmation email that it shipped, and the day before we saw them they got it in the mail - the invoice said the correct item - but the item did not match the invoice....she was so upset & embarrased when we saw them this past weekend...so as of yet we still dont have a gift from them, and have no idea what it even is. I'm not saying something this complicated could be the case w/ your MIL, but maybe something similar she ordered was out of stock & she's just waiting to receive it. I would give it a little more time before you have DH be a little nosy w/his mom.

Good luck & I hope when you do get it, it's something GREAT!

I've been married since MARCH- and still no gift from MIL, not even a card. And DH and I paid for the wedding ourselves.

When SIL got married 2 years ago, she gave her $5K for the wedding and $5K as a gift.

She has no financial problems; house is completely paid off, no credit cards, and goes shopping for crap every other weekend.

I'm not being a spoiled brat; I just find it insulting that she couldn't even give us a freakin card!!!!!!

I would be impatient too but I would try to wait a little longer before you do anything about the MIL gift. It hasn't even been a month yet...and it's a good sign that she left you guys a little gift with the note...but that being said, I wouldn't do anything about the albums until she does give it to you, just to make sure JMO!

Yeah that ***** but seems like she might have something in the works. . the pics with the note seem like maybe something bigger is coming?? maybe??

we had several family members not give including DH's brother, and two of my step brothers, and both my cousins and aunt and uncles . I know some of them but NOT ALL were having financial problems but still!!!! I would have taken a card and a token acknowledgement but NOTHING. . it kind of stinks! so I feel yA!!

We got nothing from my MIL and it's almost 8 months later. She also said she would give us money for a rehearsal dinner, p.s. because we thought it was squared away when no money came we had to have it at my parent's house. And the only gift we got from her 'fell off the back of a truck' that her ex-druggie boyfriend got.

Granted she can barely hold a job because she is a lush, but I've learned that sometimes it's better just to let it go.

I know, it's frustrating but MIL can be very difficult at times! On our wedding day, my MIL offered money for the catering but expects it to be paid back in the future. It was pretty much a loan to us. Other than DH's grandmother, who pass on family jewelry & heirlooms that was alll we received from DH's family. DH's brother, on the other hand paid half for our HM in addition to purchasing most of the gifts on our registry. I just can't believe how MIL can be harsh at times. So much for the welcoming into the family. Honestly, it's a no-win situation,so don't stress over it too much. It might cause bickering between yourself and DH. I say just let it go.
You don't have to be buddies with your MIL, just maintain a mutual relationship and
understanding.

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I'll be married 2 years in 2 weeks and didn't even receive a card from ILs. If she didn't give it to you yet, I don't think she will.

It's a shame and I was very upset, but learned toget over it and not let it affect me.

I am sorry to hear that she still hasn't given you anything. I can only imagine how hurtful that is.

Is it possible that she's waiting to give you and BIL your gifts at the same time?

I responded but I read your update. Yea, I'd be annoyed and hurt by now!! The problem is that there's not much you can do about it unless your DH is going to ask her about it...(sorry!!) I don't recommend your asking her because that will make you look bad and it's really your Dh's place to bring it up to her...did you write your TYs yet? When you do, if she hasn't given you a gift by then I would write something like 'thank you for the frame and for sharing our speical day with us' and maybe that will prompt her to give it to you!! Try, try not to let it get to you though...you can't control her actions...sometimes family really s&cks doesn't it!!

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I responded but I read your update. Yea, I'd be annoyed and hurt by now!! The problem is that there's not much you can do about it unless your DH is going to ask her about it...(sorry!!) I don't recommend your asking her because that will make you look bad and it's really your Dh's place to bring it up to her...did you write your TYs yet? When you do, if she hasn't given you a gift by then I would write something like 'thank you for the frame and for sharing our speical day with us' and maybe that will prompt her to give it to you!! Try, try not to let it get to you though...you can't control her actions...sometimes family really s&cks doesn't it!!

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im going to take your advice for the TY's!!