Should I give a gift to... (kinda long...sorry )
I babysat for a boy for about two years...from the time he was 11 months until the time he was 3. However, I was more of a mother's helper, and he always cried for his mom...so it was more like me hanging out with the kid and one-or both-of his parents. Odd situation, but very nice family.
Anyway, last November, they said that they didn't need me anymore, since it was kind of silly that there were 3 adults watching this 1 child (they used kinder words than 'silly' and I completely agreed...I was getting ready to quit because I felt bad getting paid to watch them watch their child lol)
Last Christmas, I sent him a gift. I didn't hear from them until around March, when I got a thank you card. I had sent them a save the date for the wedding back in the day, so I did invite them.
I did not get their RSVP card by the RSVP date. I assumed they were not coming, but I don't like to assume...I'd rather just know. So I emailed them and said something along the lines of hope you got the invite, sorry I have been out of touch, I'd love to keep in touch more though, let me know if you'll be able to make it. I asked how they were, etc.
They never answered my email. I just got the RSVP card about two days later...which I thought was strange, since I did try to have a conversation with them.
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I figured I would never hear from them again, but then they sent me a wedding gift, which I was shocked about.
My question after all of this: Do I send their son a Christmas gift this year? Does it sound like I'm ever going to have a relationship with this family again?
Obviously, I don't want to hurt a child by not sending a gift...but I also don't want to be awkwardly forcing a relationship on this family.
SORRY so long!
Anyway, last November, they said that they didn't need me anymore, since it was kind of silly that there were 3 adults watching this 1 child (they used kinder words than 'silly' and I completely agreed...I was getting ready to quit because I felt bad getting paid to watch them watch their child lol)
Last Christmas, I sent him a gift. I didn't hear from them until around March, when I got a thank you card. I had sent them a save the date for the wedding back in the day, so I did invite them.
I did not get their RSVP card by the RSVP date. I assumed they were not coming, but I don't like to assume...I'd rather just know. So I emailed them and said something along the lines of hope you got the invite, sorry I have been out of touch, I'd love to keep in touch more though, let me know if you'll be able to make it. I asked how they were, etc.
They never answered my email. I just got the RSVP card about two days later...which I thought was strange, since I did try to have a conversation with them.
I figured I would never hear from them again, but then they sent me a wedding gift, which I was shocked about.
My question after all of this: Do I send their son a Christmas gift this year? Does it sound like I'm ever going to have a relationship with this family again?
Obviously, I don't want to hurt a child by not sending a gift...but I also don't want to be awkwardly forcing a relationship on this family.
SORRY so long!
