Sort of a Q of the Day!

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Posted by lizzie217

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i have another question.....if you found out your DH was infertile before your wedding would you still marry him? its something i always thought about - what if one of us 'can't' have kids....what would it do to our relationship and where would we go from there.....

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Wow Nicole that is a tough one! I can imagine the strain that this situation would place on a couple.

Personally I would be devasted to know I was unable to have a child. I am pretty certain DH would be devasted to find he was sterile.

I would support DH 100% and explore our options...whether it be invitro or any one of those procedures or adoption. I would not stop until I had a baby though that is certain!

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Same here - we talked about it before and he said that even if i couldn't get pregnant he still would want to be with me b/c he thinks id be a good Mom - and i feel the same way about him - that no matter what he would be a great father....although it would break my heart if we couldn't have our own child naturally....but its something we have talked about before - just b/c you never know....

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Same here - we talked about it before and he said that even if i couldn't get pregnant he still would want to be with me b/c he thinks id be a good Mom - and i feel the same way about him - that no matter what he would be a great father....although it would break my heart if we couldn't have our own child naturally....but its something we have talked about before - just b/c you never know....

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Oh I totally think it needs to be discussed...eveyone has different needs/wants. For some people they say that if it is gods will to have a baby okay if not they will be happy just the two of them.

Personally I would NOT be happy. I would want to try alternative options if I was unable to concieve naturally..DH is FULL aware that I would not stop until I had my baby! And he totally agrees with me. It is important to know where your DH stands with regards to that....remeber Charlotte and Trey????

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i have another question.....if you found out your DH was infertile before your wedding would you still marry him? its something i always thought about - what if one of us 'can't' have kids....what would it do to our relationship and where would we go from there.....

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that's definitely something that should be discussed BEFORE the wedding. Me and DH even talked about this before getting engaged. What if one of us finds out that we can't have children? What will we do? It helps to consider it. Of course i would still marry him. It would break my heart, but that doesn't change how much I love him (he feels the same way).

DH even said that if we found out that I could have children, but HE couldn't, then I could go to a sperm bank or whatever - but I am totally against that. I feel like it has to be all or nothing. I wouldn't want to have a child that technically is ONLY mine or ONLY his. I'd rather us just adopt a baby who by blood is neither of ours, but legally and in our hearts belongs to BOTH of us. You know what I mean? So yeah, we discussed it ALL! lol.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i have another question.....if you found out your DH was infertile before your wedding would you still marry him? its something i always thought about - what if one of us 'can't' have kids....what would it do to our relationship and where would we go from there.....

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Absolutely. I love my DH for the man he is, not the sperm he can produce.

We discussed having kids VERY early in our relationship (we've been naming our unborn children for years). But if we ran into issues, and fertility treatments were not an option, we'd adopt. There's more than one way to have a family!

Since we are both elementary teachers, we both love kids...he wanted to wait till we have a house but then one night he decided he didnt want to wait any longer So a 2 bedroom apt will be fine for now (if we get pregnant) we also talked about what would happen if for whatever reason we cant have a baby but im really hoping that it wont be a problem...but if it is we will do whatever we have to so we can have a child (even if it is adoption)

and if when we first met, he told me that he didnt want to ever have children then i wouldnt be with him...bc i really want one and its important to me

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Posted by Munchkn16

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Posted by Future Mulligan

i have another question.....if you found out your DH was infertile before your wedding would you still marry him? its something i always thought about - what if one of us 'can't' have kids....what would it do to our relationship and where would we go from there.....

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Absolutely. I love my DH for the man he is, not the sperm he can produce.

We discussed having kids VERY early in our relationship (we've been naming our unborn children for years). But if we ran into issues, and fertility treatments were not an option, we'd adopt. There's more than one way to have a family!

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I feel exactly the same way. We'll probably start trying pretty soon. I don't even want to think about the 'what if's' we will deal with them if we have to. But we love each other and there is nobody else I would want to be the father of my children - whether they are naturally conceived or adopted or what.