Still almost 1 year after my wedding (OMG its for real) um it still amazes me how upset people get when no one agrees wtih them
Dont scream and tear up someone b/c they gave your their HONEST opinion when you ASKED FOR IT!!!
Also, why is it that when someone starts a thread-generally speaking-what do you think of this? the first at least 10 posters love it....then it takes that 11th poster that says 'eh its ok' and all of a sudden the posters come in droves that dont like it at all? Am I the only one that sees this?
And when you ask for help or advice dont get all bitchy and cranky when people offer up advice. Dont get bitter and ridiculous b/c you want to do it THIS way and ask for advice and people tell you to do it differently and you DONT WANNA!!! Then dont ask! If you arent willing to hear what advice people offer up then why ask? Is it intentionally to start $hit? or just b/c you want attention....
lets discuss...I need to be enlightened
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only 1 time i felt this way when i started a thread.. ill be honest.. i asked for opinions and i guess i just wasnt expecting the responses that i was getting. i am a sensitive person and i should of realized when i posted.. but i learned and decided never to start a thread like that again...lol i take everything to heart and thats my problem..
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only 1 time i felt this way when i started a thread.. ill be honest.. i asked for opinions and i guess i just wasnt expecting the responses that i was getting. i am a sensitive person and i should of realized when i posted.. but i learned and decided never to start a thread like that again...lol i take everything to heart and thats my problem..
I can take things personally too-if its a blatant attack then that is one thing....I felt like I got attacked the other night....keep quoting my post over and over and repeating yourself....fine ok, I get it!!! But its another thing when you are getting an opinion and you want people to LIE to you...oh yes your MU looks great even tho you look like Cruela Devile (I so didnt spell that right)...i dont GET IT!
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Sometimes I think its cause deep down they know they're wrong ... but they just want people to pat them on the back and tell them that what they're doing is ok ...
I don't think people like honesty ... I think they just want affirmations ...
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Sometimes I think its cause deep down they know they're wrong ... but they just want people to pat them on the back and tell them that what they're doing is ok ...
I don't think people like honesty ... I think they just want affirmations ...
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People should change the way they word the subjects of their posts:
Tell me you LOVE this ...
Tell me its GREAT if I do this ...
Tell me I'm GORGEOUS ...
Tell me this is PERFECT ...
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Posted by DeannaNDave07
only 1 time i felt this way when i started a thread.. ill be honest.. i asked for opinions and i guess i just wasnt expecting the responses that i was getting. i am a sensitive person and i should of realized when i posted.. but i learned and decided never to start a thread like that again...lol i take everything to heart and thats my problem..
I can take things personally too-if its a blatant attack then that is one thing....I felt like I got attacked the other night....keep quoting my post over and over and repeating yourself....fine ok, I get it!!! But its another thing when you are getting an opinion and you want people to LIE to you...oh yes your MU looks great even tho you look like Cruela Devile (I so didnt spell that right)...i dont GET IT!
yes i do agree with what you are saying.. it always happens ... like what you said about the first 10 people being nice , then it goes downhill from there..lol i have seen it before.. BUT, i dont like to see people get attacked for no reason.. thats just wrong... OR being mean to someone where they could have said something nicely if they didnt like it.
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Peggie I agree totally with everything you are saying. You are so right. you are right all the time. what you are saying is great. I don't get it either. Maybe they just have their heart set on something. I used to hate shopping with my mom because she would not just yes about things to make me happy. She would give me honest opinions on what she thought looked good and what was awful. Does that in anyway relate to what you are talking about
Now please supply me with a link
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i think what happens after a thread asking 'what do you think of this or do you like this?'...many ppl view it but only the ppl who have something positive to say begin to answer (maybe the whole 'if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it at all' thing kind of kicks in and weeds out the ppl who don't like it. or maybe the ppl who don't like it see that everyone else is giving positive feedback so they kinda lie and join in. well THEN someone comes upon it and is willing to be honest about their opinion, that they don't like it or hate it or aren't crazy about it. and that opens it up for all of the other ppl who agree that they don't like it but were hesitant to speak up at first and be the only one opposing. thats my understanding at least.
forums are pretty interesting.
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Peggie I agree totally with everything you are saying. You are so right. you are right all the time. what you are saying is great. I don't get it either. Maybe they just have their heart set on something. I used to hate shopping with my mom because she would not just yes about things to make me happy. She would give me honest opinions on what she thought looked good and what was awful. Does that in anyway relate to what you are talking about
Now please supply me with a link
listen woman...I KNOW I am right...I KNOW I am great...but thanks for the reassurance.
Now I am going to rock back and forth in the corner while sayig OMG over an dover again
Aug07OFCbride
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I don't think people like honesty ... I think they just want affirmations ...
and this is so true.
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i think what happens after a thread asking 'what do you think of this or do you like this?'...many ppl view it but only the ppl who have something positive to say begin to answer (maybe the whole 'if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it at all' thing kind of kicks in and weeds out the ppl who don't like it. or maybe the ppl who don't like it see that everyone else is giving positive feedback so they kinda lie and join in. well THEN someone comes upon it and is willing to be honest about their opinion, that they don't like it or hate it or aren't crazy about it. and that opens it up for all of the other ppl who agree that they don't like it but were hesitant to speak up at first and be the only one opposing. thats my understanding at least.
forums are pretty interesting.
True, never thought of the if you dont have anything nice to say...Jess you are so smart
PegaLega
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JESS! I Can not take you seriously with that avatar...everytime I see it I lose it
DeannaNDave07
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Peggie , now you got me intrigued... where is the link..lol i need excitement right now!
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i think what happens after a thread asking 'what do you think of this or do you like this?'...many ppl view it but only the ppl who have something positive to say begin to answer (maybe the whole 'if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it at all' thing kind of kicks in and weeds out the ppl who don't like it. or maybe the ppl who don't like it see that everyone else is giving positive feedback so they kinda lie and join in. well THEN someone comes upon it and is willing to be honest about their opinion, that they don't like it or hate it or aren't crazy about it. and that opens it up for all of the other ppl who agree that they don't like it but were hesitant to speak up at first and be the only one opposing. thats my understanding at least.
forums are pretty interesting.
I agree with Jess on this. As for attacking people for stating their opinions that's plain wrong. If you didn't really want peoples opinions then why post something on an open forum where people have the right to either agree or disagree with you,
I forgot to add that, I always admired your honesty and have always valued your opinions when you have responded to a post that I may have made asking for opinions. I like the way that you keep it real.
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So here is my take on it.
If someone is asking for an opinion on makeup/hair/whatever and I really don't like it - I won't respond. There is no point in making someone feel bad b/c taste is subjective.
Now go back and look at all of your posts to see if I responded or if I thought your pics were too ugly for me to even respond!
I'M KIDDING!!!! LOVE YOU!!!!
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JESS! I Can not take you seriously with that avatar...everytime I see it I lose it
haha come on peg! you love it.
you're all my special buddies!
so funny in that episode when robs talking to big afterwards but he still has all his makeup on and big is like 'i cant take you seriously with your blush on!!' or whatever. haha love it!
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I totally disagree, I think Peg is a dope.
I am officially the 11th poster.
Brian and Marie
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I say F*CK EVERYONE and their opinions!!! Everyone S*CKS @SS with cocky balls stuck to it!!
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So here is my take on it.
If someone is asking for an opinion on makeup/hair/whatever and I really don't like it - I won't respond. There is no point in making someone feel bad b/c taste is subjective.
Now go back and look at all of your posts to see if I responded or if I thought your pics were too ugly for me to even respond!
I'M KIDDING!!!! LOVE YOU!!!!
hey now I dont think you did every post I dont like you anymore EV GOOOOOOSH!
Now I do agree, if I look at someones mu, etc. and I dont like it maybe i wont respond-but if I think there is something that can be changed to make it look better-in my eyes of course-then I will offer up the option. I would rather have someone KNOW the truth then be upset later when they see the truth. Its always easier to love things when looking in the mirror...but when you see it for real hate it and not understand why everyone loved it. Im anal and OCD about alot of things-hence why i ALWAYS want an honest opinion.
