Strip clubs

we were talking about this at work. some people don't like when there boyfriends/dh goes to strip clubs. if it happened every week, i think it would be a problem. if its once in a while with the guys, i'm ok with it. i think its a trust issue. if you trust the person you're with, it shouldn't be a problem. dh said when he went to one for his bachelor party, he says its not the same from when he used to go. he appreciates what was waiting for him at home

what's your take on strip clubs

If he wants to go, I don't really care!! As long as he's coming home to me!

However, my DH spent most of his early 20's in one because one of his good friends owned the club and the other was a bouncer there. So he's seen it all...he know how it works and how the girls are. He also said it s*cks when you're there and lights go on He said it gives you a whole new perspective on it! I guess because of all his time spent there, the desire for him to go now isn't really there.

I must admit.... while I wouldn't be jealous of it at all, I'd certainly be disgusted... I consider it to be a pretty trashy environment.... not a place for either of us should be.... much like a club where there are a lot of drugs....

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Posted by portjeffbride

I must admit.... while I wouldn't be jealous of it at all, I'd certainly be disgusted... I consider it to be a pretty trashy environment.... not a place for either of us should be.... much like a club where there are a lot of drugs....

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I totally agree. I'd be pretty disappointed if he chose to go to a strip club, but not jealous or worried about him cheating, just really disappointed and disgusted in him

It really wouldn't bother me! That isn't really DH's thing so I don;t have to worry about it but if he went ot a strip club for a bachelor party or something I wouldn't mind!

I used to know a lot of girls here in the city who were strippers (and also struggling b'way dancers). Nice girls who needed the money and could make a lot this way. So, I also have a soft spot for women who have to do it because they feel like they can't do anything else.

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Posted by BunnyBride

I used to know a lot of girls here in the city who were strippers (and also struggling b'way dancers). Nice girls who needed the money and could make a lot this way. So, I also have a soft spot for women who have to do it because they feel like they can't do anything else.

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yeah, I feel for many of those girls too.... they've got it rough. I just don't respect their employers

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Posted by mandc722

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Posted by portjeffbride

I must admit.... while I wouldn't be jealous of it at all, I'd certainly be disgusted... I consider it to be a pretty trashy environment.... not a place for either of us should be.... much like a club where there are a lot of drugs....

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I totally agree. I'd be pretty disappointed if he chose to go to a strip club, but not jealous or worried about him cheating, just really disappointed and disgusted in him

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I feel the same way.

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Posted by mandc722

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Posted by portjeffbride

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I totally agree. I'd be pretty disappointed if he chose to go to a strip club, but not jealous or worried about him cheating, just really disappointed and disgusted in him

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exactly

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Posted by portjeffbride

I must admit.... while I wouldn't be jealous of it at all, I'd certainly be disgusted... I consider it to be a pretty trashy environment.... not a place for either of us should be.... much like a club where there are a lot of drugs....

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I have to say I agree with you. I trust DH more then anything I just get disgusted thinking about him being at one...thank goodness he doesnt really care for them.

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Posted by portjeffbride

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Posted by BunnyBride

I used to know a lot of girls here in the city who were strippers (and also struggling b'way dancers). Nice girls who needed the money and could make a lot this way. So, I also have a soft spot for women who have to do it because they feel like they can't do anything else.

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yeah, I feel for many of those girls too.... they've got it rough. I just don't respect their employers

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Oh, their employers can shove it up the butt and NOT in a good way!

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Posted by Happybride2005

i think its a trust issue. if you trust the person you're with, it shouldn't be a problem.

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It's not always a trust issue. Some people actually have moral or other issues with strip clubs. To say that 'if you trust your spouse, then it shouldn't be a problem' is way too broad of a statement.

It's absolutely NOT a trust issue for me. It's a respect issue. DH hates strip clubs anyway (as do I) so it will never be a problem.

Others are totally entitled to their own opinions, but it wouldn't fly with me if my DH wanted to go a strip club, nor would it fly with him if I wanted to go to one. We're just not into that AT ALL.

For my husbands BP, the guys all went to Billy Deans, he got a lap dance and I was pissed for some stupid reason .But he is super reserved and doesn't like those places anyway, nor the nastiness that works in them

ehh--doesn't bother me too much. i won't lie and say that idea of my DH getting a lap dance doesn't make me a little heated---BUT he barely ever goes. so if he said to me 'a bunch of guys are going' i'd just say 'have fun'

i've gone to male revue shows and he doesn't mind either---so we're pretty okay with it.

I have no problem if my DH were to go to a strip club. He wouldn't just b/c he doesn't like them, but if he did, I'd be totally fine with it.
It would never even occur to me that he would women at strip clubs desirable, and I wouldn't even care if he did b/c I trust him and I know that he finds me the most attractive woman in the world

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Posted by jtgarsik

this is a no-no for both of us. It has nothing to do with trust, it has to do with respect for the one ur with. Everyone has different opinions on the subject....some people don't mind and that's fine - but this is jmo. I remember a WHILE back on a 'stripclub' post, one of the girls FH's got on and made a very good point (and this was from a guys point of view!).....he said 'If u wouldn't do something with ur spouse or significant other sitting right next to you - then u shouldn't be doing it.' (which is why again, i'll say - if it doesn't bother u than that's fine!) To me, there's a lot more to being unfaithful that just physical stuff. 'adultries of the heart' if u will. Again, this is jmo! I guess if u don't mind it, then it's not 'unfaithful'....but to me personally, I think staring with lust at other women is completely disrespectful and 'unfaithful' to your spouse.

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i agree 100% -- its not a trust issue for us at all...i trust him and know he's coming home to me anyway. Its a respect thing. Its a huge no-no for both of us as well.