Am I the only one that encounters people that are BITTER about marriage??? I mean, I just got married, shouldn't people have a little more hope for my benefit???
Here's an example... Someone (anyone!) will ASK ME how marriage is going and I'll say, 'I love it,' or '...it's great' blah blah blah, and they say, 'Oh, it's because your a newlywed...it will all change' or 'Mine was great too, in the beginning but then it becomes horrible, you'll see' or 'He'll cook now, but wait--it'll go down hill before you know it...' or AAAAGGGGHHHH!!! I could go on and on... You know my husbands parents have been married for 35 years HAPPILY!!! I'm sure there are a lot more like them... Why do people just dwell on the negative... I NOW find MYSELF saying to people, 'well it's still new & I really love being married and well you never know...' I'm a realist & the product of divorced parents, but why should I put my joy on the back burner b/c of other's bitterness??? I believe in marraige! Both sets of my grandparents were married until death parted them... I've just been so bombarded w/ anti marriage comments that I feel bad about being married and happy....
AAAAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! Anyone else hearing this or is there some special sign on my head that reads, 'IF YOU HATE MARRIAGE SHARE YOUR COMMENTS WITH ONLY ME'
Thanks for giving me the space...
Ayanna--Anubride
anna
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Thank Goodness...
It IS refreshing to hear from people that have something good to say about marriage. We used to also get the comment (in the first few months) 'WOW you both look SO GREAT ! YOU ARE BOTH GLOWING ! Marriage is working well on you' or something to that effect...and we'd be like 'huh'...people just dont know what to say....
We met one couple on our honeymoon that have become our new 'mom and dad'. We totally adore them. They are 77 and 74, married over 50 years, seeing them together is so uplifting. They are fun,HAPPY, HILARIOUS (oh the stories,lol, that would take too long!), and we still keep in touch with them 15 months later. (via email, theyre in AZ) They lead a more active and exciting lifestyle than mamy people I know half their age! I think meeting them was a blessing to us.... They are so positive about love, life and everything else..... :) Thats what keeps them so strong, physically fit and content.
