THANKSGIVING AND FAMILY QUESTION............

Samanthas Mom Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:04 AM

THANKSGIVING AND FAMILY QUESTION............

just curious............... b/c it actually makes me a little sad but does anyone elses family not do the 'big' family celebrations?

for example, this year it will be my mom, dad, sis and me and craig at my moms, the rest of my moms family is in Florida

his family doesnt do much in terms of thanksgiving celebrations, twice, my parents invited them and they came but have not ever extended an invitation to my parents so my mother didnt invite them this year..................

does anyone else have these small just you and your parents and your DH and siblings kind of thing?? Is this normal? LOL
I hope I am not the only one

Next year, I plan to invite both sets of parents and siblings to my house but this type of thing seems common at holiday time so I guess this year his parents just stay there home alone? I told craig that we can go there after we eat at my moms......................

Sonicstef Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:13 AM

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It will just be my husband, my brother and I.

ChristineC68 Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:14 AM

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All together there will be 5 people at our thanksgiving table. Our family is very small and most of them live out of town so it's always like this.

Every family is different.

THere were a few times we had big T-day gatherings and they were so much fun!!!!

Niecey Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:15 AM

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Tammy - don't feel bad. This year it is only 5 for Thanksgiving too - me and Lou, my mom and dad and youngest brother. The other brother is going to his wife's family's house.

Lou and I rotate thanksgivings and it is my year. I had offered to do it for my whole family and so did an aunt but for some reason (long story) it only wound up the 5 of us and not 15+....But we pretty muhc have had them small like this for the last 5 years - once we got older and stuff things really changed. I agree it is nice to have a big group and do a family thing...but not happening this year for us either. I am fine with the 5 of us though...

Samanthas Mom Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:17 AM

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I am glad I am not the only w/ sometimes small gatherings, I was sad about it this morning. You hear all these things on tv, radio and A lot of people I know have such big family dinners.

I was thinking why doesnt either one of our familys want these?? isnt this what families do? LOL but I guess all are different

Im sure it will be a nice day but I just wish everyone could be together, it seems like neither parents seem concerned about big GTG's while me as an INDIVIDUAL seems to like the idea

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Cira Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:19 AM

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This year, actually my mom and dad and two brothers will be eating without Rob and I!

Since we rotate each year, it's Rob's family's turn.

Happy Thanksgiving to you too!

stacedz Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:23 AM

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I have a small family so I am used to this. Gary's family is pretty big (immediate) and they all get together but we seem to always do Thanksgiving with my family. I do like the large celebrations but I appreciate the quiet ones as well!

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!

Lisa Rose Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:44 AM

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We will be having 11 people for Thanksgiving dinner...that is a small one! My MIL and 2 BIL's are ALWAYS invited to join us for Thanksgiving because of 2 things....1- my MIL';s apt is tiny and so damn hot....I would die and 2-its a way for both of us to spend time with out families!!

Cindy Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:47 AM

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We dont have a big family at all. I am having Thanksgiving and it will be my mom, dad and his family. It will be 7 of us. My brother lives in florida so most holidays are small.

natasha Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:52 AM

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This year it will just be me, hubby, my brother and SIL. However, mom and dad is coming to MD on Friday for the weekend. I can't wait.

shelzyp Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:55 AM

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DH's family is like that. Holidays are his parents and his sister and niece. THye all live in the same house, and sometimes she is working on the holidays. At my family we go over my aunts house, and my other aunt and cousins come, so it is a bigger deal. I can't wait to ahve it at my house, so I cna have bothe sides over, and then it will be a full house.

TrayLu47 Posted: Nov 26, 2003 09:57 AM

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You are not alone. There are so many people I know who are having a small gathering this year.

I think the idea you mentioned where you invite everyone over to your place next year is a great one! That way both families with be there. If you like large gatherings don't be afraid to invite other distant relatives on both sides as well. Plan next year in advance so that you will give everyone enough time to plan to be by you.

I love large gathering during the holidays as well. Every year I try to have a gathering with friends and family and we eat and play games. I usually do this close to Christmas or New Years.

Have a great Thanksgiving!

nrvbrd Posted: Nov 26, 2003 10:02 AM

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I end up having to do double duty.

We start out with my family which is about 12 people, then we will go over to DH's parents house, which is just them and his 3 brothers.

I would like to do one big affair as well, but my inlaws are kind of set in their ways and I doubt they will go for it, but I will try though

Latina511 Posted: Nov 26, 2003 10:02 AM

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Samanthas Mom Posted: Nov 26, 2003 10:15 AM

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awee Kathy that is sad that they wont get along.

In my case they get along but are not close. For example.... like I said two or three times my mom invited his parents for thanksgiving or passover etc........... and they came,
However, my parents were never invited there and my dad still jokingly says he is waiting for his dinner b/c when we got engaged in 2001!! his dad said how happy they were etc.... and we have to go out to dinner w/ MY Parents to celebrate, LOL
my parents joke they are still waiting for their dinner b/c I guess his dad just forgot about it! b/c it never happened and its been how long now!

Scoop Posted: Nov 26, 2003 11:19 AM

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We have a very big family and as much as I love having everyone around....sometimes I wish we could have something small. Either way, I think we should all be thankful to be able to celebrate holidays with family.

LisaT Posted: Nov 26, 2003 11:29 AM

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we have big celebrations at my parents house, usually. Aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.

Al's family is rather small (at least the family that is in the US) so gatherings at his house are generally just the immediate family.

But we haven't been home (NY) for Thanksgiving in a few years. I keep saying this is the last Thanksgiving thats 'ours' to do what we want with, before we obliged to do the family thing.

joeslauren Posted: Nov 26, 2003 01:46 PM

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I'm with Scoop.

Suzanne Posted: Nov 26, 2003 02:09 PM

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Thanksgiving is not that big for my family.. It will only be 11 of us..

For christmas there is 32 of us...

ILT1221 Posted: Nov 26, 2003 02:13 PM

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Tammy don't feel bad. My father this year is not coming and told my mom quote: 'I'm not driving out to Long Island for a piece of turkey.' So we are having Thanksgiving without el grumpo.