The Married Lady Blues are starting...........

All of a sudden, my phone doesn't ring as much and I have no trial pics to show.
I don't have my proofs or raw footage to show off yet. I am finally getting some well needed rest and I don't even want it.

Its almost like when you have a house full of people and youre exhausted, and they leave, and youre actually sad to see them go and have a quiet house

Dont worry Liz, youllbe enjoying 'no more wedding planning' in no time!!!
Especially once the crazy ladies on here get you into scrapbooking, and gardening and every other hubby under the sun !

I am sooo glad I am done!!!1

Liz You will have proofs to pick up soon. raw fotage to view....

Thanks anna and jenn
I don't know what's wrong with me. Len is so worried, he's walking around on tip toes, not even asking me to clean the house
He keeps saying, 'It's OK honey, you'll have other weddings to plan'
I haven't even been in the mood to connect my laptop to the internet to show my HM pics

I felt the same way in the beginning. It kind of becomes a huge part of your life and then when you come home from your honeymoon there is no more appointments or running around. After a while it does pass. Our day was beautiful and I will always have those memories and the special memories with my mom with the planning.

Hang in there! It will pass!

There was a thread on this while you were away. It was called relieved or withdrawal i think.

So many experience this, for sure I wasn't one of them!

I am so glad to have my life back, freedom to do what I want, no more running everywhere, no more saving for a deadline..

Thanks Cindy. I will be optimistic and believe this feeling will pass.
I really LOVE having a husband. Last night we cuddled on the couch and it was a nice feeling knowing we are finally building a home and future as partners together

jenn, I thought I would feel JUST like you, but not yet. I still want to be the BRIDE.........
I want to wear my Wedding Gown again.
Maybe I'll put it on tonight before I hand it in to be preserved this week.

Liz
dont worry just give advice on BHB or become a PT wedding planner

Liz awww!
I DID put my dress on again before I brought mine to be preserved! How funny!!

Exactly Liz! I felt this way too and don't forget my wedding was in January, where nothing but miserable weather was going on and it was very lonely But now the weather's nice out Finally and thanx to LIW, during those post wedding months, I was able to share my experiences and 'relive' my wedding vicariously through the BHB boards! And don't forget that you helped me do that with all of our 'bustle' talk! Cheer up sweetie!

WOOHOO then I WILL wear it again tonight

And Len could carry me over the threshold since we FORGOT the first time

Tammy , funny Len said the SAME thing about becoming a PT Wedding Planner

Liz I think the 'Blues' are normal. Before you know it you will have a million thigs to do. Just wait till your proofs come in and you have to scan all those PeekShures

Thanks Heather, I can't wait for them.

laura, I'm so glad I was able to help you too

I felt the same way...
Now I am happy to be without all that stress, running around, and worrying about money. I am helping to plan my sister's wedding so I get my withdrawal cured with that. I am sure you with fell better soon.

I agree with Neva. You will get over this.

Have you started teh thank yous?

wait till you get a house
then youll be living in home depot and always cleaning

Liz....life will start to take shape soon. Just think about all the crap that drove you up a wall during planning and it will make you feel better. It does for me! One thought of arguing with my MIL over what when why who made me realize how happy I am this crap is done.

And you know, coming on here has helped too.

Tammy, we live at home depot and target...and we only have an apt. I can't imagine what the house will be like!

Sorry you feel that way Liz!!! At first I felt a HUGE sense of relief! Yay!! No more constant thinking about payments or appointments! My schedule was freed up to get some rest, and get back to things I put aside during the planning. But now that I'm home for about a week, I'm feeling a little let down.

(I started the thread called 'Relieved or Withdrawal?' and there are a lot of good responses there for you to read.)

I think part of the reason I'm feeling a little blue is the fact that it rained on my wedding day and I didn't have a backup place for pictures, and I'm upset that they had to be taken in a blah-looking studio. Seeing Jennbaby's pictures at Planting Fields, really killed me! They were GORGEOUS! and I knew my pictures in front of a beige backdrop will not even come close to what they could have been at Planting Fields. I can NEVER get that day back to do it again and I'm angry at myself for not having a backup plan. I was just being optimistic that I'd have good weather. Now I see it as being foolish. I was anal about every little detail. I can't believe I let something so important slide.

Also, due to complicated circumstances, my new DH and I are living 64 miles apart right now! I might not be moving in with him until sometime in July if I'm lucky. So sometimes it feels like I'm really not married at all, and it was all just a dream or something. I came home and he stayed a few days, and then he went back home and it feels as if we aren't married at all!!!

Also the idea that I will never be the BRIDE again, or wear my beautiful dress, or go for my first fitting again is a little sad. Mostly, though, it's the fact that I'm not with my DH that's making me blue. And the pix. Maybe when I see the proofs I will feel better....

Anyway, I'm trying to stay focused on the positive and happy things! I'm looking forward to moving in with DH and looking for a house together after that. Looking forward to the proofs and the video and all that fun stuff!!!!

We're going to have video-viewing parties!! One with my parents & family here in Suffolk, and then one with his family in the Bronx! We're going to make snacks, pigs in a blanket, drinks, and have a get together to watch the video. Should be fun!! See, there's always going to be SOMETHING to plan!!!!



Karen