For Newlyweds Only - The night before the wedding

nrvbrd Posted: Jul 14, 2003 10:59 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 10:59 AM

The night before the wedding

I have heard that some couples got into an argument. Were you one of them? How was it resolved?

Do you suggest not having any contact with FH the night before the wedding?

I know, bizarre question, I am not wishing this on me (knock on wood) just curious.

ChristineC68 Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:01 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:01 AM

Re: The night before the wedding

In all honesty, because emotions and stress levels were pretty high that week we were a little more short tempered then usual but at no point did I think I don't want to be around you.

What-Now Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:03 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:03 AM

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I left our appartment at 6 pm the night before the wedding and didn't talk with or see FH before the wedding the next day! But that was more tradition rather than a way to avoid arguments!

I spent the night at my parents house and hung out the my family all evening before that! it was really nice, kind of a tribut to my singlehood and a chance too be with my family one last time as 'their little girl'!

KarenK122 Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:04 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:04 AM

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We didn't get into an arguement but Tom was a bit short tempered the day before and was running around the house yelling about everything (normally he's a mild mannered guy). So I basically figured out it was nerves and just stayed out of the way lol.

Meg9-20-02 Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:21 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:21 AM

Re: The night before the wedding

We did not have an argument. DH stayed at his mom's the night before the wedding but we spoke on the phone and we were fine -
We did, however, have plenty of arguments the few weeks before the wedding but by the day before, we were pretty calm.

Niecey Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:24 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:24 AM

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We did - I just posted about it on the other thread on this board. Ours wasn't because tensions were running high - to tell you the truth I was excited and not nervous at all. It was are usual fight we have - caused by family members and his reaction to his family members when they cause an issue. To tell you the truth for me it was horrible and I harbor bitter feelings to the family member who caused this (not sure how obvious it is but we had a lot of issues).

How was it resolved - we fought for about an hour - screaming and yelling and crying (I am not afraid to admit - we do fight!!) and he left to go to his parents home as planned and things were not resolved. I guess on his way home he started to realize my point or whatever and when he got home he met the problem there and tried to rectify it. Of course he always misses the points I had, and started a worse fight with his family but at least he stood up to the problem at his family's house. He called later to tell me what he had done - but was still concerned about things he should not have been because of family pressures and I felt was still rude to me about. We hung up with an uneasy feeling and I was like is this what I am marryiing into a lifetime of. I guess we just woke up the next day and got married and forgot about it for the day and had a wonderful time.

I still am very upset that the night before my wedding day was totally ruined! I spent the whole night icing down my eyes and trying to reduce swelling.

For me, it was a fight not just because it was our wedding night - it is our constant battle - so I can't say don't see your FI the night before the wedding. Our fight could and does happen at random times! LOL

ILT1221 Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:56 AM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 11:56 AM

Re: The night before the wedding

I can honestly say we fought b/c I turned into bridezilla three days before the wedding. I have never been so stressed out! My emotions and tensions were running really high and suddenly I started acting like the he couldn't possibly understand the stress I was under (meanwhile he is under stress too). Once the wedding day came we were more in love than ever and he still likes to tease me about my 'bad' attitude

HeatherandNick Posted: Jul 14, 2003 12:12 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 12:12 PM

Re: The night before the wedding

no arguments here! We did sleep apart but that was for tradition!

kmcwed Posted: Jul 14, 2003 12:34 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 12:34 PM

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We didn't argue or have any problems at all.

But I cried like a baby that night in bed. Don't know why.... Maybe just stress. That fact that it was pouring rain when I went to bed didn't help. I was so upset and worried about the weather.

wacky Posted: Jul 14, 2003 12:48 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 12:48 PM

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WE DIDNT FIGHT, WE ACTUALLY HAD DINNER AND DRINKS WITH BP AND THEN SAID OUR GOOD NIGHTS.

I STAYED AT MY MOMS HOUSE NIGHT BEFORE.

I CANT SEE WHY YOU WOULD FIGHT?

kelly6273 Posted: Jul 14, 2003 01:08 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 01:08 PM

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I wanted him to stay home with me (we lived together before the wedding). He was the one who didn't think we should see each other on the day of the wedding or the night before . I kept calling him the night before to ask him stuff and his friends wouldn't let me talk to him because he didn't think we should speak either...

MEN??? He ended up staying out till 4 in the morning!

jennbaby Posted: Jul 14, 2003 01:09 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 01:09 PM

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We didn't fight, we were actually happier than ever!

ssdare Posted: Jul 14, 2003 02:06 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 02:06 PM

Re: The night before the wedding

We were arguing a lot for the 1-2 months prior to our wedding regarding wedding planning things. The week of the wedding was extremely stressful as we had so much last minute things to take care of so I'm sure we were both short-tempered with each other. On the day off we did have a small argument on something that was already an issue before. But when we went to the Rehearsal Dinner that evening we just let any arguments/ disagreement fall to the wayside and enjoyed the evening. After that, we spent the night apart for tradition sake.

I don't think you need to worry about a 'potential' conflict the night before. If you want to stay apart the night before do it for tradition and not because you fear an argument that may or may not happen.

Good luck.

Diane Posted: Jul 14, 2003 02:14 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 02:14 PM

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We didnt argue the day before the wedding. We didnt even see each other. We had our RD the week before.

IrishTracy Posted: Jul 14, 2003 04:08 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 04:08 PM

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He & his family were at our apartment until 9:00pm then his family went to the car while we said our good-byes. Our son got so upset to see him leave so then the 3 of us were bawlling. We were like I know it just one night but we didn't want to say goodbye. I stayed home w/ our son who kissed me on my forhead to try to stop me from crying.(He's to sweet) So I sat around by myself (a friend was supposed to stay over but had to finish the programs.) I needed to be by myself. The realization that I was getting married & my parents weren't alive to see it hit me. So I was glad I was pretty much alone.
My friend ended up calling me & we both drank wine & talked on the phone for an hour.

MaryK Posted: Jul 14, 2003 06:50 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 06:50 PM

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Believe it or not he had his BACHELOR PARTY the night before the wedding! I was FREAKING OUT, but I had so many people there making sure that he drank 2 glasses of water for every alcoholic beverage! And I made him bring his two sons since they were groomsmen! LOL!

We spoke before he left and then again when he came home (I stayed at my parents and my dad went to the party so I knew) and he was fine and had a good time, and THAT was what I was most worried about!!

yabbobay Posted: Jul 14, 2003 07:21 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 07:21 PM

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He dropped me off at my moms house the day before the wedding...and on the way his SIL calls his cell phone askign him to bring the FG dress (for her daughter)...I freaked out, b/c Ibrought the dress over the day before and she has a slight drinking problem and I thought she lost it...DH wouldn't tell me anything (like if they had found it) and I continued to get more and more upset...then when he got off the phone all hell broke loose...and I never ever scream...DH says this is the only time he heard me scream!!...we were still fighting until 2 blocks from my mom and realized it was tension...

Teri Posted: Jul 14, 2003 09:21 PM+

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Posted: Jul 14, 2003 09:21 PM

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I can see it happening with everyone's emotions all over the place! We didn't fight though - and we stayed together at our place. We ran around that day and basically chilled out that evening. I wanted to get my beauty sleep

tracyann74 Posted: Jul 15, 2003 09:23 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2003 09:23 AM

Re: The night before the wedding

The night before our wedding we had a small party at the house we rented and were having the wedding at in the Hamptons. Anyone who was staying in the Hamptons for the weekend was invited over that Friday night for dinner/drinks and to chill out before the big day. DH and I went to pick up the food from the catering place to bring it back for our guests around 6PM. While we were out we had to stop at the supermarket and used my Mom's old car. Well, when we went to get back into the car it wouldn't open and the alarm kept going off!! There we were in the middle of Southampton with all the hamptonites looking at us like we're nuts dancing in the parking lot to a car alarm! It was crazy, but that happening sort of broke all the stress and you really realize that you can't control things that are really out of your control!!! Anyway, my brother had to drive my mom to the supermarket to help us get the car to behave. We went home with the food and had a great night with our family and friends before the big day.....

jbella13 Posted: Jul 16, 2003 12:06 PM+

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Posted: Jul 16, 2003 12:06 PM

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We got married on a friday, so Thursday night we did what we always do. we went and hung out with our friends and relaxed, had a few drinks and I left with one of my friends and slept at my parents. I did talk to him the day of, because he called me. HE sounded alittle nervous so I just talked for a couple of minutes. I think that because we did what we always did on thursday that it helped us all relax including our friends who were in the BP. they were more nervous them we were.