TY Question - What to write to the non-gifters?

Original post by eogara

May 10, 2005 09:32 AM

We have probably 10 people/couples that we didn't get anything from (not even a freaking CARD ) for the wedding. What do we say in their TY's?

girlygrl33 Posted: May 10, 2005 12:47 PM

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Posted by kel2004

Posted by SeptWed

I always have believed that TY cards are to thank people for a gift and not for coming to a wedding. Personally i feel my TY to come to my wedding was the free food, drink, favor and music the person enjoyed.

I agree.

I agree!!!! Why would I thank them again with a thank you for just coming to my wedding? I thanked them by giving them a night out with food and drinks! Oh and hell 7 favors to take home!!! Yes 7- 2 favors( monogramed black and white cookie and personalized small cake box filled with pink almonds and lindt chocolate, the personalized water bottles, slippers, personalized cigars I could go on!.And a verbal hello and thank you as well by going around. I feel the TY's are for those that gave gifts.

nferrandi Posted: May 10, 2005 02:03 PM

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I only had one person not give a gift and I did NOT send hr a TY. This is also the same girl who got mad at me when she found out she wasn't in my BP. Um, since she thought we were so close it was so considerate to not give us a gift.

Stacey04 Posted: May 10, 2005 02:31 PM

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Posted by june262004

Posted by randella

Wait a minute- you send a TY to people who did not get a gift?? That makes no sense.. what do you do when they eventually do send a gift-- people do have a year-- and some are not that on the ball.

BECAUSE THEY CAME TO YOUR WEDDING. You didn't get married to get gifts!!!!

Just write thank for sharing in our special day. Thats what I did.

I agree. I sent thank yous to people who came to the church but weren't invited to the reception.

brideinapril Posted: May 10, 2005 02:37 PM

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Posted by palebride

I sent thank yous to everyone who attended the wedding - gift or not.
if someone sends you a gift after the wedding....you can always send them another thank you card.....stamps aren't that expensive!

Ditto, and IMO you are thanking them for sharing in your day, not for bringing you a gift.

btrflygrl Posted: May 10, 2005 02:45 PM

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WE did Thank YOu for sharing this special day with us.

eogara Posted: May 10, 2005 02:45 PM

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I'm definitely sending a TY because I can't imagine not doing so. I'm just going to do these 10 the absolute last just to see if something comes in the mail and, if not, I'll do what some suggested - 'Thank you for coming to share our day with us. Hope you enjoyed yourselves as much as we did.'

girlygrl33 Posted: May 10, 2005 03:18 PM

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We only had 1 guest do this, and only b/c its DH cousin we will send one anyway, but if it was distant I would wait.

wood2be Posted: May 10, 2005 04:00 PM

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Posted by june262004

Just write thank for sharing in our special day. That's what I did.

That's what I did. Besides being thankful that they came to my wedding, I was afraid that some of the cards might have gotten lost. I would be really embarrassed if the people did leave a card and I never acknowledged it.

JLP Posted: May 11, 2005 12:46 PM

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I have no intention of sending TY's to people who did not give a gift.

Sorry... I'm with Randella, all the way.

AJsMommy122 Posted: May 11, 2005 02:07 PM

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Wow I guess I got lucky!!!! We didnt have ANY no gifters!

jozieb0925 Posted: May 11, 2005 02:55 PM

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The one person who didn't give a gift..gave me a gift several months later..so, that is when I sent her a thank you. Otherwise, I wouldn't have sent one..

kim Posted: May 11, 2005 05:21 PM

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Posted by nov04LIbride

I said, 'Thank you for sharing our day with us. I hope you enjoyed yourself.'

'i hope you enjoyed yourself'

MissMelissa Posted: May 11, 2005 06:43 PM

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i guess i'm a biotch b/c the people who gave us nothing got no thank you!

chmpgnrose Posted: May 12, 2005 01:07 PM

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'Thank you for sharing our special day. It was great to see you.'

hmm8191 Posted: May 12, 2005 06:05 PM

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Screw them! No card or gift no card of effort on my part. If they couldn't take the time to write dear Mr & Mrs ___
Love Jim on a card then why the heck do I?

butterfly20 Posted: May 12, 2005 08:30 PM

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pretty much everyone gave us gifts....... one bridesmaid gave no gift(after receiving from me bp gifts including the dress and other gifts & the rehersal dinner his parents paid for )... her parents gave a gift so i just sent a thankyou to to the parents....... imo... id say they dont need a thank you now, if they send a gift later on then send out the thank you.... you've already thanked them for attending the wedding by including them in the reception dinner and dancing you paid for...