wedding gift amount question...perhaps tacky...

sophisticat13 Posted: Sep 07, 2008 11:28 PM

wedding gift amount question...perhaps tacky...

I don't know if there is a tactful way to ask this but...if you ladies don't mind me asking, what is the smallest (least amount) gift you received at your wedding? Sorry!!!! I'm asking because please don't get me wrong, I am very grateful for, and I love all of our friends and family who came to our wedding and for the gifts they gave us. I'm just wondering if the gift we got from a couple of friends was in line with the average wedding gift, because it seemed so...well...dare I say cheap??? Especially compared to what I gave them when they got married....thanks ladies

PegaLega Posted: Sep 07, 2008 11:29 PM

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$0 and no card
But in actual gift amount $25

Our gift amounts were all about the same

$100....$150....$200, $300 and up

Butterfly123 Posted: Sep 07, 2008 11:32 PM

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UH OH THE DREADED WEDDING GIFT QUESTION!

PreshusSmurf Posted: Sep 07, 2008 11:39 PM

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here we go again

but to answer your question ... same as peg.

$0
no card.

MJDoc12 Posted: Sep 07, 2008 11:48 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

here we go again

but to answer your question ... same as peg.

$0
no card.

i was thinking the same thing.

haha for me it was the same

amount in a card was $60 i think.

PattyK Posted: Sep 07, 2008 11:55 PM

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Posted by PegaLega

$0 and no card
But in actual gift amount $25

Our gift amounts were all about the same

$100....$150....$200, $300 and up

Same as Peg, $0 no card.

MsPotterhead Posted: Sep 08, 2008 12:06 AM

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I had a couple of people give nada.

One couple gave us a crockpot. it was on our registry. We expected it as a shower gift, but no -- it was a wedding gift from a couple. It cost $40. It actually upset me more than someone giving nothing -- I'm still hoping to receive a card from the people who didn't give anything. I keep hoping that they made a mistake, and forgot to bring it. I'm hoping that's the case not out of greediness, but just because I can't believe they would come to our wedding without even a card. The crockpot couple are good friends of DH, and are not in any sort of financial stress. They are actually well-off. Its so weird!

Aug07OFCbride Posted: Sep 08, 2008 12:15 AM

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same- 0$ and no card.

i don't think there's an 'avg' really...totally depends on the people and their situation. so i wouldnt really compare. and also, unfort not every couple will be able to reciprocate what you were able to do for them.

bluegreen08 Posted: Sep 08, 2008 12:18 AM

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$0 no card. I think the smallest gift from a NYer was $50? (from a friend of mine in his 20s).

Our OOTers had to spend lots of $$$ on flight/hotel but we got a LOT of gifts that aren't really on par with what NYers give ($25 registry item, $100 gift card to Macy's for a family of 5, $50 gift card to Macy's for a family of 2, $30 registry item, etc)

Mrs. Bernabe Posted: Sep 08, 2008 01:06 AM

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I got $0 and no card from a few people (Including the best man my DH brother-he is extremely upset at this! and his sister!-I wonder if it is a message..oh well). One of them just invited himself a few days before the wedding and I did not know on how to tell him that he was not invited so we paid for his seat $120! Then I got a $25 gift card from Macy from another couple. Then the gifts were $100, $150, $200 $250 $300 $500 and $1,000(from the other sis of my DH). We were able to make half of what we spent in the reception thanks to those who did give monetary gifts. I mean I know it's not only about money but you would think that the people who you care for and would plan on saving to help them in their new lives would do the same, but I guess some people are just ignorant or are freeloaders.

Cpt2007 Posted: Sep 08, 2008 01:09 AM

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$0 no card. Also had a family of 3 no show with no call, email, card, or gift.

roan126 Posted: Sep 08, 2008 06:47 AM

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Actually, as of last week, everyone who attended the wedding has officially given a gift.

But the smallest was prob. $75 worth of stuff from our registry from one couple.

michey1217 Posted: Sep 08, 2008 07:04 AM

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$0, no card (but we understand the circumstances),

Lowest was $50 for 3 people!

MsPotterhead Posted: Sep 08, 2008 07:34 AM

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I just heard that 'people have 1 year from the wedding to give a wedding gift' Apparently Oprah said that once. I never heard of that before -- has anyone else?

TommysWife08 Posted: Sep 08, 2008 08:19 AM

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we actually got a $100 bond.... i dont even know what to do with it considering it wont actually be worth anything for like 10 years hahaa

i think we may just deposit it and give it to our future child

other than that, lowest amount was $50

ChipNdipLover Posted: Sep 08, 2008 08:20 AM

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Posted by PegaLega

$0 and no card
But in actual gift amount $25

Our gift amounts were all about the same

$100....$150....$200, $300 and up

exactly the same

roan126 Posted: Sep 08, 2008 08:25 AM

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Posted by MsPotterhead

I just heard that 'people have 1 year from the wedding to give a wedding gift' Apparently Oprah said that once. I never heard of that before -- has anyone else?

I heard that on an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm...I'd never heard it before that

Snick n Nick Posted: Sep 08, 2008 09:40 AM

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Posted by roan126

Posted by MsPotterhead

I just heard that 'people have 1 year from the wedding to give a wedding gift' Apparently Oprah said that once. I never heard of that before -- has anyone else?

I heard that on an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm...I'd never heard it before that

Yep that's true....we have continued to get gifts, as recently as 2 weeks ago. Our smallest was also $0 no card, smallest after that was probably stuff from the registry, or $50...