What 'bride's advice' did you find untrue for your wedding?

I found a lot of good tips here & there are things that most brides say, but I noticed I didn't feel that same way.
For example.

#1--Most people say you never get to eat, you have to force your self to eat, etc.
Not for us. We ate everything. Even at the CH that was a little hard, but the maitre'd was always asking me what he could bring me.


#2--People say that you have to work to stay with your husband during the reception.
This wasn't too muchof a problem, we separated as we naturally would at a party, but wekept meetig back up to eat ( se above ) then we go around together for a while, then get seperated, it was a good mix.

3#- People say that there is never enough time for pictures. We had plenty of time. We walked around for a while after pic, then the photogrpahers came & followed us a little, then we went to the bridal suite about a half hour before the CH.
We did miss a couple of things we wanted, but that was just people not being in the right place at the right time.

Things that were SO true:

#1-It went SO fast.

#2-It was a blur--I remember a lot , but just today it occured to me that I don't remember if we used out cake server or not.

#3-Little things don't matter.
It was just so great to have everyone we love
all there celebrating with us.

Anyone else?

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That people said we would be separate the entire night. We stayed together the entire time. It was the natural thing to do. We wanted to spend the night together! And people wanted to talk to us both!

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We definitely were together for the majority of the night. We danced more than I expected we would--I love to dance and DH not so much.

Pictures definitely took less time than I expected--we made it to part of our cocktail hour.

I'm trying to think of advice that I was given that proved untrue in my case...I really can't think of anything right now. I know that I made an effort to make sure that the photos didn't take as long and that we did get to eat because I had heard from so many other brides that you wouldn't get the opportunity.

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People told me not to worry about the shoes b/c no one ever sees them. Well, they are in a lot of my photos and I know a lot of people saw them b/c people commented on them. So that wasnt true for me.

A lot of people told me not to worry about the details b/c people dont appreciate them...but again, that wasnt true. From invites to favors to the other small touches..i think a lot more people than you think notice those things.

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Posted by Sonicstef

People told me not to worry about the shoes b/c no one ever sees them. Well, they are in a lot of my photos and I know a lot of people saw them b/c people commented on them. So that wasnt true for me.

A lot of people told me not to worry about the details b/c people dont appreciate them...but again, that wasnt true. From invites to favors to the other small touches..i think a lot more people than you think notice those things.

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Just ask bellepoque-- shoes matter

As for details--that's very true!

People notice everything--even the one upside down program that accidently got in the basket!
and good things too-- like the leaves in vases I had them put out.
Of course that was a recent bride that comented on that!


Another one is that you will be too busy to handle any arrangments, but that wasn't true. I personally spoke to the band to make sure they knew our song & checked with the wait staff abotu the vegetarian meals & thr mairte d about the favors & DH & I paid/tipped all the vendors ourselves (mom held on to the tip envelopes though.)

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Shoes did really matter to me

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Posted by bellepoque

Shoes did really matter to me

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I love that you wore red shoes, so awesome!

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Posted by tourist

I found a lot of good tips here & there are things that most brides say, but I noticed I didn't feel that same way.
For example.

#1--Most people say you never get to eat, you have to force your self to eat, etc.
Not for us. We ate everything. Even at the CH that was a little hard, but the maitre'd was always asking me what he could bring me.


#2--People say that you have to work to stay with your husband during the reception.
This wasn't too muchof a problem, we separated as we naturally would at a party, but wekept meetig back up to eat ( se above ) then we go around together for a while, then get seperated, it was a good mix.

3#- People say that there is never enough time for pictures. We had plenty of time. We walked around for a while after pic, then the photogrpahers came & followed us a little, then we went to the bridal suite about a half hour before the CH.
We did miss a couple of things we wanted, but that was just people not being in the right place at the right time.

Things that were SO true:

#1-It went SO fast.

#2-It was a blur--I remember a lot , but just today it occured to me that I don't remember if we used out cake server or not.

#3-Little things don't matter.
It was just so great to have everyone we love
all there celebrating with us.

Anyone else?

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I agree with u exactly!! I felt the same way!!!

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1) Shoes do matter!!

Bellepoque -- I love that you wore red shoes -- what a great photo. I was debating b/t silver and a baby blue ( for the something blue) but I love the red idea. I ended up wearing silver and people noticed.

2) People do notice the details!

3) The day is a blur -- I remember the day clearly -- I was laughing and smiling all day.

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For me the thing that wasn't true was that it was all a blur.... for me it really wasn't. I remember so many little details... I remember most of it and it really doesn't feel like a blur -- and I'm thankful for that!

I think also as far as the not enough time for pictures thing -- it depends on the size of your BP and the size of the families... both big for us so in our case the picture thing was true...

Some people say that you will be uncomfortable if you don't have a comfortable pair of shoes to change into... it wasn't true for me and I was in 3.5 inch heels.

It wasn't difficult for us to stay together either.

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Something no one said to me, but now I've said to two brides to be, is to just have fun! The day of the wedding I was singing, laughing and dancing around the bridal suite. I felt so relaxed. Prior to the wedding day, everyone was like your going to be crazy and so nervous! But I wasn't.

Yes its true people will see your shoes. So have fun picking out your shoes (people who attended the wedding are still talking about the shoes).

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One thing that never happened to me was that I never got so nervous or too busy to eat during the weeks beforehand. So many people said 'Oh the pounds just fall off at the end, you are too busy and you forget to eat.' I never forget to eat, and I didn't forget once!

I agree - the day was not a blur for me at all (except the end of the night, after several glasses of champagne)

The reception did not 'fly by' like everyone says. It felt just right to me. I didn't think the day went by 'so fast'

I had no problem talking to everyone, dancing every dance, and eating everything. Maybe that's because we only had about 135 guests.

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I never forget to eat

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Hahha...never happened to me either.

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Posted by tourist

I found a lot of good tips here & there are things that most brides say, but I noticed I didn't feel that same way.
For example.

#2--People say that you have to work to stay with your husband during the reception.
This wasn't too muchof a problem, we separated as we naturally would at a party, but wekept meetig back up to eat ( se above ) then we go around together for a while, then get seperated, it was a good mix.

3#- People say that there is never enough time for pictures. We had plenty of time. We walked around for a while after pic, then the photogrpahers came & followed us a little, then we went to the bridal suite about a half hour before the CH.
We did miss a couple of things we wanted, but that was just people not being in the right place at the right time.

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It's funny because these things were true for me! It felt like there was a line of people waiting to talk to me or dance with me all at once so I was separated from DH a bit. On our video you hear me say again and again 'where's my husband?' and then he magically appears.

I was running an hour late so we didn't have enough time for pictures! There were a bunch of pictures we didn't get, and I had to remind my photographer to get my family shot - and that was in the middle of the reception.

And I didn't eat much, but I didn't forget about it either. My MOH was literally feeding me my appetizer to make sure of that!

It did go by REALLY fast though, although it's not so much a blur right now, it was in the weeks immediately after the wedding.

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Posted by bellepoque

Something no one said to me, but now I've said to two brides to be, is to just have fun! The day of the wedding I was singing, laughing and dancing around the bridal suite. I felt so relaxed. Prior to the wedding day, everyone was like your going to be crazy and so nervous! But I wasn't.

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I was tap dancing in thw parish hall while I was waiting to enter ( really SHINY floor!)


Only nervous when I had to saw the vows, just a public speaking thing!

And yeah, I didn't loose weight or forget to eat the last few weeks before either!

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I definitley ate at my wedding and EVERYONE said I wouldn't. Like Tourist, DH and I weren't attached at the hip, but after a little while we always met back up. People also told me, though I think it was kind of specific to me, that I would be a nervous wreck all day, but I was fine. I had moments when the nerves kicked in, like right before I saw DH for the first time and right before we walked down the aisle, but other than that I was cool as a cucumber. Nothing bothered me, I had a great time and danced all night.

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I agree with what alot of people said but I think some of those things are at least partially affected by how large or intimate your wedding and hall are. Our wedding was not large at all (about 130 people) but the Carlyle is soooo big with so many rooms that I couldn't keep track of where anyone was, especially my husband! Hahaha! Where a smaller, more intimate hall/setting would have allowed for my husband to hear my 'where is my husband' calls. Plus I could have spotted him in the crowd. Also, bigger wedding = more people to talk to.
I think the large setting also slowed down our pictures - my BP was like nomads, they could NOT sit still, and when someone left the room to go to the bathroom it took 20 minutes to get them back. Annoying then but funny now.

I made sure I ate b/c I refused to let that wonderful food go to waste but hubby didn't touch a thing. We wrapped up dinner and ate it the next day.

And shoes do matter! Thank godness I liked mine b/c they were in so many pictures. Cute idea with the red! Wish I had thought of it ; )

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Posted by LauraPete

I agree with what alot of people said but I think some of those things are at least partially affected by how large or intimate your wedding and hall are. Our wedding was not large at all (about 130 people) but the Carlyle is soooo big with so many rooms that I couldn't keep track of where anyone was, especially my husband! Hahaha! Where a smaller, more intimate hall/setting would have allowed for my husband to hear my 'where is my husband' calls. Plus I could have spotted him in the crowd. Also, bigger wedding = more people to talk to.
I think the large setting also slowed down our pictures - my BP was like nomads, they could NOT sit still, and when someone left the room to go to the bathroom it took 20 minutes to get them back. Annoying then but funny now.

I made sure I ate b/c I refused to let that wonderful food go to waste but hubby didn't touch a thing. We wrapped up dinner and ate it the next day.

And shoes do matter! Thank godness I liked mine b/c they were in so many pictures. Cute idea with the red! Wish I had thought of it ; )

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that's very true.
I had a small wedding, about 85 people & the carriage hosue is jsut the one room & the patio. so, it was eaier to keep track of DH & the photogrpaher, but I still kept loosing my Dad!
Soemone had to go get him because I wouldn't start the first dance untill he was there.
And we lsot Dh's 12 & 13 year old couisn's when we wnated to take a group picture, becaseu they wer eexplorign the grounds, but the room it self is small enough to to cotnain everyone.
And the small BP probably helped keep picture time short. That, and only taking them at the hall which is less than 10 minutes from the church.

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well, I would say that only real 'bride' advice that I received was from my MOH. She would constantly tell me that the comfort of my guests should be my #1 priority. But, to her, that ended up equated to me PAYING for MORE add ons...

In the end, the people who really cared about me and my husband didn't even notice that there weren't any OOT guest baskets at the hotel...

and, everyone who 'needed' to ride in a limo ended up getting motion sickness from the ride...(we drove from the church to the hall in our own car) but our bridal party mostly started to kick and scream when we weren't going to pay for limos. My mom felt bad and took care of the majority of the cost for the limo, and- like I said- everyone who rode in the limo got sick...