what compromised did you make for your wedding?

i would have to say i was lucky with my dh because he pretty much let me run the show although i did compromised on the hall after my first choice was booked. i also compromised on having my sisters in the wedding party i did it for my mother she would have been upset.

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I really wanted to have picture of both our parents on their wedding day and a little collage thing I made displayed by the wedding cake. For several reasons hubby just didnt like the idea so I let it go, everything else was just what I wanted!

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I had a real wedding..that was my comprmise..I would have been VERY happy getting married in Vegas..Dh wanted the wedding..but Im VERY happy with how it all turned out!!!

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I did not spend as much as many of the girls today do and that is the reason i believe that we are able to buy a house only (almost a year) after the wedding. I look back and wish that I had a beautiful wedding picture package, a better hall..better this, that....but we agreed to sacrifice some things so that we could afford other things and not be paying for the wedding for years.

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The size of the bridal party for sure. I just wanted my sisters and SIL (5), he had to have all of his 'best' friends (8). We don't even hardly talk to them anymore

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-It was in NY
-There were many people
-The bridal Party was HUGE
-It was in January

'MY' wedding would have been in Vegas (at te Bellagio Hotel) with only our closest friends & family there & it would have been on our dating anniversay (June 18th).

BUT... I wouldn't change a thing

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Getting married on Good Friday (in order to take our honeymoon right away and afford flowerfield)
Not having a church wedding, (which now I couldnt be happier about)
That's really it.

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i dont' think i made any......except that i couldn't invite Johnny Depp.....

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Originally, I wanted a less traditional wedding. I wanted to do a weekend wedding in an unusual location like Salem on Halloween but my husband pretty much vetoed that immediately. So my second choice was a traditional wedding in New York. There were a few other things I compromised on but it was mostly what I had envisioned.

I think everyone makes certain compromies about $$. (I mean, you could easily have a $1M wedding without blinking now a days) We paid for our wedding 100% by ourselves so while our wedding cost plenty, we spent our money with a great deal of forethough and it was money well spent for us.

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I don't think we made any compromises either. Our wedding was us, and what we wanted. We didn't go overboard and we were able to pay for the wedding up front.

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We tried to blend a traditional English wedding with a traditional Long Island wedding--not easy!! We had an English hymn during the ceremony. We had dinner up front without any dancing between courses. We didnt' do the garter thing. I actually didn't care very much about any of these things...I was happy to do whatever. My parents on the other hand, were very uncomfortable with some stuff and I was stuck in the middle, it was horrible!! But it worked out okay in the end and I wouldn't have changed a thing!

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I compromised on getting married in the Catholic Church as opposed to my church which is Lutheran and I compromised on getting a Croatian band in addition to our American band.

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My biggest compromise had to be how long our engagement was. I always said I wanted to have a short engagement - less than a year and wound up having a little over a year and a half. This was due to timing with my brother's wedding (he got engaged 1st but had a very long enagement so we overlapped. So I waited two months after him and had a long engagement....I didn't love the idea but thought it was for the best.

Also, I never wanted to get married in the church but since we had to get married after my brother - the weather would have been too cold to get married outside like I would have liked and Dh said it was very very important to him to get married in church. I was very uncomfortable with the idea but we did it.

Other than that the wedding planning was full of compromises. Dh and I planned everything together. So of course there was always differences in style and opinion and I don't believe that the wedding is all about the bride - so there were lost of compromises made on both sides during our planning.

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the chair lift thing... i was soooo against it, but DH really wanted it so we left it in.... meanwhile i almost had my head smashed into the ceiling and almost slipped off the chair and DH was lifted by the girls and was almost dropped!!! HAHA serves him right!

# in bridal party. I would have preferred he kept his side smaller (and just have MOH and best man) , but he has too many close friends to leave anyone out.

but other than that we pretty much agreed on everything else.

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We had his uncle perform the ceremony...we had bagpipers for a few minutes during the reception ( i didn't want them at all) and we had a huge bridal party

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Posted by gertyrae

The size of the bridal party for sure. I just wanted my sisters and SIL (5), he had to have all of his 'best' friends (8). We don't even hardly talk to them anymore

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That is exactly my situation and my comprimise too. We had 8 I wanted only small bp and we dont even talk to more than half of them anymore, Sometimes I think what a waste

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We didn't get a video, or a photojournalist, to save money (both I wanted, but let them go, now wish I hadn't, but oh well!!)

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First, I wanted to elope and get married on a beach..... but, we had the wedding. My compromise # 1

Then, the same as Niecey, there were many compromises on both our parts through out the planning. Much to my dismay, a wedding is NOT just about the bride. So, I had to let him pick some things.... like the song we walked in to

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The only thing was that DH wanted Prime rib and I wanted Chatau Briand. I gave in because this was truly the only thing he commented on about the wedding. He chose to not be involved and to let me do my thing.

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nothing!!! surprisingly enough, we agreed on everything!!!
now, let's see if house hunting goes as well???
haha!