What would you do? Kinda long.

Thanks all for your advice

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Wow, I don't know what I'd do, but I can't blame you for being upset about it. I mean you bend over backwards for someone and this is the thanks you get? All I know is I wouldn't want to be friends with her anymore either- it shouldn't be a one way street.

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do you have any idea why she's calling you now?

maybe you could just tell her that you feel she's using you for your kindness and that you are upset by it ... maybe she'll change?

then again, if you really don't want that friendship anymore, just keep ignoring her

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Not really sure why she's calling me now but it's becoming really annoying, because sometimes she'll call me at like 8:30am, sometimes at 6:00pm, sometimes at 9:00pm. It's becoming to the point that it's really obnoxious.

Oh I forgot to mention that yesterday she sends me an email asking for my home address (she doesn't have it since we moved in past few months), so she can send us something. I don't want her gift now whatever it may be. She probably realized she f*cked up and is trying to make up for it.

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Posted by jilliibabii

Wow, I don't know what I'd do, but I can't blame you for being upset about it. I mean you bend over backwards for someone and this is the thanks you get? All I know is I wouldn't want to be friends with her anymore either- it shouldn't be a one way street.

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Would you tell the person you no longer want to be their friend or just stop the friendship and continue to ignore them?

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geez she sounds like one of my bridesmaids LOL


maybe next time she calls, explain to her the reasons you said here. she's just going to call/text/aim/stalk you until you talk to her. Or, do the non confrontational approach and send her an email. Even though she doesn't deserve it, I think she should at least know why your friendship is ending.

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Posted by adelz

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Posted by jilliibabii

Wow, I don't know what I'd do, but I can't blame you for being upset about it. I mean you bend over backwards for someone and this is the thanks you get? All I know is I wouldn't want to be friends with her anymore either- it shouldn't be a one way street.

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Would you tell the person you no longer want to be their friend or just stop the friendship and continue to ignore them?

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I don't know- that's the tough part. I don't think I'd be very nice about it if I confronted the person, so I'd probably just ignore her. Right or wrong.

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Oh I forgot to mention that yesterday she sends me an email asking for my home address (she doesn't have it since we moved in past few months), so she can send us something. I don't want her gift now whatever it may be. She probably realized she f*cked up and is trying to make up for it.

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Hey is never too late to fix mistakes. Is better late then never.

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Posted by Cataverri


Oh I forgot to mention that yesterday she sends me an email asking for my home address (she doesn't have it since we moved in past few months), so she can send us something. I don't want her gift now whatever it may be. She probably realized she f*cked up and is trying to make up for it.

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Hey is never too late to fix mistakes. Is better late then never.

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ITA ... but thats if she's TRULY sorry ... talk to her and see for yourself ... if its the same BS then totally cut her off ... a friendship is def a two way road!

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Sounds like you have your mind made up, so follow your heart and you won't make the wrong decision for you.

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i wouldnt completely shut her out...but i wouldnt go out of my way for her either. keep your head high.
Youve been doing things for her because you wanted to do them, not because you were anticipating something in return. You are a good person and I can tell you care about her, but your feelings are hurt.

continue being the good person that you are...just dont go out of your way.

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Posted by CarolAnn721

Sounds like you have your mind made up, so follow your heart and you won't make the wrong decision for you.

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I agree - if you stick to your gut, you can't go wrong.

That being said, if it came up where she asked why you were avoiding her, I would politely explain how you felt you had been there and extended yourself for her and you felt like one of the happiest days of your life was an after thought. You were hurt by it and you'd like to move on... without her.