What would you do? Wedding etiquette advice needed-I screwed up!Please Read!

Karen&Paul Posted: Feb 15, 2004 11:38 PM

What would you do? Wedding etiquette advice needed-I screwed up!Please Read!

Hi, I just came across this website & am so happy I did-its great how everyone helps eachother out! Maybe you can help me...my bridal shower was in October of this year. One of the gifts I received were thank you cards w/adrs already on them, all I had to do was write out and post...easy,right?

Well I wrote them all out right away, and even brought them to my job to post-I put them thru the machine & they were dated Nov 1...my wedding was in December. Since then I have moved to a different house with my husband, and while unpacking the other day(mind you, Feb 15th) I came across a bag of, you guessed it, My Thankyou's!!! I NEVER sent them out-I dont know how I could be so flighty-How BAD is that! I would just drop them in the mail now, I can say maybe they got lost in the mail(!) but theyre dated November, and get this...I think I might have wrote in the cards 'see you at the wedding'!!!

A lot of these people were His family who I met for the first time and they gave me a gift so I really feel terrible.

Should I write them all over & send them along w/my wedding thankyou's (oh, how very tacky!!) or just forget it!!
My husband thinks I am an idiot!

What would you do? thanks in advance for your responce!!

ChristineC68 Posted: Feb 15, 2004 11:41 PM

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I would re-write them and send them out asap. I feel it's better late then never when it comes to thank yous.

janwinterbridejoy Posted: Feb 16, 2004 07:26 AM

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i would do the same as christine and re write them and send them out. i also feel that better late then never. i think most people will know that its just so hectic during the whole wedding process and forgive it.

karen32 Posted: Feb 16, 2004 08:08 AM

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i agree, you should definitely rewrite them. i don't think you should send them with your wedding thank-you's, though. people gave 2 gifts, i think they deserve 2 TY's.

(of course, this is coming from a woman who got married on 10/25 and is still struggling to get her wedding TY's out )

Diane Posted: Feb 16, 2004 08:32 AM

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ditto here, I would rewrite them too.

Catch22 Posted: Feb 16, 2004 10:12 AM

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def re write them and send them out.. an dperhaps 'leak' the story of your missng/misplaced thank you card's through your respective families... thats whan i would do.

my dh's nephew had a baby and we went to the christening like 2 years ago and all gave nice presents... his family still irks about how they never sent out TYs!

HeatherandNick Posted: Feb 16, 2004 10:18 AM

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I would also rewrite them and send them out asap!

Bride2be03 Posted: Feb 16, 2004 02:22 PM

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same thing I would rewrite them and just put a note saying sorry so late

julybride444 Posted: Feb 16, 2004 07:08 PM

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Just write new ones. No worries, everyone will know that you had a lot of planning to do and you have since been adjusting to married life. People are quite forgiving.

Sunny Posted: Feb 16, 2004 07:36 PM

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I would rewrite them too. Good luck!

Julybaby Posted: Feb 16, 2004 08:33 PM

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I agree with everyone else - rewrite your shower thank-yous. I would then delay sending out your wedding thank-yous for about a week or so.

ChristineC68 Posted: Feb 17, 2004 10:43 AM

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I would actually send out the wedding TY's as quickly as possible so the late shower TY's appear to be more of a fluke.

ETS - I saw some people advice to just mail the ones you have. I would double check with the post office first since they have a November post mark, they might get kicked back.

OctBride03 Posted: Feb 17, 2004 11:07 AM

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Posted by ChristineC68

I would re-write them and send them out asap. I feel it's better late then never when it comes to thank yous.

AGREED! I would get right on it! Good luck!

Since you need new envelopes regardless, can you just put the cards in the new envelopes?? This way you don't have to re-write them all and just re-write the ones that say 'see you at the wedding'

xjulietx Posted: Feb 17, 2004 12:56 PM

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I would write a note explaining how they were stamped and ready to go and got misplaced and stick the originals, still in the envelopes, into another envelope and then mail them.

This way people see that you did them right after your shower and not now.