What would you ladies do if you were in my Shoes...

Original post by bedda26

Jan 14, 2004 01:01 PM

Hi Ladies,

What would you do if faced with this situation? On May 1st is my husband’s nephew’s communion and also a bridal shower for one of my very good friends may be planned for that day. Now I am a little torn on what to do. This friend was in my Bridal Party when I got married. For my shower she gave us a very nice gift, made chocolates and helped out with things. I am in her Bridal Party now and I want to do all that she did for me. It’s not that I don’t want to go to my nephew’s communion, he’s a wonderful little boy and I love him and all but I am in my friend’s bridal party and I would feel bad not going to her shower after all that she did for mine. My husband is like “just wait and see what happens, maybe the shower will not be on May 1 after all” but I just have a feeling that it will be. Please I remember one time my Mother-in-Law made me feel so bad that I couldn’t attend a baby shower for one of my husband’s cousin, she made me so upset that I started crying when I got off the phone with her and after my husband called her back and put her in her place she apologized to me. I mentioned to my husband’s sister and she was like “I really don’t think that mina (our SIL) would get so mad, she’s not that kind of person, I think she would understand” I just don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings here…I just don’t know what to do…

bedda26 Posted: Jan 14, 2004 04:44 PM

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chances are both parties will overlap entirely. But yes my husband should definitely be there for the entire thing and represent us. I will try to make as best an effort as I can. If they have a get together at their house after the party then later on in the evening I can go to their house and see my nephew.

Cindy Posted: Jan 14, 2004 07:57 PM

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If it were me, I would definetely go to my friends shower. You both seem very close friends that you both had each other in your weddings. She also seemed like she went out of her way to do nice things for your shower too. I wouldnt even upset myself about who understands or who doesnt, this is a very close friend of yours. Even though it is your husbands nephew's function, I personally feel if they fall on the same day that you should be at your friends shower.

jennbaby Posted: Jan 14, 2004 08:47 PM

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Posted by curly2003

Posted by ChristineC68

I would be torn too, but I would probably go to the shower and let DH represent us at the communion (I would try to stop in at the party or at some other point that day/weekend to see the nephew).

Yup!!

My thoughts exactly~

bedda26 Posted: Jan 15, 2004 10:03 AM

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I agree with all of you. She is a close friend and I have to go to her shower. She did a lot for mine. My SIL has a best friend that she would jump off a bridge for if asked, so she knows what's its like to have a close friend.

Diane Posted: Jan 15, 2004 10:24 AM

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I would go to the shower as well, because you are a part of the BP.

Stacey1403 Posted: Jan 15, 2004 12:39 PM

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I agree with what everone else has said. Go to the shower.

We just had this issue this past weekend. One of friends baby showers was on Saturday and one of our other friends had their child's baptism. The girls went to the shower and our spouses went the the baptism. It was fine

bedda26 Posted: Jan 15, 2004 12:45 PM

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I just hope I don't upset the in-laws. There is nothing I can really do about it. I grew up with my friend and have known her for over 20 years! She was there for me when she was in my bridal party and now I have to be there for her and that's just the way I see it. Thank you ladies for all of your advice.