Why doesnt he just get me what I ask for?

I dont understand DH. I ask him to go to Modells for me since he was near there and get me 5 pound weights. He even called me twice to ask if I want 3 pounds, 5, or 8 pounds. Again I tell him 5 pounds. SO he gets home and what did he get me? 3 pound weights. Why? Cause he said he thought 5 would be too heavy. I KNOW MY BODY. Why couldnt he just get me what I asked for?? So he turns it into, 'I was trying to do you a favor blah blah' Am I a
B I T C H for being so ANGRY right now?? I cant get this annoying feeling out of my body!!

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Posted by bensgirl

that would totally annoy me too, but he probably thinks he was being nice by being concerned about how much you lift. that said, sometimes i think men 'overthink' things they shouldn't think twice about and don't think at all about the things that actually deserve some thought!!

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Exactly! I guess Im PMSing thats why its sticking with me so long. But I really wanna hit something right now. And then I feel bad cause I know he was trying to be nice but he does this all the time!!!

this is the story of my life! like the line from aniston in 'the breakup'- 'baby wanted 12 [lemons]!' im snarky about things sometimes (usually when im hormonal) but im realllly trying to use it as an opportunity to be grateful, that he tried, ya know. and that he was doing something for me as a favor. its a control freak thing, im typically of the mindset, if i want something done the right way, ill do it myself. im trying to give up control, lol. anyway...i know what your talking about!

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride

this is the story of my life! like the line from aniston in 'the breakup'- 'baby wanted 12 [lemons]!' im snarky about things sometimes but im realllly trying to use it as an opportunity to be grateful, that he tried, ya know. and that he was doing something for me. its a control freak thing, im typically of the mindset, if i want something done the right way, ill do it myself. im trying to give up control, lol. bc he tries his best. anyway...i know what your talking about!

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Glad to see Im not alone. Im getting over it slowly but I was giving him the silent treatment. Next time I know to just do it myself to avoid getting angry. He's such a little sweetheart but sometime I swear I could kick him in the gut.

oh my gosh--i feel like you girls are describing me!! it's all about control--i want DH to do favors for me but then when he doesn't do them the way i asked, i flip out. i'm really trying to calm down a little bit when it comes to these things too, but sometimes my blood just boils....:) i know in my heart he means well, but why can't he be a crazy, ocd, perfectionist like i am

sorry to laugh - Not a B!tch - I understand what your saying.

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Posted by gemmifer

sorry to laugh - Not a B!tch - I understand what your saying.

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WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING AT ME!!! I feel much better now. And its only cause his cousin (Who's coming over in a little bit) was by Modells and picked up the 5 pounders for me. YAY!!! He's so lucky!

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Posted by Summer07Bride

I would definitely be annoyed. If you said you wanted 5 lbs weights, why can't he just pick them up for you. Now you have to be hassled with returning them. I think that would annoy me the most. I hate returning things.

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Well, THAT was the other thing annoying me. How I was going to have to go all the way to Modells tomorrow just to return them when he could have just gotten what I asked for.

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Posted by gemmifer

sorry to laugh - Not a B!tch - I understand what your saying.

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WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING AT ME!!! I feel much better now. And its only cause his cousin (Who's coming over in a little bit) was by Modells and picked up the 5 pounders for me. YAY!!! He's so lucky!

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I am laughing b/c My hub would pull some Sh!t like that and than be like at me b/c I was not happy about his concern

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Posted by gemmifer

sorry to laugh - Not a B!tch - I understand what your saying.

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WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING AT ME!!! I feel much better now. And its only cause his cousin (Who's coming over in a little bit) was by Modells and picked up the 5 pounders for me. YAY!!! He's so lucky!

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I am laughing b/c My hub would pull some Sh!t like that and than be like at me b/c I was not happy about his concern

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OMG well thats what happened!! He didnt let me get angry. Instead he got angry cause I didnt appreciate his effort!

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Posted by gemmifer

sorry to laugh - Not a B!tch - I understand what your saying.

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WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING AT ME!!! I feel much better now. And its only cause his cousin (Who's coming over in a little bit) was by Modells and picked up the 5 pounders for me. YAY!!! He's so lucky!

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I am laughing b/c My hub would pull some Sh!t like that and than be like at me b/c I was not happy about his concern

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OMG well thats what happened!! He didnt let me get angry. Instead he got angry cause I didnt appreciate his effort!

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you c I told you there were alike - my Dh is totally trying to deny that right now

That sounds like a day in my life too
They try to be nice but forget YOU are the one who knows what your asss can or cant do

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride
this is the story of my life! like the line from aniston in 'the breakup'- 'baby wanted 12 [lemons]!' im snarky about things sometimes (usually when im hormonal) but im realllly trying to use it as an opportunity to be grateful, that he tried, ya know. and that he was doing something for me as a favor. its a control freak thing, im typically of the mindset, if i want something done the right way, ill do it myself. im trying to give up control, lol. anyway...i know what your talking about!

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WOW Jess I feel like I could have written this word for word...btw Scott and I always use the lemon line when we do something for one another and it is not done 'right'

I think a LOT of us can relate to what your talking about

Oh God I can sooooo identify. I don't understand what they don't understand. If you wanted your DH's input on what would be best for your body, you would have asked. Otherwise, let you suffer with heavier weights and be done with it! Like when DH says 'Can you get me ham from the deli this week?' I don't come back with olive loaf b/c it's healthier, I come back with ham. It's a really simple concept. Get what I ask for. My DH does this ALL the time, so I know your annoyance.

I would be so annoyed. Why are simple things so complicated?

What is the point of 3 pounds and who buys those anyway you would be better off lifting soup cans.