We got 2 invitations in the mail in one week. Both for DH's side of the family. One was for a shower one Sunday and one was for a baptism the Sunday after.
The next time I saw my MIL ( a few days later) I asked her if she had rsvp'd yet ( It was a phone RSVP) she said she hadn't but she was going to call for both the next day. I asked her if she wouldn't mind rsvp'ing for us and I told her all 3 of us would be at the baptism but that the shower landed on my moms birthday weekend and I already had plans with her. She didn't look happy but didn't say anything about it. The next time I saw her she told me she rsvp'd YES for the shower!!! I asked her why she did that after I told her I couldn't go.
Her answer - Well I think it would be the right thing to do since her mother gave you such a nice shower gift!!!!!
Are you fricken kidding me???? I tried to explain to DH that he going against what I said and doing whatever she felt like doing showed NO RESPECT for me whatsoever. Its not like I was planning on not attending AND not sending a gift!!!
Now when my DH was on the phone with her the subject came up and he told her that I definitely wasn't going and already had plans. She got all pissed off and said all this stuff to him... That made us get into a HUGE fight
At least I learned an important lesson. Never let your MIL rsvp for you!!!!!!
MamanDaddyof2
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that sounds just like my MIL she is so manipulitave and she does stuff like that all the time she likes to tell me dh said things that he never said
IT IS SO ANNOYING
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Posted by dpli
Stand your ground. Call the person yourself and just say that you think there was a mis-communication and you wanted to make sure they know you can't make the shower. I am sure your MIL would not want you blowing off her birthday plans, why should you do that to your mom?
I agree with the other ladies - RSVP yourself from now on.
I agree totally. I think being married is a good time to let all the parents know you two make your own plans, and then, of course, be responsible for making them. JMHO
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Posted by Soon2bMsZ
Thanks everyone!!!! And for those who bashed me for not RSVP'ing on my own it was b/c the person throwing the shower ( the brides mom) dosen't speak english and I don't speak Italian!!!! lol
Oh, whoops! Sorry about that. Should read whole post before responding, shouldn't I?
suven
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Thanks everyone!!!! And for those who bashed me for not RSVP'ing on my own it was b/c the person throwing the shower ( the brides mom) dosen't speak english and I don't speak Italian!!!! lol
If the host doesn't speak English, how are the other non-Italian speaking guests going to RSVP?
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Posted by stacy&joe
Posted by Soon2bMsZ
Thanks everyone!!!! And for those who bashed me for not RSVP'ing on my own it was b/c the person throwing the shower ( the brides mom) dosen't speak english and I don't speak Italian!!!! lol
Oh, whoops! Sorry about that. Should read whole post before responding, shouldn't I?
Maxine,
Doesn't your DH speak italian that he could help translate to the hostess if need be????
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Posted by Soon2bMsZ
Thanks everyone!!!! And for those who bashed me for not RSVP'ing on my own it was b/c the person throwing the shower ( the brides mom) dosen't speak english and I don't speak Italian!!!! lol
If the host doesn't speak English, how are the other non-Italian speaking guests going to RSVP?
I guess I am the only one Its like my big fat Italian wedding.... oh yeah and that Irish girl
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Posted by lorsin
I would go with your mom on her birthday but get the biggest heaviest gift off the registry for the shower and make your MIL lug it to the shower for you!!
