wwyd (rant)

So DH (and I when we started dating) has been having an annual NYE party for at least 10 years, and have another last night. This is always a big thing, I cook tons of food, we have a lot of booze, and play video or board games or watch movies, pending crowd

DH's best friend (who has been at all but one of these) arrives at 8:30, when he proceeds to tell us that every one else at the party would be 'part hopping', first we have heard of it. At 11, everyone leaves to go to another party

Now, we had been texting said friend all week for numbers and what there people eat and drink. We spent $200 getting ready for this party, to be told 'oh, we had no intention of being here at midnight'. Friend says he never got to tell us cause of work, but everyone else knew.


Am I wrong to think this is massively messed up? I am ready to tell said friend (DH's best friend for about 16 years) to go F himself. DH is so pissed he wants nothing to do with this guy


What would y'all do? We may be too close to it to think straight

Re: wwyd (rant)

When you say 'everyone else at the party' you mean alot of people had planned on party hopping? Or just DH's best friend?

Either way, I'd be upset. It's like saying your party isn't good enough to be there for midnight. I understand some people have other parties to go to but IMO if you only plan on going for a little while you should let the host know well ahead of time so they can plan accordingly.

Since its DH's best friend I would have him let the friend know how you both feel. He sounds like he's more interested in going to parties for NYE than spending it with his best friends (not cool).

I hope it works out. In the end, I definatly think you guys are right- what this guy did is not fair. You spent alot of time and money planning this party. It's a slap in the face to have people tell you they wont be there for the climax of the party (aka midnight).

Hope it doesn't end up getting too messy

Re: wwyd (rant)

Literally everyone other than DH and I, like 6 people. They tried to ask us to go, but that just seemed another slap after this, and we had no clue who the people were. We have been looking forward to this all year, DH is ready to say we never host another party.

Re: wwyd (rant)

Oh wow! Thats total crap! I would have DH talk to him, its totally messed up!

Re: wwyd (rant)

seems weird that EVERYONE at the party left and no one informed you. Are you close with the other people who left? Very strange and I would have hubby talk to them. They should have given you a heads up.

Do these same people come every year? Id be annoyed