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Re: NWR- best friend/FH- feel uncomfortable when the 3 of us hang out.
That might make me uncomfortable too. I wouldn't worry about it...after all it is your best friend and your FH.
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Sounds like she wants him, but that's just from observation of what you're saying. I would have a talk with her about her actions. I don't care how crowded a car is, I would rather have my friend sit in my lap, or I would sit in his lap before I would ever be ok with her sitting in his!!!
Something is definitely not right there.
Something is definitely not right there.
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Honestly, if it's your best friend you should feel comfortable enough to say what the f*ck? - get off his lap. She just sounds like she's a little jealous though and wants some attention. I would just go out with more people than instead of just the three of you.
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I don't think she should be sitting on his lap that would make me a little uncomfortable. I think that maybe she is uncomfortable so maybe by making you uncomfortable she feels better. I think you need to talk to her, and if she gets all defensive about it something more is up, but if she meant no harm by it, it will be no big deal.
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People do starnge things to feel accepted in a situation...maybe she just tries to be close to the two of you, so that she doesn't feel weird when you two cuddle etc.. in front of her?...but who am I to understand the human Psychi....
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My fh and my best friend are very very close, she would NEVER do any of those things you mentioned...thats just unacceptable! Maybe you should tell her that her actions make you uncomfortable
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Sitting on his lap and instigating fights between us would definitely make me feel uncomfortable. If it was my best friend I would approach her and tell her how I feel without fighting or anything. If she's really your friend she should understand that her behavior makes u uncomfortable and hopefully stop.
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Hmm - maybe you could hang out with them separately?
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I wouldn't stress out too much, until you speak to her. She's your best friend, she desrves a chance to fix this.
Tell her to stop being flirty with him, ity makes you mad.
That is all, you don't need to validate your feelings any more than that. he's your FH.
Tell her to stop being flirty with him, ity makes you mad.
That is all, you don't need to validate your feelings any more than that. he's your FH.
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What I would do is wait until something happens again that makes you feel uncomfortable and the next day or that night, tell her that that makes you feel uncomfortable. I would not bring it up out of the blue, because she is going to feel defensive and hurt that you did not mention it earlier and that you have been thinking about it. It is probably something that she does not realize.. I would wait till it happens again and then say something.
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I reallly think you should talk to her.. if she gets defensive, or can't see your point, then I would stop hanging out with her when its just you and FH. The things she is doing would make me extremely uncomfortable, those kinds of things are very inappropriate.
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I was just thinking, is she just a flirty person? Is she like this with all of the men you know?
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I would deffinitly say someting only because it does upset you .
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Go with your gut. If you feel like something is weird...there probably is. You need to mention it to FH so he can avoid these situations altogether. If he knows it bothers you, he'll be more conscious about it.
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I would definitely find that wierd. One of my BMs is also our neighbor and works with FH at school. So she is equal friends with both of us. But I would feel WIERD if she tried to get attention from him or sided with him on things.
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What you're describing sounds like really flirty behavior - sitting on his lap, adding her to the IM list, complimenting him, trying to let him know that she's on his side ('what's Elle's deal?'), etc. Either she thinks it's 'safe' to flirt like that with him because he's with you and nothing would happen or she wants an ego boost by seeing if anything would happen with him.
If it were me, I'd probably say something like 'I'm sure you don't intend to come off this way, but you're making FH really uncomfortable with the way you're acting toward him.' I would put it on him, that way she can't write it off as you being jealous or crazy (neither of which I think you are). Good luck![]()
If it were me, I'd probably say something like 'I'm sure you don't intend to come off this way, but you're making FH really uncomfortable with the way you're acting toward him.' I would put it on him, that way she can't write it off as you being jealous or crazy (neither of which I think you are). Good luck
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