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1 Day Left ~ Having a BREAKDOWN!!! You've gotta be kidding me

Original post by anamaree77

Sorry this is long, I gotta get this out!!!!!!

Tomorrow is the day I have waited for for so long, I am marrying my dear FH who I love with all my heart.

I am seriously about to have a nervous breakdown. My future Step-daughter's dress doesn't fit ok, we picked it up from RK Bridal and the underarms are too tight...FH is on his way there with her right now to fix it but my wedding is tomorrow and i'm not sure how much they can really do immediately at the store.

For every major event in my life, it has been surrounded by sadness and bad luck. I feel like this whole wedding has been a jinx!!!!!!!!!!! My dear uncle passed away this past November, FH's Grandfather this past July.

One of my BM's had to back out last minute 2 weeks ago because her baby came late and now another BM (one of my closest cousin's) had a miscarriage last night. I can't believe it, I just feel so horrible for her. She is insisting on still being in the wedding but will not be in the limo, she'll get to the church on her own and I feel so bad for her. I don't even care if she's in my wedding at this point, so long as she's ok.

I got rear-ended last week by some jerk in Newark, NJ. It's a really nasty area so we exchanged insurance and left instead of waiting for hte cops. Now she's saying that 'she never hit me'....ok!

I have been sick since last week, back and forth to the Dr's and they were telling me it's Allergies. Finally yesterday I couldn't take it anymore but they couldn't take me in again until this morning. I was in the office on a Nebulizer and they told me I have all this mucous built up and put me on Steroids (Advair and Medrol) and say that it will make me 'JUMPY'. Oh and did I mention that from coughing so much, I burst a blood vessel in my eye and now I have a huge red BLOTCH on my eyeball...yes, very noticable. To top it all off, I burned at the tanning salon and have all dry skin peeling off.

My wedding day is tomorrow and I want to bury myself in bed and cry.
agraydc Posted:

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i am sooo sorry you are going through all this
but lets takes things one at a time
1st off lots of eye drops to decrease the inflammation around the eye, it will decrease the redness a little, but it will take time
2nd the peeling, you need a hot shower (hot as you can take without burning) and a luffa(sp?) to scrub off dry skin and moisturize at least 3x a day more if you can
3rd the accident you have 30 days to file with no fault for an accident so if you can wait till after wedding and honeymoon deal with that then* are you ok from the accident?
4th the steroids will make you anxious and jumpy but just avoid caffeine and any other stimulant for a awhile and you will get used to it
5th the poor BM, let her know you are here for her and whatever she decides is fine and will work out fine.
6th the dress will get fixed, there is always something to be done, dont worry

i think that covers most of it but the important thing to relax and remember this wedding is to symbolize you rlove of FH and his love for you, who ever is there to share in you day are the ones who love you and are there to show you just that regardless of the unfortunate things that have happened.
you will have a beautiful wedding tomorrow, i know you will!!!

FM if you need to chat . be strong and good luck
AMGBride2008 Posted:

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Listen.... breathe... relax... get in the tub and soak with the lights off and a candle burning. Or go into your room, shut the door, turn off the lights and just lay there with no interuptions. Everything is going to be OK... you're marrying the love of your life and that's all that matters

PS...it's after 12, so a nice big glass of wine might help too.
Hang in there!
sweetdoublenn Posted:

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I am feeling your stress! I am sorry this is all happening to you! I can't believe the dress doesn't fit right! Maybe the seamtress that is there can do something, she is gonna have to!!!

Just remember to breathe and try not to stress. I probably should follow my own advice! You are gonna be a beautiful bride and are going to remember this day for the rest of your life!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted:

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Im so sorry your going through all this..its extra stress you do not need...but your wedding will be perfect..try to sit back and relax...Remember the real meaning of the whole day..that your marrying the love of your life! everything will work out! I promiseI can't wait to see and hear all about it
Espo22 Posted:

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Posted by anamaree77

Sorry this is long, I gotta get this out!!!!!!

Tomorrow is the day I have waited for for so long, I am marrying my dear FH who I love with all my heart.

I am seriously about to have a nervous breakdown. My future Step-daughter's dress doesn't fit ok, we picked it up from RK Bridal and the underarms are too tight...FH is on his way there with her right now to fix it but my wedding is tomorrow and i'm not sure how much they can really do immediately at the store.

For every major event in my life, it has been surrounded by sadness and bad luck. I feel like this whole wedding has been a jinx!!!!!!!!!!! My dear uncle passed away this past November, FH's Grandfather this past July.

One of my BM's had to back out last minute 2 weeks ago because her baby came late and now another BM (one of my closest cousin's) had a miscarriage last night. I can't believe it, I just feel so horrible for her. She is insisting on still being in the wedding but will not be in the limo, she'll get to the church on her own and I feel so bad for her. I don't even care if she's in my wedding at this point, so long as she's ok.

I got rear-ended last week by some jerk in Newark, NJ. It's a really nasty area so we exchanged insurance and left instead of waiting for hte cops. Now she's saying that 'she never hit me'....ok!

I have been sick since last week, back and forth to the Dr's and they were telling me it's Allergies. Finally yesterday I couldn't take it anymore but they couldn't take me in again until this morning. I was in the office on a Nebulizer and they told me I have all this mucous built up and put me on Steroids (Advair and Medrol) and say that it will make me 'JUMPY'. Oh and did I mention that from coughing so much, I burst a blood vessel in my eye and now I have a huge red BLOTCH on my eyeball...yes, very noticable. To top it all off, I burned at the tanning salon and have all dry skin peeling off.

My wedding day is tomorrow and I want to bury myself in bed and cry.


i know everything now seems like it has ruined your wedding but it really hasn't. Unfortunately terrible things do happen regardless in life, whether its supposed to be the best time of our lives and getting married.

I had ALOT of misfortunes before my wedding, some i spoke about on here and some i didnt. I had to have surgery in january, my father had a heart attack and was in the hospital for a month in february. I broke my ankle, Dh's grandmother was in the hospital right before our wedding and thank god got out on time but that made me so nervous. My grandfather died a few months after I got engaged. And thats just a few of the things, theres so much more I had to go through during the process.

But the day of your wedding will be the most amazing day of your life regardless. Ive had so much bad luck for a while, and especially 2008 since its been one thing after another but that day was perfect. You deserve it and will have the most amazing day of your life.

Dont worry about your step daughters dress, they will fix it and everything will be fine.
GinaZ Posted:

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Its going to be okay! I can see why you are so stressed, but your wedding is not jinxed. Just focus on the fact that you will have a good time with friends and family and marrying your favorite person! BREATHE!!! and try to RELAX!! I know its hard. Im on adviar all the time- it doesnt make me jittery. I dont know what the other thing is. Why couldnt the doctor put you on predisone instead? That doesnt make me jittery either. Inhalents tend to do that more...
debismom Posted:

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AnaMarie, honey, I'm so sorry about all these sad and frustrating things!!! I'm praying for you RIGHT NOW!!!!!!!!!! Love, Mary MOB

Many, Many Blessings to you and Louis, on your Wedding Day and Forever!!!!!
sassygirl9 Posted:

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I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Don't worry it will all work out. I would be going crazy about the dress, but think positive that it will be fixed and think of a plan B if it doesn't work out. Maybe have someone meet him at macy's with his daughter and get an alternate. Just an idea, I know you have your heart set on this dress, but it's worth a shot.

Don't feel like you have bad luck. I'm sure you don't. 3 months before our wedding, someone died as well. It was really hard. The month of our wedding two other people died and some family members could not make it because of this. A guest who RSVP broke her wrist. I mean things happen. You know

And I was sick with the flu the week before my wedding. I didn't think it would happen to me, but it did. It happens to a lot of brides. I know it's hard, but drop everything or as much as you can, drink a lot of liquids and rest. You will feel better if you do this.

Best wishes to you
DavaDay Posted:

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I just got married last weekend, so let me offer the sage advice of an old married lady:

You'll be fine. When the music starts playing and you walk down the aisle to marry your sweetie, none of this will be on your mind. It'll be you and him, excited and nervous for the right reasons. Everyone you love will be smiling at you, maybe even crying they're so happy for you. You'll feel an overwhelming sense of love coming at you from all directions at the same time, and it sounds corny, but it's true. Everything else will melt away. Then you'll party in the prettiest dress you've ever owned, with your hair and makeup done to perfection, with the people you care about the most, and whether or not your step-daughter's underarm fabric was too tight will be the last thing you're thinking about.

You're not a jinx. Stuff happens. More stuff will happen tomorrow. But what counts is that you and your FH are going to make each other, and everyone else in attendance, so happy. You'll see.

babygirlb Posted:

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I am so sorry to hear of all the things that are happening before your wedding. I am sure your day will be perfect if you focus on the most important thing and try not to let any outside factors get in the way. On another note if you are a sex and the city fan, try to remember Charlotte's wedding to Harry. Everything went wrong on the day of and they had a perfect marriage. Hth

chrispar Posted:

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Oh I am so sorry to hear this. Please try and relax. Your wedding will be beautiful. Your day has not been ruined. Everything will work out fine in the end. Please feel better and get some rest. I do understand how you feel however it seems like stuff like that always happens to me to but in the end you are marrying the man of your dreams and will have a wonderful life together.
lizzie217 Posted:

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Tommorow you will wake up and take a deep breath ....look beautiful and have a fabulous wedding ...dont stress!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Annoulak Posted:

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megzzie Posted:

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I'm sorry you're feeling like this! But tomorrow morning you will wake up and be so excited and happy that you will forget about all the bad things.

Have a great wedding!
DGoldfarb0776 Posted:

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I'm so sorry that all this stress happened to you. It will all work out for what is meant to be.

I'm sure everything will be okay by tomorrow and that you'll be a beautiful bride!

Newsysuzy12 Posted:

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we are all using our bridal super powers to send you good healing energy!
Good luck!
Randilotus Posted:

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Just enjoy your day and let the rest go until after!!!! Congrats and smile!
Cutechef729 Posted:

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Awe! I'm sorry that you're having a tough few days. It all seems really bad right now and it's hard not to stress but you're going to walk down that aisle and see FH and none of it is going to matter. The day will be perfect even if a few things go wrong. All of the people that love you and FH are going to be there for you, whether physically or not. You are going to have an amazing day!!! Try to just breathe! Read a book or magazine. Hang out with your girls. Watch tv or a cheesy move that you love. Just try to relax and think happy thoughts and remember that we're here for you to vent to!!! And we'll be waiting for pictures!!
JoesFutureWife Posted:

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Even though getting to the wedding has been an uphill battle, at the end of the day tomorrow you will be married to the man you love. You will have a beautiful day. Try to enjoy it and think of how happy you are. Dont think about anything else!! Cant wait to see pics sweetie!! And congrats in advance!!
ChristineAaron08 Posted:

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Everything is gonna be alright!! I adopte dthis motto just befor my wedding when things were going nuts and it was true. Just have faith that everthing will be ok.

RK will be able to fix the dress, your BM will be in the wedding and will enjoy herself, keep some lotion fo ryour tan s you dont peel.

Don't stress. Tomorrow will be a totally differnt outlook. Just keep in site what the day is all about and go with the flow..dont let the little things get to you

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