*-*-*-*10-12-09 QOTD*-*-*-*

Happy Monday Ladies!

I would like to thank Christina for appointing me your BOTW -


And now for our first QOTD of the week...

***How is your relationship with your FILs? What do you love about them? What irks you about them? Have there been any issues or do you forsee there being any issues later on? On the flipside, how is your FH's relationship with your family?***


As for me, I could not have asked for better ILs. FMIL is such a sweetheart, easy to talk to. There have actually been a couple of times when I had to drop something off at the house and I wound up staying for an hour or two just having tea and talking with her. FFIL is the same. Very funny, kind, and always looking out for his children/family's best interest. My FBIL and FSIL are the best and a blast to hang out with. Never a dull moment. I also love how tight knit there family is. They are always having dinners or family gatherings (same as my family). As far as issues, we've never had any issues and I don't forsee there being any either.

As far as FH with my family, they adore him! He comes to all our family events. I love that I don't have to 'babysit' him when I'm with my family - he's off talking to everyone having his own conversations. I love how easily he gets along with everyone in my family. It's almost like he was always a part of the fam.

The girl that FH was with before me ended up cheating on him and treating him very badly, so I think for a while his family was very guarded around me. I can kind of understand where they are coming from, but it made it very uncomfortable during the first year and a half of our relaitonship. I always felt like they were judging me and it made it very hard to talk to them. I immediately hit it off with his one sister, but it's taken a long time to form a relationship with the other sister. FMIL is still kind of hard to talk to. I don't think it's that she doesn't like me I think she just doesn't have much of a personality. I talk a lot and can usually have a conversation with anyone, but sometimes its like pulling teeth to get any kind of feedback from her. FFIL I got along with from the start.

FH gets along very well with my family. We are a very close family and have get togethers usually about once a month, if not more. He always comes and he is able to talk to anyone. My family loves him.

CONGRATS ON BOTW!!!

I think FILs like me,,, they seem too! I like them for the most part but its not all happy land.. they do some annoying things that bother me... FMIL is the sweetest thing in the world!!!! soooooo nice but cant make a decision at all!!! she rarely even makes a statement - its usally with a question then she agrees with you... FFIL is a whole nother story.. he is also nice but very self-centered. Thinks hes the smartest person in the world. He also means well but can be annoying. He also is always trying to sell me something - insurance, vitamins whatever! FSIL is a nut but we get along. I dont agree with some of the things she does but shes never been rude to me and we always have a great time together. F grandparents are awesome but gma can be a little overwhelming,,.. her way or the highway.... They have their quirks but overall they are ok.... i can deal!

FH and my family get along great! My parents love him and he loves them and him and my bro have become good friends... im sure there are things about them that annoy FH too but overall its good!

I always say I am one of the luckiest people when it comes to my FIL's they never say anything negative and are very quite reserved people so I am lucky.

As for FH he gets along great with my family...luckily I have an extremly small family

So we are lucky no family problems from any in-laws

I'm very lucky to have my FILs. They are amazing people, so sweet. We always gather together in their living room and can talk for hours. They're both so nice and have always made me feel very comfortable and like I'm part of the family. Even when FH and I broke up our senior year of HS, FMIL gave me advice as if she was my mother. There haven't been any issues so far and hopefully things will stay that way!
FH gets along well with my family too. My family is just different - mom is really quiet, dad is nuts! FH understands my parents and the way they are, so things are OK there too. He really gets along well with my sister. Sometimes I feel as if they are brother and sister! They're both very comfortable around each other which is great. On the other hand, I get along with FH's brothers, but we don't have the same relationship that FH and my sister have. My relationship with his brothers is much more formal.

There is a long and complicated story with my FIL's. And since Im bored at work I'll share for anyone else who's bored too!

First off my FH was married once before to a horrible woman. (stereotypical control freak, paranoid schizo woman.....i kid you not! I've had the honor of meeting her and tried to be her friend...totally not fun experience.) So his fam is very weary of who he brought home afterwards..because it was just a never ending sea of stupidity and craziness. I really wish i didnt sound like im trashing his exes...but i knew most of those girls and they were nuts...but moving on.

I was best friends with my FBILs for the longest time...until I started dating their older brother. Total fluke accident involving myspace and minor stalking on his part. lol. But when we started dating they started to pull away from me, until they just completely stopped talking to me, which ****** bc i was close with the both of them and poof there went my beerpong partner and friendly male opinion. So its just awkward now with them. Then there's his parents...his dad is just a jerk...anyone who knows that guy can tell ya that. He just was tragically born without a personality as FH puts it. His mom is really nice to me, and likes me. His grandparents love me.


My family loves FH. :) . Thats pretty much it. He's good to me, is responsible, and most importantly...he loves the yankees. He fits in perfectly. :)

To be completely honest, I don't know my FILs all that well being that since i've known FH, they live in Puerto Rico and we are in Mexico or I'm home in NY. From the times I've gone to visit, we get along just fine...and there's not too much of a language barrier b/c most of his family speaks english and definitely understands it completely, and i understand spanish completely. My FILs were so sweet when my mom and bro came to visit and helped take them around. I love my FBILs..i get along really well with all of them and as for FH's sister, i don't know her too well since everytime i'm in PR she lives in a different part and she's always working bc shes a dr. I think my FILs really like me since they say i've been a real positive influence on FH...he used to be barely passing in undergrad and partying all the time and now he's doing really well in med school haha.

I hope that there won't be any future issues. FH and I are planning to do residency and live in NY but go to PR as often as we can since he has all his family there. I love that he is one of 5 and from a big family b/c I fit in easily and he fits into my big family easily (i'm one of 4).

My family loves FH and treats him like a brother/son. He's frecuently in NY and very comfortable with everyone. My brothers hang out with him, play sports with him and he's the first guy my parents are really thrilled about so I know he's a keeper! lol

I am very happy with my FIL's. They are great people. My FH is VERY CLOSE with his family. My two FSIL's are wonderful. I love them so much. We actually go out for dinner and drinks without my FH. I could tell them anything and they always listen to what I have to say. My FBIL is great as well. We always have fun together. My FMIL is so sweet. We always talk about cooking and is so supportive of FH and I. She was so honored when I asked her to come see my dress when I was about to buy it. Also she tells me that she cannot wait till I am her FDIL. My FFIL is great also. We both love to talk so we get along great. I have no complaints..They are great and treat me wonderfully

***How is your relationship with your FILs? What do you love about them? What irks you about them? Have there been any issues or do you forsee there being any issues later on? On the flipside, how is your FH's relationship with your family?***

I love my ILs! I have been with Fh for a loong time (7 years), so i know his family very well. His mom is a sweetheart and i love her. FFIL is great, and I feel like i've become closer with him and feel more comfortable around him since we got engaged. FBILs (theres 3) are kind of pains in the ***, but I guess that b/c there like my own brothers. They get on my nerves and say stupid things sometimes, but I feel like in the long run they care about me and FH.

My FH's relationship with my family is great too. He is really close with my brother and my parents. Before we moved in together he would hang out with my parents at their house when i wasnt even home!

I spend a lot of time with FIL's b'c FH still lives at home to save money. He's very close with them and they've welcomed me with open arms as part of they're family and I so appreciate that. My parents are spearated and my Dad lives in PA so it's nice to feel like there's a home to go to for things like Sunday dinner.

We've had our differences about things. As I've said before (and got in trouble for before) my IL's are Italian and they live in Brooklyn. They have sepcific ideas of what consitutes respect and they follow certain customs that I'm not used to, I grew up a little differently with different values, so they've gotten upset with me for doing (or not doing) things they thought were inappropriate. And FMIL is the steretypical Italian mom from Brooklyn (my son!, oh my son! go on youtube and look up mittymoo. Watch John Roberts in the Christmas Tree. Hilarious and true.) so it's been a little hard for her to let go.

But, FIL's are amazingly generous and always offering to help me out in anyway they can, so I love them for that and I could definitely do worse.

FH has one younger sister and we get along ok. We're not best friends, I think we're just very different people, but we can chat and get along fine, she and I have never had any problems and I don't anticipate any.

FH gets along with my family ok, but he doesn't know them as well as I know his since they're spread ut and we definitely dont' spend the same amount of time with them as we do with his fam. No problems though, primarily bc my parents are way more chill about stuff like that and they want me to be happy. So they pick their battles.

LOOOONG, sorry, I'm done now :)

ohhhhh the In-laws. Haha.

My FILs really aren't too bad.

His Mom is a sweatheart and is very easy to talk to. The only thing that gets annoying is that his Brother is in college and I get asked A LOT to help him with his schoolwork . I wouldn't mind if helping didn't turn in to walking him through it.

My FFIL is a bit much at times. It is like the man doesn't have a filter. As far as talking to me is concerned, he is usually ok.

We have our engagement party this weekend so that should be interesting. Haha.

As far as FH and my family goes, he gets along with my Dad. He thinks my Mom is a bit overbearing, which, quite frankly, she is. I love her though and put up with her antics just to make her happy and keep the peace which annoys FH sometimes (ok, often really ). It's been much better since we have gotten our own place though.

Overall I am pretty lucky. Of course there are going to be things that annoy you about anyone, but we really get along pretty well.