100% TMI

Personal Question:

Can somebody explain to me why s ex is okay during pregnancy?

I have been trying to stay as active as possible. It's picked up a bit in the past month because I have a bit more energy, and I actually started to feel badly for my husband!…But I can't help but wonder…why is this okay. If we can't soak in bathtubs, jump around, lift heavy things, etc - and all the other cautions - how can this be okay? I am not talking anything wild. Lord knows there's none of that going on - but even the basics. It's not 100% comfortable, and my mind kind of can't let go of being 'careful' for the baby. Even though my doctor says the baby is totally fine in there. I don't know…anybody know a good way to describe this to quell my questioning mind?

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I think it's b/c your cervix is completely closed...therefore, there's no harm to the baby. I don't really know the answer either.

I know how you feel tho - I remember when I was PG, I had a difficult time feeling like we were 'alone' b/c I'd feel the baby move in my belly and I'd lose my desire to do the deed.

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Claud I know the feeling of not feeling like youre alone or that youre possibly hurting the baby
Jenny youre not alone in feeling that way.
I feel the same most of the time (but dont avoid it altogether )
Its I think, our natural instinct to be careful and thats totally ok. As a matter of fact, its common (not unheard of) for preggos to stain a bit after intimacy, which can make a girl freak out!
Actually when you do stain at all, even if its a drop, the first question they ask you is 'have you been intimate in the past day or so' and if you say YES, they say 'stay away from it for X amount of time' so theres our point once again!
Jenny, trust your gut, be careful if that makes you feel better. I think in our hearts, we all feel protective of that precious little one and we are more careful/gentle.


was that TMI ?

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It's funny because my midwife was telling us during a class that '$ex during pregnancy goes thru phases with doctors' at some points in time they all think it is great, at others they don't. She said it is like a trendy thing with them

Your cervix is closed and it isn't the same thing as soaking in a hot bathtub really. I know that to help bring the baby 'along' near your due date that $ex is recommended too- but once your water breaks NO MORE, since your cervix is then open.

Do what you feel is comfortable. I am sure DH understands too.

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I totally don't feel comfortable with having $ex either. I asked DH the other day if it's bothering him... he said that he doesn't want to hurt me or Madeleine and he thinks that I'm doing enough work just lugging this little girl around...

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This so funny because my hubby and I have been having this conversation. My husband told me there are three things that bother him with sex during pregnancy
-he feels like there is a third person involved,
-it's uncomfortable for him,
-and he feel like he is going to hurt me or the baby.