FH has been getting into arguments with his dad's side of the family. Basically that part of the family is very religious while he and I are not. We're not planning to get married in a church or by a priest.
Well it all started with a forwarded email from his grandmother which he took offense to and emailed everyone on his grandmother's list. The part of the email he took offense to was saying that people who died in Hurricane Katrina deserved it for taking God out of schools or something insane like that. So I read his response which was not attacking anyone or their religion, but a series of nasty emails ensued from his family. Things got not so nice and it's still going on. Mind you this is all happening over email. He invited people to call him or come over when we visit in about a week, but people are much more comfortable being nasty over email.
It's so out of hand! We weren't expecting them all to come anyway because we're not having a catholic wedding, but now we're pretty sure that 40-50 people aren't going to come. Anyone want to come to a wedding at Oheka? We have to guarantee 200!
Marissa09Bride
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You know what's bad? Neither of us really cares if they come, it's just for a head count!!!
I've only met a couple of people from his dad's side of the family and it was very brief. He doesn't really care for that side of the family either so it's not a big deal for him if they don't show up. He's never been very close to them.
I just feel bad for my fh getting into this and for his parents, especially his dad because he's caught in the middle.
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Thanks ladies. I've found that the wedding planning itself is not stressful. The family stuff is!
That just about says it all, give it some time for the problem to cool off, sometimes things fix themselves.....but you may need to have to address this yourselves and maybe everyone will come around.
mrsdraskin2009
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I'll come! People can be just ridiculous!
Jayla127
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With all the wedding planning, it is the family that is much more stressful then the actual planning. Families are very difficult to deal with because everyone wants to have a say in everything. But, stick to your guns and stand firm
PrincessBride09
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I agree! All of the family stuff is stressful and I am sorry about all that you are dealing with! I hope they realize what a mistake it would be to miss out on your wedding. If not, enjoy it and the people who are truly there to celebrate your marriage!
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Weddings bring out the good and bad in people...but its YOUR wedding. Get married however you want. Some of these people will get over it by then, and if they don't then maybe you'll have room to invite people that you may have left off the list because of previous constraints like coworkers for example.
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Yea Family is annoying , my grandparents on my fathers side got divorced 40 years ago because my grandfather cheated on my grandmother!! Since than they both remarried and my grandfather lives in Australia! My grandmother is still bothering me that if he shows up , she wont come. It is so petty and childish. It ***** how they can't suck up their opinions and feelings 4 one day to celebrate your special day!
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I will go! My MOH is getting married there this September. I love that place.
Families have a way of intervening and making everything about themselves. It is very annoying and I feel for you. Sorry to hear about it, but stay strong.
