FH has been getting into arguments with his dad's side of the family. Basically that part of the family is very religious while he and I are not. We're not planning to get married in a church or by a priest.
Well it all started with a forwarded email from his grandmother which he took offense to and emailed everyone on his grandmother's list. The part of the email he took offense to was saying that people who died in Hurricane Katrina deserved it for taking God out of schools or something insane like that. So I read his response which was not attacking anyone or their religion, but a series of nasty emails ensued from his family. Things got not so nice and it's still going on. Mind you this is all happening over email. He invited people to call him or come over when we visit in about a week, but people are much more comfortable being nasty over email.
It's so out of hand! We weren't expecting them all to come anyway because we're not having a catholic wedding, but now we're pretty sure that 40-50 people aren't going to come. Anyone want to come to a wedding at Oheka? We have to guarantee 200!
CMS
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I'll come and party with ya!!!!
Seriously, I'm sorry you have to go through this. They shouldn't be forcing their religious beliefs on you or 'punish' you by not going to the wedding just because you chose not to have a religious ceremony.
Sorry I couldn't be more helpful. I'm just really sorry you have to go through this!
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dont stress too much....hopefully by the time your wedding comes around they would all have realized that if they dont drop the arguement they will miss a really important aspect in the both of your lives...ya know, and that matters much more than stupid things said and wether or not you get married at a church and all the other bull families start war over when planning a wedding! If not Im def down for a wedding at Oheka!!!
Marissa09Bride
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Thanks ladies. I've found that the wedding planning itself is not stressful. The family stuff is!
PoppedInASnap
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We are concerned about that as well. The family has not really realized (his side) that we are not getting married by a priest or in a church. They see where were getting married and assume it is a church...
so i am sure that the majority will feel the same as yours...
just take this word of advice i got from a dear friend..
Its your wedding and your day. Do what makes you happy :)
PoppedInASnap
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ps- I will come and party!!! Whoever needs to fill a spot, let me know! Im a great guest haha
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I know that my family would be upset if we weren't getting married at a church but I don't think that it would be tot the point of them NOT COMINg.. so maybe there will be time for reconciliation in this situation!!!
but if not.. ill come to oheka and party! i love that place!
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Family is like that right now some people in my family are not getting along and than god they are in SD so I dont have to deal with which way to go.. I hope everything get solve before the wedding and dont try to think too much about it.. IF anything I wouldnt mind going to oheka to PAR-TY! I bring a present :P
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lol ok everyone Save the Date 7/11/09! At least I know people will be there actually enjoying it and not sulking!
PoppedInASnap
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Yup, we will all be there for u.... And we'll use the registry haha :)
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ill be there!!! it ***** that people do things over e-mail (even his grandma??!?!?!?!) b/c you cant express feeling over email. im sure by the time the wedding comes, everything will be settled. and if not, you really do have tons of 09 girls who would want to come!!
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Posted by mpasquar81
Thanks ladies. I've found that the wedding planning itself is not stressful. The family stuff is!
You got that right!!! I have to deal with FH's family. His mom was having an affair with the fathers business partner and now she married him. His father remarried but STILL ... Talk about DRAMA.
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Posted by KristiAnn923
Posted by mpasquar81
Thanks ladies. I've found that the wedding planning itself is not stressful. The family stuff is!
You got that right!!! I have to deal with FH's family. His mom was having an affair with the fathers business partner and now she married him. His father remarried but STILL ... Talk about DRAMA.
omg that is insane!!!!
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Posted by KristiAnn923
Posted by mpasquar81
Thanks ladies. I've found that the wedding planning itself is not stressful. The family stuff is!
You got that right!!! I have to deal with FH's family. His mom was having an affair with the fathers business partner and now she married him. His father remarried but STILL ... Talk about DRAMA.
omg that is insane!!!!
I could write a book with all the **** going on in my family. But I try to stay positive about everything. But sometimes I want to just run off and get married in Vegas
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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Posted by mpasquar81
Thanks ladies. I've found that the wedding planning itself is not stressful. The family stuff is!
Can I get an AMEN! Yes, I'm being looked down on b/c i dont want the traditional stuff or the religious ceremony ... but i dont care... i've had enough of fam's crap...
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I'm so sorry you are going throught this....family can sometime STINK!
But heck since you asked.....I would love to go to a wedding at Oheka!
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aw im sorry you have to deal with that. im with you 100% though, its the family part of wedding planning that makes it so stressful, and takes the fun out of it. try not to let it get to you to much, hopefully things will blow over during the next year.
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Dont feel so bad, if they really care for the both of you they will set aside their differences to share in your moment. They will regret it forever if they dont come.
But if they dont....still remember that its best not to let them stress you out.
My family is oppossed to my getting married and I could care less...
I LOOK AT IT AS THEIR LOSS!!!!
Good luck
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dont stress i was going through the same thing now things are ok i hope all works out for you
