So yestarday I was all excited, ordered my dress and 2 of my 3 girls decided they like the dress I picked out and we just have to decide on colors. Now my flower girl is going to wear the smaller version of their dresses, no big deal. My other BM, my BBF, wasnt so happy.
Now this was the only time I could get my sister, she is in nursing school and has NO time til the summer. So since she gave the day I took advatage of it. My FSIL was able to go as well. My other BM couldnt get off even with 2 months notice, fine we can make an appiontment with her another day, that's what I thought.
So I call her and I can hear it in her voice that she wasnt excited at all, not even for me getting my dress. She asked me to email her the dress for the girls again and we get off the phone. I email her the site page and later last night she was online. I ask her what she thought she said they were OK. Now so you know she isnt happy with anything I ve ever picked out because she has gained weight and isnt comfortable with anything. Understandable but, everything she picks is from the 80's. Plus she doesnt like her under arms and wants sleeves.
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I'm getting marriedin August no one wants to wear sleeves, not even my sister whoi hates dresses and hasnt woren one since her PROM!!!! And I'm not talking tank sleeves either. So I tell her it'll cost her but, get a jacket made to match the dress but, dont wear it in pics or during the ceremnoy. Fine since she is worried about when she dances and lifts her arms up but, she'll have to deal with the sweat marks.
Ok so now that you know that...... We were texting eachother back and forth last night and I said that she isnt satisfied with anything I pick out , not even my dress. And she said she is always honest and she doesnt like my dress!!!! Fine but, you can find something nice about it and say something about that. She feels I should wear something tight and sleeky. Since I lost all this weight, bla bla bla. I'm the bride and I am going to wear what makes me feel like a bride and thats that. I didnt expect the dress I am getting to be my gown, I thought simple but, hey its my day!
So to finish this long vent and go get my sons hair cut off
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I dont know what she is going to do. She told me know she is F U C K I N P I S S E D off. So am I. I texted her after she said that and told her I want her to be in the wedding but, that I feel that she is uncomfortable with herself and no matter what dress is picked she wont be happy. Like I said she has gained but, if she doesnt want to be in the party for that reason fine, I'll be hurt and upset for along time but, its her decision just like it was when I asked her.
Please no one take the weight gain as an insult, I am saying this because she tells me all the time how she feels in regular clothes.
****Also forgot that she she after it being OK, that it doesnt matter what she likes WE made up our minds**** Mind you I changed from tea-length to long dress cause she wanted that
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I understand that she wants to make a decision also but, then she should have been there as well. 2 months is plenty of time to get off from work.*****
******UPDATE***** After telling Fh what happend he is soooo P I S S E D and now doesnt want her in the wedding!!!
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I am going to have to wait for him to cool down and talk with him later. Then after that I'll have to deal with her. He says it is my DAY and no one should ruin it and he doesnt want anything or anyone like that to put stress on me now or the day of. I'll keep you guys updated
