1st Wedding meltdown vent

oct13bride Posted: Jul 15, 2011 03:47 PM

1st Wedding meltdown vent

Ok so I just signed my RH contract on Monday for reception to start@1. This after FH checked with church to make sure we could have a 10 AM wedding so we would have time for pics& to actually enjoy our cocktail hour. Well I get home today to a message from the church saying they can't start until 11 AM. I have spoken with the church & they apologize for giving wrong info but won't budge on giving us the 10AM. Of course reception can't move the time it isn't their fault I don't blame them.

So now I don't know what to do-do I take pics before the wedding & lose the whole thing of FH seeing me for 1st time walking down the aisle, have wedding done@RH and lose the whole Catholic church sacrament, or just miss the entire cocktail hour? I could really use the opinions of my fellow 2012 brides-PLEASE HELP!!!!!

seantaraod Posted: Jul 15, 2011 03:52 PM

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I would say to miss the cocktail hour. And I dont say that easily, because I made it clear that I wanted to be a part of mine. BUT, my photographer was like 'You know, you are going to get completely attacked at the cocktail hour and you wont even be able to enjoy'... He has a point.

CaughtMyFish Posted: Jul 15, 2011 03:53 PM

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Its really what is MOST important to you! If the church is really important, maybe do a 'reveal' and see FH before the ceremony so you can get pictures done and not miss the CH.

We are getting married @ the RH and still doing the reveal bc we dont want to miss our CH, and we even extended it to 90 mins to ensure that.

oct13bride Posted: Jul 15, 2011 03:57 PM

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If it was just me & FH missing CH maybe I wouldn't feel so bad but my bridal party well have to miss it also for the photos I'm sooooo confused

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Jul 15, 2011 03:59 PM

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If it makes you feel any better ive been a bridesmaid about 9 million times and not once did I make it to CH.

ndeokinanan Posted: Jul 15, 2011 05:04 PM

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I would do a special reveal with FH before the ceremony. This is definitely more intimate.

oct13bride Posted: Jul 15, 2011 05:10 PM

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Thank you ladies for your suggestions!!! It makes me feel better just being able to vent on here with people who can relate

Rivera2be Posted: Jul 15, 2011 05:26 PM

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I'm in the same boat as you, my church can do the ceremony the earliest for us at 2:30 and my CH starts at 5pm and is about 45 min away from the church.
I talked about a reveal with FH but he's against seeing me before the ceremony. I think we're just going to have to miss the cocktail hour.

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Jul 15, 2011 05:34 PM

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I'm also gonna miss my own CH. I personally do not want to do a reveal so we will be taking pics during CH.

midnight26 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 06:34 PM

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is that particular church the only one you want? you can always go to another catholic church and try to get the time you need....just a thought

BklynBabe1624 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 06:47 PM

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It depends on what is important to you. If marrying your fiance in the church is important, than I would say keep the church as your ceremony and take pictures afterwards. I do like the surprise of having the man seeing his bride for the first time down the aisle.

However, maybe you can ask the RH to make the cocktail hour a half hour later and perhaps you can make the cocktail hour in time? I would see if you can do this.

Either way, find what is important to you and work from there.

ksugar44 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 07:00 PM

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I would see each other before and take pics before. I would not want to miss my cocktail hour. We are seeing each other before...I had to come to terms with this but now I feel good about it!

Supermans Posted: Jul 15, 2011 09:04 PM

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i say this over and over.. but it's not gonna stop me from saying it again. lol.

I was TOTALY OPPOSED to seeing FH before the wedding... until i got to see a 'first reveal' at my BF's wedding.

It was the most romantic and intimate thing i've ever seen.

I cannot wait until my first reveal with FH.

linda_art Posted: Jul 15, 2011 09:34 PM

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I'm biased bc we are paying for every little penny and neither of us want to miss any of it.

StephanieJoy Posted: Jul 16, 2011 07:46 PM

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Posted by ndeokinanan

I would do a special reveal with FH before the ceremony. This is definitely more intimate.

this is what we are going to do we are getting married at the RH

Beautyconsultantbk Posted: Jul 16, 2011 09:18 PM

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I say do an intimate reveal before the ceremony

bella_bride Posted: Jul 16, 2011 10:20 PM

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I personally would not do the reveal, instead I would look for another church. Good luck, I'm sure it will all work out.

dunnkat Posted: Jul 16, 2011 10:43 PM

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How about doing as many pictures possible with family/ bm's before the wedding , and then you only need to do group and husb wife shots after? This is what we are doing ,one photographer will get gm pics at the church and one will get the girls and my parents at the hotel.

pixietina Posted: Jul 17, 2011 12:01 AM

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Posted by dunnkat

How about doing as many pictures possible with family/ bm's before the wedding , and then you only need to do group and husb wife shots after? This is what we are doing ,one photographer will get gm pics at the church and one will get the girls and my parents at the hotel.

This sounds like a good idea and you can also do a reveal.