When I had originally gotten engaged and told my closest friend from college that I had gotten engaged, we agreed she would be my MOH. Unfortunately she lives OOT and has not been able to assist in any of the wedding planning. We haven't been talking as often because she lives so far away.
At the same time, I got reunited with one of my closest childhood friends who is local AND loves everything about wedding planning. I also told her that she is my MOH. This childhood friend has acted like a true MOH (went to appointments with me, hair/make up trial, DIY projects, planning my bridal shower/bachelorette party, etc. etc.)
Now it's wedding time and the first MOH is hurt and upset that I have another MOH.
I know it's totally my fault and now I don't know what to do.
My options are:
1. Print 2 MOH on the programs and have no MOH toast at the reception 2. Have the original MOH be printed on the program and have no toast at the reception 3. Have only the second MOH be printed on the program and do the toast at the reception and risk hurting the first MOH's feelings 4. Have no MOH listed on the program and just have bridesmaids (FH will still have a best man)
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I don't need this additional stress 3 weeks before the wedding!!!
What would you do if you were me?
diva7531
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Re: 2 MOH Drama - Help!
Posted by DGoldfarb0776
My personal opinion is this:
Keep both MoH's since they both mean very much to you even though one is so involved and the other not so involved.
Have both of them do a brief MoH toast (side by side so one does not seem favored over the other) and keep it brief though.
HTH
This is my suggestion as well. You asked both, so they both are. It would be rude and unfair to leave either of them out in any way. JMHO
poisonivy918
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Re: 2 MOH Drama - Help!
I had almost the same exact problem. except no one was out of town. just my one friend who is still my moh works a lot. she is barely ever free, but she tries. the other one came with me to everything and helped a lot. until a huge fight with my fiance, that she jumped into. now she hates him and decided not to be part of the bridal party. than again it was for the best considering she has no job, no money, etc. it wouldn't have been fair to the other moh to pay for everything, while she just rides along. besides that it's perfectly okay to have 2 moh's. but they are gonna both be jealous of each other. mine 2 were. it's like taking the spotlight because it's supposed to be a really special thing or something. my 1 moh now sure was happy when she became the 1 and only.
my whole bridal party helps me in different ways, not just my moh. since she works so much. even today one of my girls is bringing me to a makeup trial since fh has the car.
anyway you should just go along with doing everything as you have 2. write both names, let them both do toasts if they want. you can't let one do more than the other.
