A ? for those whos fmil's are paying for the RD

Original post by AJsMommy122

Apr 27, 2004 07:51 PM

I dont know if my fmil is paying for our RD or not.. fh says if he tells her shes supposed to take care of it she wont have a problem doing so... my question is did you let your fmil pick and book the resturant or did she just give you the money and you did it all???

Personally I would much prefer that she give me the money and I take care of everything.. and she dosent want to run around making plans for it so im sure that will be fine with her.. just wondering..

August2004 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 12:16 PM

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FI's parents are paying for the RD, but I am decorating it and sending out the invites. I will, of course consult with them before anything, but I think they trust my judgement overall. We get along very well so this is not really an issue for us.

sassy2611 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 12:23 PM

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My FHMIL is paying for the RD. My FH and I decided we wanted to have the RD at his house and have it catered. Because our wedding is a three day event and we did not want to have to get dressed up again before the wedding. Usually the FIL pay for the RD every wedding i have been in they have done it so i think that's how it goes. Good Luck.

steph4777 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 12:25 PM

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My FILs are paying for the RD.

Since they are not from NY, I gave them some suggestions and menus. When we visited NY in March we went to see a few places and decided on Jillian's in Westbury. FH and I wanted something casual and fun.

The only thing I don't like is that she is inviting ALL OOT people. I know you're supposed to, but 60% of our guests are OOT. It's gonna be like a freakin' circus with like 100+ people there. We told her we didnt want that many people there, but she basically said etiquette says it's her responsibility and since she's paying...her choice.

FH and I are gonna take our BP out to dinner Thurs evening for something more personal and to give them their gifts.

KelOct04 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 01:23 PM

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The 3 of us.. me, FH and FMIL chose the place together. And she is paying for it.
We are going there on friday to book it and get prices. I'll let you know how that goes.
Kelly

MrsBrad Posted: Apr 28, 2004 01:28 PM

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She is taking care of all it, but FH and I have been giving her some ideas. Or she thinks of a local and we approve. I will provide her with the guest list and stuff - but to be honest, I dont want to be bothered with it.

molly25 Posted: Apr 28, 2004 09:47 PM

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I always heard the RD is fh's parents responsibility. They weren't saying anything so we just chose and put a deposit on a place ourselves. Then FH just told his parents about the place we picked and they said not to worry about it,that theywere going to take care of the bill. So we were so relieved. One less thing to worry about.