A MOM VENT

A MOM VENT

Ok, Can I just say I have HAD IT WITH MY MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I emailed her some pictures of wedding dresses that I like, and she emails me back, 'They're very nice, honey, but you could never fit into anything like that.'
Who says that to their daughter???????? Everytime I want to go look at dresses, which is not often since I live 4 hours away, she says to me,'I think you have about 20lbs to lose before you even think about looking at a dress.'
I have told her to stop over and over, and she is just so awful to me when it comes to my weight. I'm not even that overweight, I am just so aggravated. She will never ever change. I knew this would happen because she's been telling me since I was 10 that I am fat, no matter how much weight I lose, there's always those 'few extra pounds' that she has to point out. I just give up.

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oh honey.... that's terrible..... i don't even know what to tell you!

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That is such a shame that your mother puts so much pressure on you and is making you self concious. Remind her that this is YOUR wedding and YOUR special day, and to please not let her ruin it for you! If you want me to straighten her out for you I will LOL! Go enjoy trying dresses on and you pick out the dress that you feel most beautiful in!!!!

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Holy ****, ahh my mom always says but your a big girl.

Sorry

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I am so sorry, I am sure you are a beautiful girl just the way you are.

Have you told her this really hurts you?

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I'm so sorry Just know in your heart -- you will be a beautiful bride no matter what your mom says!

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my god that is horrible! I don't know anything else to tell you. But in order to help yourself, I would not include your mother in the dress picking.

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Rachel, I am so sorry about this...why do some people not think before they speak?

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My mother said the same thing to me. So I said back. 'I have started a new diet for the wedding.' she got very excited...'I wanted to see how much weight I could gain before the wedding!' She got so upset and said that I shouldn't do that. My mother only sees my fat not me so she got it back!

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Better than mine I got you beat. Mine goes back and forth - she has told me in the past I won't go and look with you until you lose 50lbs. Then she also said and we won't pay for photo and video until you lose either. Makes me so mad when SHE KNOWS that they think it is my thyroid and I have to go for further tests

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I'm so sorry girls!! That's horrible! Don't listen to them. You will all look GORGEOUS on your wedding day.

Christine: I have met you and I think you're perfect JUST THE WAY you are. If you lost 50lbs you'd be invisible!!!

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i FEEL SORRY FOR YOU--BUT EAVE MOM HOME, AND GO OUT WITH YOUR MOH AND GO DRESS SHOPPING......FIND YOUR DRESS THAT MAKES YOU FEEL BEAUTIFUL...THEN IF YOU CHOOSE TO TELL MOM YOU FOUND YOUR DRESS, SHOW HER IT AFTER YOU PURCHASE IT......

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you go and get the dress you love.

To add to October's post, go without your mom but with your MOH or a cousin or something and when you find the dress you love, purchase it.

Now here's the kicker, find the most ugliest, poofiest dress you could possible find. remake of the 80's type dress. maybe the dress Laura wore when she married luke on GH (I was a baby, but you gotta love soapnet) and tell her that is the dress you love and you're going to wear.

Then when she flips show her a pic of you in the dress you really did choose.

Maybe that will fix her....

You'll look gorgous no matter what you choose

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Totally agree with october! Perhaps you should cut her out of giving her input on major decisions. You will look fantastic! I know its your mom, but people who say such unkind things are truly unhappy individuals themselves! When your mother wonders why you don't want to share, remind her of the old adage'If you can't say anything nice don't say it at all'. You should not be robbed of the joy of all your wedding plans for one second! I am so upset for you, but please ignore her and enjoy yourself. Bottom line: the day is all about Y-O-U and what you want it to be!

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I am sorry that she said that to you. That is awful! Just remember if you are happy with how you look and your FI then that is ALL that matters. I have been to many weddings (brides of all sizes) and with the exception of the one that looked like an upside down pineapple (i swear) everyone one of them looked beautiful. Oct & the other girls are right take your MOH and friends and go! Enjoy yourself and don't listen when people are being negative!

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Just ignore her if you can. You will look beautiful.

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I don't know what to say.... I am soo sorry your mom keeps putting you down... and to all the other ladies with the same problem... I just don't understand what goes through their heads sometimes... I guess the easiest thing to say is to try and ignore her and like others have said bring your MOH or another honest friend and start your search...

A bride is beautiful, no matter what shape or size!!!

Cut your mother off, if she doesn't stop, no more input from her!!!

I hope everything works out for you!