A vent on behalf of another bride..

So us being brides, we are all a lot more sensitive to what happens to each other and when other people are being thoughtless towards the 'brides' feelings. I just had to share...

So, one of my best friends (who is not my MOH thankfully, lol...) is a bm for her FSIL (the bride) and the MOH is the sister of the bride. Well my friend has been organizing the whole bachlorette party because the sister is an a-hole and doesnt really want to help, saying because its a second marriage, who cares, etc. etc. So I know my friend is doing a nice thing by planning the bach party but she knew this going in and now shes complaining about how shes not helping and then passing judgement and not contributing as much money as she should be. My friend said that she was going to tell the bride what was going on so she could figure out with her sister everything. I told her to NOT do that because as a bride, you want to enjoy your bach party and not have to deal with the planning of it and people fighting...the bride already knows how her sister is and I just think it would be nice if my friend could just deal with it instead of putting it all on the bride. Well, of course she doesnt listen and goes and tells the bride last night everythinggg, going on and on and the bride goes well I guess if you need money for the bach party, Ill put some money down. OMG!! See, of course, she felt bad and I know shes annoyed that they cant just work it out.

Anyway, I want to say to my friend, if I was the bride in this situation I would be pissed that you were putting the stress on me but I cant say that so Im being driven crazy by her ways.

Ok vent over, people dont think!!

Re: A vent on behalf of another bride..

The bottom line is this...people don't care about the bride even though they should.... that's my realization. My MOH is being soooooo insensitive about what she says to me and my wishes... I can't even get into it. She's jealous that I have a matron of honor and well as a maid. it seems she wanted to be the only one .... but she's not! I hope it all works out for your friend... weddings are stressful. I hope no one ruins the experience for her!

::hugs for all ::

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People are ridiculous. It's the bride and groom's ONE DAY to just relax, enjoy, and not have to fret. Others should just let them enjoy it.

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I think and this is just totally my own opinion. It doesnt matter if a girl is married, if she has a bf, if shes the kind of girl who never wants to get married, or if she just has everything going great in her life, BUT she is not THE BRIDE, shes JEALOUS OF THE BRIDE!!!!!!!. I think people get jealous of the Bride for NUMEROUS SELFISH reasons. They are jealous that this girl is getting married before them OR Jealous that this girl is getting and going to get all the attention.

I have seen the green eyed monster come out of friends I NEVER expected it to. I hear it in the snide answers I get or the lil digs that are in the answers. Or the attitude or the very unemotional or unenthusiastic reaction I get when I mention Ive bought something IM SOO excited about for the big day. Ive already had them cause an issue for my bachelorette party. And to be QUITE HONEST, its changed how I feel about them. I cant help it. I love them but I feel something IN ME has changed towards them and I cant get it back to what it was.

I get more of a reaction from girls on THIS site that ARENT my BF's than I do from my own friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =/

It is what it is. I will remember it when its their turn.

Re: A vent on behalf of another bride..

ITA....I always spared the bride's feelings as a BM. The MOB always knew what was going on and after the HM...a couple of my friends heard about the drama and thanked me for helping out so much. As a BM... you're one of the 'wedding planners', so its kinda your responsibility to make sure it goes right for the bride, no matter what. That is how I always felt.... and the ladies I chose as my BMs feel the same way - thankfully!!!