Addressing Envelopes

I have a question about addressing the envelopes.
I am being told that if you have a couple (can be engaged) that the outer envelope would be addressed to Mr. Joseph Smith & guest and then the inner envelope would be Joseph Smith & Jane Doe. I am trying to figure out if both names should appear on the outside envelope.
How is everyone addressing their envelopes?

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If you are inviting a couple - both names should be on the inner and outer. You really shouldn't use '& Guest' at all.

For my envelopes I used:

Mr. John Smith
Ms. Jane Doe

or

John & Jane Smith

or

Mr. & Mrs. Smith



or

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I addressed mine to both of them if I knew for sure that their SO was still in the picture or if they were engaged. So my outside envelope read:
Mr. John Smith and Ms. Jane Doe

I've also seen where you could just address it to Mr. John Smith and then on the inside have John and Jane.

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For couples who are not married and engaged or living together, I am addressing the outside envelope to the main guest and then using the inside envelope to say 'and guest' or the person's name, which is better to do if you know it.

So, 'Mr. John Doe' on outside envelope
Mr. Doe and Guest on inside envelope

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I have this situation. Im putting both names on the envelope:

Miss Tara Smith and Mr. Anthony Brown

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I heard 'and Guest' should never appear on the outside envelope or children for that matter.

I addressed them

Mr. Chris Smith on the outside
and
Chris and Guest on the inside

If they were living together or engaged both their names appear on the outside and inside envelopes.

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I have several older relatives who are widows/ers, who are currently not involved with anyone. I was thinking of inviting them with a guest so they have the option of not coming to the wedding alone - is it acceptable to use 'and guest' in this situation? Or would you invite them singularly?

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I'm engaged (obviously!) and just got an invite addressed to me on the outer, and then on the inside it listed both of our names. (but we don't live together)

I agree with the 'guest' part though...that should only be on the inner envelope.

So, now I'm doing my invites and I don't know what to do! Do you think people really even notice...or is it just us brides that really pay attention!? (I even noticed a typo in my friend's invitation...but only because I was really checking it out!)

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I have this with my FI aunts, one is widowed and the other not dating anyone (I think they will come together since they live together but...I addressed them to each of them on the outer envelopes, Mrs. Susan Smith and then on the inside I put Aunt Susan and Guest.

Hope this helps.

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I agree with most posters here...

the outer envelope is for the post office and the mailman...if they are living together...list them both...

If they are not...put the 'main' person on the outer and both names on the inner...

as for older singles...I did not invite them with guests on the envelopes, but they were well aware that if they wanted to bring someone they could...

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I put both names on the inner and outter envelopes. I have seen it sometimes where just one name is on the outter and both on the inner. We put everybodys name on the envelopes that were dating, living together, engaged. My FH just got an invitation to his cousins wedding and it said his name and guest on it. On the day of the wedding we will be husband and wife. Very Rude!!

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Cindy...I agree that is very rude as well, it isn't like the two of you are casually dating. Maybe they didn't know your name? I still would rather have someone take a stab at my name. I had a couple who is invited to our wedding but getting married September 7th (our wedding is 10/13), since our invite will get to them before their wedding date I put both their names on the inner and outer envelopes (her maiden name) but by the time they come to our wedding, they will be married.

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stacedz-
Thanks...No, she knows my name. Got my invite three weeks prior to sending hers out. Also got an invite to my shower which she never showed up and stuck us with the extra plate. We included her fiancees name on her invite even though FH never met him. Do I need to say more or does this explain what how wonderful they are to me???
All Their loss!!

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Cindy, you are right...their loss!!