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KayRA23 Posted: Sep 20, 2014 09:20 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 09:20 AM

Addressing Invites

Ok so how do you address invited to couples that are not married? I've seen like Andrew smith and guest but is that rude if you know Andrew's gf? Should we be going around asking all their gfs last names and putting both on the invite?

rcotter90 Posted: Sep 20, 2014 09:45 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 09:45 AM

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I don't think it's rude to put 'Mr. John Smith & Guest' if you don't know their last name. FH still gets wedding invites for us that say '& Guest'.

Alyssa M Posted: Sep 20, 2014 10:04 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 10:04 AM

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Personally I would be insulted if I received an invitation with 'and guest' written on it. We got one when we were still engaged and I found it very tacky. I would try to find out what the last name is (maybe facebook?), especially if you know her/have met her before.

Brittney22 Posted: Sep 20, 2014 10:14 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 10:14 AM

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Posted by Alyssa M

Personally I would be insulted if I received an invitation with 'and guest' written on it. We got one when we were still engaged and I found it very tacky. I would try to find out what the last name is (maybe facebook?), especially if you know her/have met her before.

FH just got a save the date and they didn't know my last name so i guess they looked it up on facebook because it was addressed to my first and middle name (I don't have my last name due to work) LOL. But if it is someone in serious relationship I would definitely put a name not guest.

kellynicole91 Posted: Sep 20, 2014 10:49 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 10:49 AM

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If they're in a serious relationship and you know the person, then I would put the other person's name on the invite. If you don't know them, I would put guest (I've gotten this a few times and I wasn't insulted at all).

coffeeisgreen Posted: Sep 20, 2014 11:03 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 11:03 AM

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If I know the girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I know they are serious, I include their name. The worst was twice I was given just 'and guest' when the couples knew me for years and knew we were serious! So a name is a nice sign of respect and acknowledgement to the relationship.

ChristineNicole Posted: Sep 20, 2014 11:29 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 11:29 AM

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Posted by coffeeisgreen

If I know the girlfriend (or boyfriend) and I know they are serious, I include their name. The worst was twice I was given just 'and guest' when the couples knew me for years and knew we were serious! So a name is a nice sign of respect and acknowledgement to the relationship.

Agree!

Lisa715 Posted: Sep 20, 2014 11:56 AM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 11:56 AM

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I just did this and I put Mr John Smith and Ms. Jane Jones. We actually just got an invite that was addressed to FH family (Smith Family) and didn't include my name. We don't live together yet, so I told FH that I guess I'm not invited....lol

KayRA23 Posted: Sep 20, 2014 12:01 PM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 12:01 PM

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Yeah the problem really is the friends gfs last names were not close close with them and I have no idea what some of their last names are at all-- tried fb couldn't find them or not in there

JaimeLin Posted: Sep 20, 2014 06:15 PM+

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Posted: Sep 20, 2014 06:15 PM

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Have FH ask his friends for the girls last name. If it people you're not that crazy close with then don't worry and just put guest.

haw4 Posted: Sep 21, 2014 07:18 AM+

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Posted: Sep 21, 2014 07:18 AM

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We only invited people with guests if they had been dating their SO for awhile so I asked everyone for spelling of their last name. fH didn't want it to say 'and guest' becUse that means people could literally bring anyone.

shellabella2 Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:23 AM+

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Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:23 AM

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FH and I got invited to a wedding like two months before we got engaged and the invite was addressed to FH and Guest. I thought it was funny because we were definitely in a serious relationship.. The groom was a good friend of FH and FH even told him about his plans to propose. Anyway.. After some jokes about whether or not he was going to bring me, we moved on..

Now it's my turn to address STD. There is a friend of ours who was with his girlfriend for a years and had picked up a second job to start saving for a ring (the girl knew this).. A month after we sent STD, she broke up with him. He was devastated but I was glad I addressed it to '& Guest' .. I like the girl but am not close with her so if she's not coming with him, there's no need for her to be invited.

Long story short.. I say go with ' & Guest'.. It may seem weird to serious couples.. But in actuality you never know what's going to happen...

ChristineNicole Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:37 AM+

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Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:37 AM

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Posted by shellabella2

FH and I got invited to a wedding like two months before we got engaged and the invite was addressed to FH and Guest. I thought it was funny because we were definitely in a serious relationship.. The groom was a good friend of FH and FH even told him about his plans to propose. Anyway.. After some jokes about whether or not he was going to bring me, we moved on..

Now it's my turn to address STD. There is a friend of ours who was with his girlfriend for a years and had picked up a second job to start saving for a ring (the girl knew this).. A month after we sent STD, she broke up with him. He was devastated but I was glad I addressed it to '& Guest' .. I like the girl but am not close with her so if she's not coming with him, there's no need for her to be invited.

Long story short.. I say go with ' & Guest'.. It may seem weird to serious couples.. But in actuality you never know what's going to happen...

This is true! My best friend and her boyfriend were together for over four years and last week they suddenly broke up. Both of their names are on the invitation for my engagement party, and he is still coming to it which I am fine with. But you really do not know what is going to happen! If you are more comfortable putting 'and guest' on the invites to couples who are not yet engaged, then go for it! If the couple is engaged, I would try my hardest to find out their last name. We got invited to two weddings where the invites said 'and guest' and we were engaged, but at the wedding both our names were on the place cards, etc.

KayRA23 Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:41 AM+

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Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:41 AM

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Posted by ChristineNicole

Posted by shellabella2

FH and I got invited to a wedding like two months before we got engaged and the invite was addressed to FH and Guest. I thought it was funny because we were definitely in a serious relationship.. The groom was a good friend of FH and FH even told him about his plans to propose. Anyway.. After some jokes about whether or not he was going to bring me, we moved on..

Now it's my turn to address STD. There is a friend of ours who was with his girlfriend for a years and had picked up a second job to start saving for a ring (the girl knew this).. A month after we sent STD, she broke up with him. He was devastated but I was glad I addressed it to '& Guest' .. I like the girl but am not close with her so if she's not coming with him, there's no need for her to be invited.

Long story short.. I say go with ' & Guest'.. It may seem weird to serious couples.. But in actuality you never know what's going to happen...

This is what FH said lol

KayRA23 Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:42 AM+

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Posted: Sep 21, 2014 08:42 AM

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Posted by haw4

We only invited people with guests if they had been dating their SO for awhile so I asked everyone for spelling of their last name. fH didn't want it to say 'and guest' becUse that means people could literally bring anyone.

This is my thought so I guess we're a little torn lol

Bride2Be1023 Posted: Sep 22, 2014 06:33 AM+

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Posted: Sep 22, 2014 06:33 AM

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I have found it extremely insulting to be addressed to as 'guest' on envelopes. It honestly really hurt my feelings. I have contacted my friends to ask the spelling of their significant other's last names and put them down in order to not have to hurt anyone's feelings. I think you should contact them and ask- and if they break up- I'm sure your friend knows they are still able to bring another guest.

Kimberley2015 Posted: Sep 22, 2014 08:57 AM+

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Posted: Sep 22, 2014 08:57 AM

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We addressed both their names as we are not having any guests having a plus one. Long story shirt but fortunately for us our single friends are perfectly fine coming by themselves. Whew!

kaselyn Posted: Sep 22, 2014 11:27 AM+

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Posted: Sep 22, 2014 11:27 AM

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I'd put the names only if I was close with them and they've been dating 2+ years. If not, I'd say guest. Worst case, If they break up, I don't think they'll go if they know the other is going unless they're both very close to you.

JessicaP07 Posted: Sep 22, 2014 11:36 AM+

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Posted: Sep 22, 2014 11:36 AM

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Posted by Bride2Be1023

I have found it extremely insulting to be addressed to as 'guest' on envelopes. It honestly really hurt my feelings. I have contacted my friends to ask the spelling of their significant other's last names and put them down in order to not have to hurt anyone's feelings. I think you should contact them and ask- and if they break up- I'm sure your friend knows they are still able to bring another guest.

I agree 100%. This has happened to me & I was very insulted.