One of my guests hyphenates her name. How do I address her invitation since technically her last name is different that that of her husband?
#1 Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones #2 Mr. John Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones #3 Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
BlondeJD
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
I would go with #2 but have the breaks like this (this is what my calligrapher did with married couples that have different last names -- kind of the same situation):
Mr. John Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones 1234 Any Street Anytown, US 55555
akaMrsT
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Posted by Goldi1021
One of my guests hyphenates her name. How do I address her invitation since technically her last name is different that that of her husband?
#1 Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones #2 Mr. John Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones #3 Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
My friend hypenates and likes the Mr. and Mrs. John Jones example. Two other friends did not change their name at all but both prefer Mr. and Mrs. John Jones. I went through this for Christmas cards
Goldi1021
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Everyone has to be so darn progressive! It confuses the bejeezus out of me!
BlondeJD
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Posted by akaMrsT
Posted by Goldi1021
One of my guests hyphenates her name. How do I address her invitation since technically her last name is different that that of her husband?
#1 Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones #2 Mr. John Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones #3 Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
My friend hypenates and likes the Mr. and Mrs. John Jones example. Two other friends did not change their name at all but both prefer Mr. and Mrs. John Jones. I went through this for Christmas cards
That's how I would think too if I was a hyphenated person, but then I'd worry about the hard core people who are like 'that's my legal name. How dare you get rid of 1/2 my legal name.' I'm just saying that they're out there Goldi, I hope you aren't inviting anyone that crazy to your wedding though!
Goldi1021
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Posted by jenniesunshine Goldi, I hope you aren't inviting anyone that crazy to your wedding though!
There is always one looney-tune that will make your life crazy.
dpli
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
I think I remember seeing in my etiquette book (when I was addressing invitations ) that the woman's name comes first on the inner envelopes, so I chose #1, but I am not entirely sure that is correct.
As someone who did not change her name, I really don't mind if we get things as 'Mr. & Mrs.' like invitations and Christmas cards. I don't really see it as a big deal, it isn't my name, but usually I know the person doesn't know I don't have DH's name or it is just easier to write it that way.
nylisa
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
I did mine like #2.
marymoon
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Posted by jenniesunshine
Posted by akaMrsT
Posted by Goldi1021
One of my guests hyphenates her name. How do I address her invitation since technically her last name is different that that of her husband?
#1 Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones #2 Mr. John Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones #3 Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
My friend hypenates and likes the Mr. and Mrs. John Jones example. Two other friends did not change their name at all but both prefer Mr. and Mrs. John Jones. I went through this for Christmas cards
That's how I would think too if I was a hyphenated person, but then I'd worry about the hard core people who are like 'that's my legal name. How dare you get rid of 1/2 my legal name.' I'm just saying that they're out there Goldi, I hope you aren't inviting anyone that crazy to your wedding though!
I think #2 is correct. Not to hijack, but I'm not changing my name, and I'd be pissed if people addressed me as 'Mrs. John Jones. I don't really think that's crazy. Even if I were to hyphenate. That's my name Smith-Jones. Sorry if it's inconvenient or different, but that's my name. I don't think it's crazy at all. i think you need to respect everyone's full name
BlondeJD
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Posted by marymoon
I think #2 is correct. Not to hijack, but I'm not changing my name, and I'd be pissed if people addressed me as 'Mrs. John Jones. I don't really think that's crazy. Even if I were to hyphenate. That's my name Smith-Jones. Sorry if it's inconvenient or different, but that's my name. I don't think it's crazy at all. i think you need to respect everyone's full name
You are crazy for not being traditional I'm just kidding. I wasn't referring to people who choose to hypenate (I'm still strongly considering it myself). I was just referring to a situation where Goldi might get calls from people who were EXTREMELY upset about not having their full last name on the invitation. That's why I suggested #2 because I know that I would prefer to receive the invite that way if I chose to hyphenate, though I wouldn't make a huge deal about it to the bride if she sent it to me as Mrs. Smith. I'm just saying that there might be people on her guest list who would call her to complain. Sorry for the confusion!
akaMrsT
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Posted by marymoon
Posted by jenniesunshine
Posted by akaMrsT
Posted by Goldi1021
One of my guests hyphenates her name. How do I address her invitation since technically her last name is different that that of her husband?
#1 Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. John Jones #2 Mr. John Jones and Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones #3 Mr. and Mrs. John Jones
My friend hypenates and likes the Mr. and Mrs. John Jones example. Two other friends did not change their name at all but both prefer Mr. and Mrs. John Jones. I went through this for Christmas cards
That's how I would think too if I was a hyphenated person, but then I'd worry about the hard core people who are like 'that's my legal name. How dare you get rid of 1/2 my legal name.' I'm just saying that they're out there Goldi, I hope you aren't inviting anyone that crazy to your wedding though!
I think #2 is correct. Not to hijack, but I'm not changing my name, and I'd be pissed if people addressed me as 'Mrs. John Jones. I don't really think that's crazy. Even if I were to hyphenate. That's my name Smith-Jones. Sorry if it's inconvenient or different, but that's my name. I don't think it's crazy at all. i think you need to respect everyone's full name
That is exactly why I asked this question already to my married friends with hypenated names or who still use maiden names. I didn't want any drama over a Christmas card. Two of the ladies are 'Dr.' and kept maiden names so I just decided to call and ask before writing Dr. Jane Smith and Mr. John Jones.
ETA - I'm not changing my name either hence the aka :)
marymoon
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
Oh ok. I thought you said getting upset about it would be crazy. I wouldn't call someonenup and yell at them about it, unless it was like the 10th time they did it even after we told them my name was not Mrs. John Jones.
nsgraham
Posted:
Member since
Re: Addressing to a hyphenated person
I did (do)
Mrs. Mary Smith-Jones and Mr. Bill Jones
Although I'm torn on the Mrs. vs. Ms. - tradtionally (way back), you can't even be Mrs. Mary Jones, you're offically Mrs. Bill Jones or just Mrs. Jones, as Mrs. only indicates 'Wife of'. I personally like (use) Ms., but I don't mind Mrs. either.
Sorry to get off track - Anyway:
Woman first because the woman always comes first on offical invites if the names are different.
