Advice and Suggestions Needed
Hey Ladies!
I'm a first time poster but long time troller on the boards. I just want to say that I've gotten so much great information and ideas from you! You are an incredibly creative, passionate bunch!
So, now for my dilemma...lol. I've been with my FH for about 6 years now. He FINALLY proposed in January. He's the love of my life, my soul-mate, and my best friend. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him. From the beginning, I wanted a small destination wedding with just close family and friends who would be able to attend. However, my mom was pushing for a big to-do. Long story short, I ended up booking at a RH who's min. is 120. We put the guest list together and we were on our way. My mom is paying for half but has no clue what things actually cost. When I told her that we were going to end up around $25k total, she balked, which is so incredibly frustrating because she was the one who was pushing for this big wedding the entire time. I haven't been happy since and I have been completely overwhelmed by the entire process. When we really sat down and looked at the guest list, we saw that we were inviting people whom we've lost contact with or aren't very close to at all. My aunts/uncles/cousins (who make up 70 of my guest list) have a myriad of different complaints about one thing or another. I don't need or want them there at this point.
After many tears over the weekend, FH and I decided that we should just do the destination wedding and let my mom plan a small, intimate dinner as a reception when we get back. It's more us and our style. I approached her with the idea last night and was SHOCKED to find that she was actually down for the idea. All of this for nothing...lol.
So now for the questions! First off, would we be able to get our deposit back from the RH that we booked with? The wedding date was set for May of next year. How does that work?
Any suggestions for a small dinner, approx. 50-75 people? Looking for something romantic and simple. Perhaps something with a private room, beer & wine, and a nice meal.
And lastly, the destination! We're looking to do this in March. About 12 people, including me and FH. We're thinking something in the Caribbean.
Thank you in advance for all your help and ideas. I sincerely appreciate it.
I'm a first time poster but long time troller on the boards. I just want to say that I've gotten so much great information and ideas from you! You are an incredibly creative, passionate bunch!
So, now for my dilemma...lol. I've been with my FH for about 6 years now. He FINALLY proposed in January. He's the love of my life, my soul-mate, and my best friend. I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him. From the beginning, I wanted a small destination wedding with just close family and friends who would be able to attend. However, my mom was pushing for a big to-do. Long story short, I ended up booking at a RH who's min. is 120. We put the guest list together and we were on our way. My mom is paying for half but has no clue what things actually cost. When I told her that we were going to end up around $25k total, she balked, which is so incredibly frustrating because she was the one who was pushing for this big wedding the entire time. I haven't been happy since and I have been completely overwhelmed by the entire process. When we really sat down and looked at the guest list, we saw that we were inviting people whom we've lost contact with or aren't very close to at all. My aunts/uncles/cousins (who make up 70 of my guest list) have a myriad of different complaints about one thing or another. I don't need or want them there at this point.
After many tears over the weekend, FH and I decided that we should just do the destination wedding and let my mom plan a small, intimate dinner as a reception when we get back. It's more us and our style. I approached her with the idea last night and was SHOCKED to find that she was actually down for the idea. All of this for nothing...lol.
So now for the questions! First off, would we be able to get our deposit back from the RH that we booked with? The wedding date was set for May of next year. How does that work?
Any suggestions for a small dinner, approx. 50-75 people? Looking for something romantic and simple. Perhaps something with a private room, beer & wine, and a nice meal.
And lastly, the destination! We're looking to do this in March. About 12 people, including me and FH. We're thinking something in the Caribbean.
Thank you in advance for all your help and ideas. I sincerely appreciate it.
