Girls, I need your advice! My MOH just told me yesterday that she went shopping with her BF and they bought a suit for my wedding on 07/07/07. I was really happy that she's trying to make her man look presentable but I told her that they didn't have to since suits aren't cheap. She continued to tell me that they got an 'Off-white' suit to wear! I thought I was going to faint when I heard it. Before I reacted, I made sure she described the exact 'off-white' color to be. It's basically a white suit! FH has been debating about wearing a white tux since he looks really great on him since he's really tall. Now I don't even know what to do. Even if FH isn't wearing white on our wedding day, isn't it the wedding ettiquette NOT to wear white to a wedding?? After she told me about the purchase, I said very politely 'he will have to wear that color under his own discretion because it's taboo to be wearing white to a wedding and I don't want people to be giving him dirty looks!' She told me that she was not aware of this wedding ettiquette and she thought it only applied to girls! It's crazy insane! I've never seen guys where a white tux unless you are celebrity, going to the prom OR you are the groom!!! Is it okay for him to wear white?? Am I acting like a bridezilla?
EDIT** Okay..I did talk to her. Since we are really close, we usually just tell each other what's on our minds and how it is - and not sugar coated. She also realized that it's sort of weird as well so he won't be wearing that suit!
Thanks for the advise girlies!
DrWho
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There's no helping it if he's going to wear white. You can't make him not wear it. You're right though, it's a little bizarre. Your MOH didn't know the groom was thinking of wearing white? That's even more bizarre.
Lemons
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Thats a little crazy! You are not over reacting at all! If I were you I would ask MOH to have him exchange it for a different color. She SHOULD understand that!
smplynluv
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I would react in the same way.... don't know if that is bridezilla of me too lol... but especially if your FH will be wearing white i think that would take the light off of the bride and groom. I think your friend would understand if the groom is wearing white, no other guy should be wearing white (unless GM are). IMO the 'no wearing white' etiquette rule should apply for females and males alike. I think that if you ask her nicely to try to avoid buying a white suit for these reasons it would be understandable.
Kara and Todd
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I have very few problems with people wearing most colors to a wedding - but white is where I would get upset. I'd explain your feelings to your MOH (as calmly as possible) and explain that it's really poor etiquette to wear white to a wedding, whether you're male or female, and that you'd appreciate it if he exchanged it for a different color.
Call me Bridezilla-ish, but this would really bother me. Granted, at the end of the day, it's a free country and he can wear whatever he wants... but if it's bugging you, I'd find a (calm, diplomatic) way to at least let your feelings be known. DO NOT overreact and get angry - but at least let her know how you really feel.
And this is coming from the girl whose mom and FMIL picked out the exact same color dresses for the wedding, which just so happen to be the same color as the BM dresses (and that doesn't bother me at all!)
ETA - Be sure to tell your MOH that your husband is also considering white and it would be in poor taste for her BF to wear white, too.
rkl1130
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I would be upset too. Most people know not to wear white to a wedding--male or female. Tell your MOH that FH is considering wearing white and that it may be in her BF's best interest to return the suit and exchange it for a different color. Who buys a white suit anyway?
dancerandchef
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I would definetly be upset also.
~dancer~
KSquared
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Since it's your MOH, I'm going to assume that you and her are really close. I know that I would have no problem telling my MOH that her boyfriend wearing a white suit is unexceptable, and I know she wouldn't get mad. TALK TO HER. Tell how much this really bothers you, maybe it's not too late for them the exchange the suit. He should not be wearing white if it bothers you.
erdbeere
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who would wear a white suit to a wedding if he isn't the groom? it seems like a very obvious faux-pas...and besides, aren't white suits jus for really special occasions (like your own wedding, not someone elses)?
thelastresort
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Is it like one of those white-ish linen suits? I've seen guys wear those to weddings. Honestly, I didn't realize it mattered if a guy wore white either. I never thought about it I guess. I can't recall ever seeing a man wear an actual all white suit (other than proms or a bridal party) so I would think it's unusual if he bought something like that. Go check it out. Maybe it's not at all how your envisioning it or how she's describing it.
