Advice Needed

My FH is Catholic and I am Jewish. We have decided that we are getting married by a Judge and that we will add some pieces from the Jewish Ceremony and the Catholic Ceremony.

My mom has been out of control. She called me yesteday and asked if I would get married under a Hoopa. I told her that was not what we want. Well she is not talking to me now.

I have only been engaged for a month and I have already had 2 huge fights with her. Now I am at the point that I am not even telling her anything about the wedding. Everything I have told her she is negative about. I want to enjoy the wedding planning and she is not making it very easy.

Just needed to vent. Is anyone else having the same or similar problems.

Mara

Vent away! I've done it plenty of times.

Thats rough when it comes to religion, it was world war 3 when i told my parents that i was having the ceremony in the RH and not a church....but they got over it.

I think if your just open and honest with your mom then she is just going to have to respect you and your RH....if not, let her yell and blow off steam, but let her know that this is YOUR wedding and she is ruining what should be fun wedding planning for you.

I wish you all the best, ive been to one combo ceremony and it was BEAUTIFUL.

CHCC does have one but it is more her trying to direct what my wedding is. This is already the 2nd thing she wants her way and not my FH and my way. She said that she is going to help me and my FH by giving some money. But honestly I don't even want the money. She is using it to hold over my head and get what she wants.

My dad is actually Catholic but he didn't care and they had a completely Jewish Ceremony. I have tried to explain to my mom that just because that is what they decided does not mean that is what I have to do!

O yes vent away and I feel you pain!

I am catholic FH is Jewish.. we originally we're just gonna have a justice marry us so no one could be upset over the religious aspects..we decided to actually have FH's uncle marry us in a non religious kind of way.

As far as FH's mom...she tried to control things with our wedding (and e-party) a made the first month or two of our engagement MISERABLE.. O and the months leading up to the engagement also... so now she can't know anything wedding related.. I feel kinda bad I dont want to hurt her feelings but this is mine and FH's day and we dont need anymore stress...and we definately dont need to be fighting because of her.

lol welcome to my world! my mom loves to say everything i want is stupid and then adds...jewish people dont do that. suuure.

if it makes you feel better i'm pissing everyone off and getting married by a a ship captain lol.

take that Jewish / Catholic families! lol

'the love boat..soon we'll be making another run...'

hahaha

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Posted by allornil

lol welcome to my world! my mom loves to say everything i want is stupid and then adds...jewish people dont do that. suuure.

if it makes you feel better i'm pissing everyone off and getting married by a a ship captain lol.

take that Jewish / Catholic families! lol

'the love boat..soon we'll be making another run...'

hahaha

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ahahahha I get the 'Jewish people dont do that' line too! ahahahahahaha



eta: cant spell today!

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Posted by allornil

lol welcome to my world! my mom loves to say everything i want is stupid and then adds...jewish people dont do that. suuure.

if it makes you feel better i'm pissing everyone off and getting married by a a ship captain lol.

take that Jewish / Catholic families! lol

'the love boat..soon we'll be making another run...'

hahaha

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ahahahha I get the 'Jewish people dont do that' line too! ahahahahahaha

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me three

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they're plotting against us!

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Posted by FutureMrsGTL

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Posted by FutureMrsGTL

ahahahha I get the 'Jewish people dont do that' line too! ahahahahahaha

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me three

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they're plotting against us!

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My mom mostly uses it when talking about showers and favors. What about yours?

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FH's mom used it when we were planning the eparty and we didnt want to register she was like ' oh hunni, jewish people dont give money as gifts!' lol and with favors too

I get the Jewish people dont do it like that also. I usually piss her off and say well then it is my catholic side doing it .... haha

I love when she is like that is not how we did it for our wedding. Newsflash... It isn't her wedding.

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Posted by FutureMrsGTL

FH's mom used it when we were planning the eparty and we didnt want to register she was like ' oh hunni, jewish people dont give money as gifts!' lol and with favors too

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Hahaha... my mom doesn't really think we should register at all because New Yorkers -- Jewish or not -- will just give money anyway

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FMIL made us register..I really didnt want too all it did was allow people to be cheap... minus FH's wonderful cousin that bought us the margaritaville!

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Posted by mara1017

I get the Jewish people dont do it like that also. I usually piss her off and say well then it is my catholic side doing it .... haha

I love when she is like that is not how we did it for our wedding. Newsflash... It isn't her wedding.

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Ooo I get that too 'when i got married..' ok FMIL you got married 36 years ago...in your parents house I'm gonna go with mine will be different! lol I could go on alll day with the pure ridiculousness!

I am so glad that I am not alone. The funny thing is that my FH and I are so on the same page about the whole religion thing.... why can't my mom!

I guess at least I should count my lucky stars that I am not getting it from both sides. Unfortunately my FH's parents are not alive so they have been quiet on the topic. ... haha