Advice Needed - Please help :(

My father has been battling cancer for five years now. Recently he has gotten much worse. He is in and out of the hospital almost every week. We're not sure what's going to happen. My wedding isn't until June 5. My father has already spoken to me and my mother and brother about my brother walking me down the aisle if he can't. I can't even bear the thought of any of this. It just seems unreal. Last night my fiance asked me if I want to get married now. I'm not sure what to do. I don't even know what to do if I do this. Plus, I'm not sure it's a good idea, because it might be too hard emotionally for my family. And, we don't know, my father could make it and be able to go to my wedding. Ugh, I can't handle even talking about this. Just please advise me. I can't exactly talk to anyone else right now.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Is it an option to have a ceremony with close friends and family soon and have him walk you down the aisle now? And then do your big wedding as is? I know you don't want to do anything with the mindset of 'doing this just in case...' but this way you can have both??

Again I'm so sorry!!

SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT

i agree with Merf - is that an option? this way he gets to walk you down the aisle...

HUGS TO YOU!!!

I'm so sorry about your dad. I hope that everything will work out. I don't really have any advice but I just wanted to send some hugs

I am so sorry you need to go through all this, is there anyway to push it earlier? If you found vendors, maybe they are available this year?
Stay strong

Jan - we are all pulling for you and your dad.

This isn't advice so much as an option. I know that many couples - particularly those who want to get married quickly, for whatever reason - have a very small, private ceremony and then a big party months later. In many ways, just having your and FI's immediate family there could make the day amazingly special.

Whatever decision you make will be the right one.

I'm sorry that you have to make this post...

there are a few girls on this site that pushed their weddings up for these reasons...adn I think they were happy that they did...

I think a small ceremony with immediate family would be nice...

hang in there

im soo sorry..
i like the above idea of having a small ceremony now that he can do it with you, then june 5 have your big wedding that you are planning..

We just never know when our time will come. Try to talk it out with your FI, Dad and Mom. I dont have any advice but just a few things you might consider.

Are you and your FI ready to get married now - not the whole big wedding just a small intimate ceremony?

If so, how would your Dad feal about you pushing up the date?

Follow your heart, this must be very difficult for you. I wish you all the best.

I'm so sorry.

I agree with the other girls. I know if it was me, I would try and have a small wedding so that my father could walk me down the aisle and be there for the actual marriage, but I would still continue with plans for the larger June 5th reception.

Again

I'm so sorry about your father
I agree with the above post. WHy don't you have the ceremony earlier and then in June have the reception. My thoughts are with you.

I also agree with Jenny5105. I am so sorry for all that your family is going through. My prayers go out to you and your family.

i also just wanted to say i'm really sorry for your situation. i like the idea of maybe having a smaller ceremony now and then the big party when you planned it. good luck with whatever you choose. we'll be thinking about you and your family.

IMO I would have a small ceremony now and just invite a few very, very close family members and maybe a friend or two. I would not take chance with your dad's illness. of course, you can always have a big thing later on.

I'm so sorry you and your family are in pain. I think you should ask your dad what HE wants to do. Does he want a small one now? Or would he rather you wait? I think I would want one now, and then go through with my original plans next June, but only you, your FH, and your dad can reach that conclusion. Talk to your dad.

Edited because I put in wrong emot-icon - my apologies!

I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
Best wishes and good luck