DH & I were invited to a wedding that we can not attend, however, this couple attended our wedding this past summer and gave us $300 as a gift. They are friends of ours but not close we don't really hang out with them.
Unfortunately, DH & I can not attend their wedding this summer. Do we have to give them the same amount or since we will be RSVP 'NO' and they won't have to pay for our seats, do we give less?
What would you give: $300 a lesser amount a really nice gift off their registry
THANKS!
ChrissynRicky
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$150
rojerono
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Posted by ChrissynRicky
$150
Exactly what I would do.
RadioLau
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I would definately give a lesser amount. When you don't attend the wedding you don't need to 'cover your plate'. I think $150 is more than enough.
empressdani
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ditto...$150 is a very appropriate amount.
gonzo23456
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Tough call, I would say do what you can afford. It stinks! If I was in your situation I would do $300. I always try to do reciprocal to what the person gave me because I would feel cheap if I didn't. I have three older sisters and my parents have always done it that way and those that have attended their weddings did. (I am by NO means calling you cheap but i would feel cheap not giving the same). I have just always been raised that way. Even though, I don't attend a wedding, I still give people what I would have given them anyway. I don't look at a wedding as paying for plate. I think it is only right. I would hope others would so the same for me. IMO! Good Luck!
Kara and Todd
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You're never obligated to give what you received. Give what you can afford and what you think is appropriate.
A nice gift off their registry or $200 seems appropriate to me, especially since you aren't attending the wedding and are not close with them.
Snickers76
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I just had a similar dilemma. We bought them a beautiful glass pitcher from Tiffany's. $150.00
ido07
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I agree..150 should be fine
NY031978
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i think id give 200
or 150 w/ a gift from her reg.
july06bride
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we went to a wedding last year and gave a certain amount, the couple could not attend our wedding and they gave us a check with less- we completely understand why...it makes sense
We are invited to a wedding and we are not sure if we are able to go yet- we will give a little less...
IF I WERE CLOSE to the person, I would give the same amount they gave me!
BunnyBears
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I think either less - 100-150 or a gift from the registry!
NOT 300
AlliCatB
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I would do $300 but only because I'm always worried about offending people.
milana
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a really nice gift off their registry
snowcat
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Posted by BunnyBears
I think either less - 100-150 or a gift from the registry!
NOT 300
I agree! I might actually get them a nice gift for their house- probably something in the 100-150 range
mjubilee
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200 or a gift from registry of similar value
Nlynn
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I agree..150 should be fine
I agree!
chrissyandvin
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I'd say 150 kelly
Soon2BDoubleL
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I agree with $150
EGreene79
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I somewhat agree with gonzo23456... I always thought the plate number was guidance for what to give as a gift, not that you're actually covering your plate. FH and I have this argument all the time and we end up having to meet half way most of the time, but for myself, I want to give them what I can afford to help them start their lives together. Again - that's just me. I understand why people give less for not attending.
I also wouldn't match for the sake of matching - give what you feel is appropriate.
