ADVICE please!!!!!!!! Guests

So FH and i decided before we sent out save the dates that we would have to have an adult only reception since if we invited kids it would be another 80 people. I wasnt asking my mom to pay that because its just insane! So FMIL was POed about it and got so mad at me and i was like oh well, they can be mad but i dont have the extra money, i know you dont have it and im NOT asking my mom to pay it!

So invites went out 3 months ago.....stating adult only reception on them....

My uncle and aunt (who is also my godfather) RSVPed Yes for 2. My mom calls me and says the other day, that Uncle billy has to bring his grandaughter to the wedding. I was like ummmm no?! its only adults. This kid is 14. I dont know her she isnt related to me at all, she is from his second wifes side.

So i call him today and ask what is going on because he said he wouldnt come at all if he couldnt bring her. He says that he cant leave her with a sitter or anything at home so i offered for her to stay at my moms durring the RH with someone to watch her. He says she has problems and is slightly handicapped.

So now....i have a problem. Do i say Yes bring her and then hear it form everyone else why could he bring her and i couldnt bring my kids blah blah blah or do i stick to my guns and say no kids and let us be under our min by 2 more???


Im so mad at him for putting me in this situation. You RSVP to my wedding and then you decide to watch this kid? You see her all the time i get married once.....UGH im so mad

Thanks for reading if you got this far and please give me some advice!! thanks girls!!!