ADVICE PLEASE....NOW AN UPDATE..READ MY NEW REPLY!!!!

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Posted by anneandchris

CALL HER! It doesn't matter that she didn't seek you out -- infact nothing else matters right now.

A card, e-mail or text isn't enough IMO.

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i agree.

i should def. CALL and then send flowers and maybe even ask if she would like you to attend the funeral

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Posted by wundmoretime

Send a sympathy card to the family. Take the high road.

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Agree a card is all you need. My father passed away and girls I had a huge falling out with came to the wake. I would of rather just a card b/c I did not want to ever see them especially then. I was actully mad they came. JMO

I would def send a sympathy card and or go to the viewing. No matter what has happened in the past she will appreciate you thinking of her and honoring her mother. It is the right thing to do. HTH

I just came back from the post office. I sent her a card and wrote her a little note. I went to my church and lit a candle and said a prayer for her mom. I believe the wake/service already happened.

Regardless of this whole wedding fight we got into nothing else matter right now but the loss of her mother. I sent a card rather than calling, maybe she would perfer not to see me.

Thank you for all the replies! You girls are amazing!

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Posted by yelley77

If you were really good friends, I'd call her. She probably needs you.

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ITA.

I'm still trying to find out what happened. I know that her mom wasn't sick or anything. The more I think about it maybe it was something with her mom and she couldn't tell me..

She should get the card tomorrow or Friday...I will let you all know what happens!

I did think about calling but I don't think it's a good idea..I sent her a card, I'll see if anything comes of it!

It always takes a tragedy to get us back together...

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Posted by yelley77

If you were really good friends, I'd call her. She probably needs you.

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I completely agree.

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Posted by emomma17

If you guys were good friends I would pick the phone up and call her, especially at a time like this. This is just my opinion but in certain circumstances a text or email is just not the way to go.

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no I'm not e-mailing her or texting her...too tacky! I am gonna give it a few days..till the weekand before I decide what the next step I should do.

Just got a home a little while ago and told my MIL about what happened and she said I did the right thing..

I told her that I think my other friend did not tell me about what happened because maybe my ex friend didn't want me there or thought it was akward...if I knew when it was I would of went to the wake to repay my respects.

THANK YOU!!!!

Everyone today has told me that I did the right thing!

I got the mail a little while ago and I got a card from my ex-bestfriend. She simply stated that she thanked me for thinking of her and she is lost without her but is trying to find her way. She quoted and said' As you know she was my world'

DH brought it up to me maybe this is why she was behaving the way she was during the planning of our wedding. I still can't believe her mom is gone...I wish I was able to pay my respects.

What happens now anything? Do I contact her again? Maybe I am feeling like this out of pity maybe thats what she thinks. I keep thinking if she wanted me at that wake she would of contacted me. Allot of people said maybe she thought you still look at her myspace page even though it was private and was hoping you would see that. My sister told me to send a card thats it cause if it wasn't for her mom passing away you would of never thought to contact her.

I'm still confused..as what to do next, if I should do anything or let things be....

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Posted by sweetdoublenn

I got the mail a little while ago and I got a card from my ex-bestfriend. She simply stated that she thanked me for thinking of her and she is lost without her but is trying to find her way. She quoted and said' As you know she was my world'

DH brought it up to me maybe this is why she was behaving the way she was during the planning of our wedding. I still can't believe her mom is gone...I wish I was able to pay my respects.

What happens now anything? Do I contact her again? Maybe I am feeling like this out of pity maybe thats what she thinks. I keep thinking if she wanted me at that wake she would of contacted me. Allot of people said maybe she thought you still look at her myspace page even though it was private and was hoping you would see that. My sister told me to send a card thats it cause if it wasn't for her mom passing away you would of never thought to contact her.

I'm still confused..as what to do next, if I should do anything or let things be....

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Personally at this point I would probably pick up the phone or write a letter -- not a card but an good old letter. Let her know that no matter you are there for her. I wouldn't call pity I would call it putting things in prespective but whatever you do don't mention your wedding or ask if that is why she was acting that way. But then again if you don't want to be her friend (because it could possibly lead to a makeup) then leave where it is.