AFTER MARRIAGE HOLIDAYS (LONG)

SO, DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY ISSUES WITH WHERE TO SPEND WHAT HOLIDAY WITH WHICH FAMILY????

I SPEND THANKSGIVING, & EASTER WITH MY FH FAMILY, BUT I KNOW CHRISTMAS EVE IS GOING TO BE A BIG PROBLEM.

XMAS EVE IS THE ONLY HOLIDAY THAT MY MOM DOES AND MY ENTIRE FAMILY COMES. BUT MY FH MOM DOES IT BC HIS SIS COMES FROM CT FOR EVE AND THEN GOES BACK TO CT TO HER INLAWS. (XMAS EVE IS ONYL HIS SIS & HIS PARENTS ABOUT 6 INCLUDING ME)
ANY MY ENTIRE FAM ON MY MOM SIDE ABOUT 30 OF US CELEBRATE EVE AT MY MOMS.

MY FH HUSBAND IS TALKING ABOUT ALTERNATING EACH YEAR, BUT I DONT THINK THATS FAIR.....

IF I SPEND EVERY OTHER HOLIDAY WITH HIS FAM WHY CANT HE DO XMAS EVE WITH MINE???

I KNOW IM BEING A LITTLE SELFISH, BUT WHY SHOULD I GIVE UP MY ENTIRE FAM OF ABOUT 30 PPL TO SPEND IT WITH 5 WHEN I SEE TREM FOR EVERY OTHER ONE TOO????

AND I KNOW MY MOM WOULD B E EXTREMELY HURT EVEN IF WE SPLIT THE DAY. I DONT WANT TO SPLIT THE DAY????

i know.....yes my mom would, but i dont think they would come.....his parent like to keep to themselves sometimes....ya know.....quiet in there house. they might though????

i hope they would come!! that would solve everythign!!!!