AGH... anyone else have this problem with 'MOM'

Original post by spazybride04

Apr 08, 2003 12:56 PM

ok... I went to my cousins house this weekend and she thought it would be cool if we went to try on dresses for my wedding... well decided not to lie to my mom and tell her...(thinking there wouldn't be a problem) WELL.... NOW she's not talking to me!
she got so upset that I went and saw something that I liked. I happened to mention that maybe we could go one weekend.... she totally cut me off and starting yelling that it was 'too far'. She didn't even let me finish my sentence! she started yelling that it was too far to go for alterations... blah blah..
I never said that I wanted the dress, I just wanted her to come look! AGH
needless to say, I've been crying since then.. and to make matters worse, I still live at home..
I can't take it!!!!

any advice...
(sorry it was so long but i needed to vent!)

Olgaki Posted: Apr 11, 2003 06:21 PM

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Money is such an iffy subject - you don't want to bring it up but you HAVE TOO!!!! It's just ugh - major ugh

WithThisRing Posted: Apr 11, 2003 06:40 PM

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LOL I agree

violetfairy Posted: Apr 13, 2003 05:00 AM

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Chippa! That's what I want my 'dance with dad' to be! (Side by Side.) We used to sing it in the car when we went fishing together...

spazybride04 Posted: Apr 14, 2003 12:00 PM

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yeah I have to agree that money is an iffy subject.. but for now we're just going with the flow..

going to book the DJ today after work.. I'm so excited!!!

WithThisRing Posted: Apr 14, 2003 01:31 PM

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Us too we're just going with the flow

kaangel217 Posted: Apr 16, 2003 04:46 PM

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My mom has complained about -everything since day one. She was miserable when my sisters came with us to look at dresses she sat in a chair the whole night with a miserable look on her face the whole time. Its alright with me though, my Future mother-inl-aw more excited than my mom. So I just feed off of MIL's happiness. When your getting married you really only want positive engery around. So try to ignore the negative and keep all the positive!! Good Luck

Olgaki Posted: Apr 16, 2003 10:31 PM

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That's good advice!!!!

WithThisRing Posted: Apr 16, 2003 10:44 PM

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Can I still kick my mom in the shins

Actually my mom has been good the last few days. She hasnt done or said anything to aggrivate me.

Olgaki Posted: Apr 16, 2003 11:05 PM

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maybe she is coming around???

WithThisRing Posted: Apr 16, 2003 11:31 PM

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Nah I just think she has nothing to nag me about. Give it a few days, she'll have something

Olgaki Posted: Apr 16, 2003 11:42 PM

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lol Why don't you try giving her one of the jobs? Like she can find Limos lol IT MIGHT WORK! (I hope!)

WithThisRing Posted: Apr 16, 2003 11:51 PM

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This is sad, I dont trust her with a job for the wedding. I've been asking her to do something for months that hasnt been done and its now FI and I doing it on our own. I dont trust her with a job for the wedding. It will end up screwed up, not what I want and FI and I doing it and getting fustrated about it.

So its best that she does nothing.

spazybride04 Posted: Apr 17, 2003 12:23 PM

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yeah i hear you about not giving mom a job. I don't want my mom to have one either. She already passed a comment that she's going to be SO STRESSED in the months before the wedding that she's going to be on the phone all the time with my aunt... I was like hello!??! i'm the one that's going to be stressed... but her having a job in the planning process, might as well book my therapist for her now...

I'm just going with the flow.. letting things fall in place as they may... (which is SO hard for me)..
and i'm going to handle everything when it arrises..
I want to have some fun in the engagement.
(NWR)
speaking of... FH bought us tix to see 'Movin' Out', the Billy Joel play on Broadway... EXCELLENT!!!
definitely the BEST play i've ever seen!!! Just wanted to share!

any of you going to the gtg on the 20-something?

Olgaki Posted: Apr 17, 2003 12:38 PM

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I know it's hard with the mommies Just remember this when your children get married!!!!!!

I'm vowing from NOW to not do this stuff to my kids because I see what it's done to friends of mine

spazybride04 Posted: Apr 17, 2003 12:41 PM

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LOL... I said the same thing... i am not going to be this way with my kids... but i know i'll probably be worse!... LOL

Olgaki Posted: Apr 17, 2003 01:07 PM

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Just remember - be the NICE MOMMY IN LAW!

WithThisRing Posted: Apr 17, 2003 02:03 PM

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My mothers priorities are all screwed up and she says that I am not the only one suffering and she then gives her selfish sob story. Her main concern is a living room set then my happiness.

So I just dont talk about anything with the wedding with her. It causes me less aggrivation and stress

spazybride04 Posted: Apr 17, 2003 02:58 PM

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exactly my point chipp... don't mention anything and you don't have to worry about hearing the bs..

I don't bring anything up... much happier and 'sane' that way.

sept20yay! Posted: Apr 17, 2003 03:23 PM

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OMG, I don't mean to totally butt in here but you have to add me to the nutty mother's club. I would KILL to have a mother that actually cared whether or not this wedding took place. My mother couldn't honestly care less about my wedding. I actually bought my dress without herseeing it because she was too lazy too go. It just wasn't important to her. FI and I have a joke that she will actually double book plans on the wedding and make plans to hang out with a friend on Sept 20, forgetting it's the wedding. She has numerous times inserted the f word adding ing before the word wedding to describe my wedding, thinks I'm too into it and won't bring it up unless I do first. I would kill to have her show a hair of interest. Not that a mother that butts heads too much and has too much opinion in the wedding is bad good, but G-d- what I wouldn't give to have someone in my family give a (you know what) about my big day!