AHHHH Now im nervous lol****UPDATED*****

ok for those that saw my long a** post yesterday about seeing apartments you know a little bit more background, although im sure many didn't read it

anyways, one of the duplex apartments we saw yesterday, fh and i are strongly considering it. I called today and made a 2nd appointment to go see it today at 5:30pm bc i wanted to go back with my dad. The reason i want my dad there is because i would want to do some work to the apartment and want to get his opinion first about the type of work i would need to do and estimate range of what it will cost me. My dad gets apartments and fixes them all up and has sold them and has his team of guys who does this so thats why. But of course we cant just go with my dad lol bc others want to see it too so my mother and his mom are going to see it.

Once we go today and my dad tells us what he thinks it will probably help us alot. The thing about this duplex is that its at an insanely great price. Its an old lady who lives there for 40 years and is moving out of state to be with her daughter and grandchildren. So not somebody looking to make alot of money, and she bought it at a price from 40 years ago so imagine how low it probably was plus she wont be buying a new place or even renting. We dont want to miss a great opportunity

I am nervous bc i just think about what everyones opinions will be, and dont know why im nervous about what they'll say


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ok so we went today with my mom, his mom, FBIL...my dad couldn't come bc of something very important so it was understandable. It was ok though. Our moms and FBIL liked it alot, both said its a great deal and good space and were very enthusiastic about it. One reason i wanted to get an idea of renovation costs bc there is another duplex right by this one that is a little bit more but not by much at all, the thing about the other one is that its more updated, doesnt look like it would need much work done, seems like renovations were done not long ago. So i want to compare the two. I called agent and was honest and told him there is one we would like to see, but we are interested in this apartment and after we see the other apartment we will be able to decide. Also in the meantime another agent said he wants to show us a few things. So we're going to look at a few other places just to check it out, i mean we've only been looking for 2 weeks, well went last week and saw 1 place, and then sunday saw 5 places lol. The agent for the one we saw today will call me back to see the other apartment hopefully this weekend. We are definitely really considering this one, and part of me thinks we're going to go with this one and would make an offer. He asked if we expected a closing before the wedding bc he says he thinks it would be in june the closing and if that would be a problem. I told him PERFECT and i'd prefer it so not a problem. I dont want to go through a closing and all that with a few short weeks until the wedding or my luck the week of.

But i am glad they liked it, and they all said it would be perfect for us

you just want everyone to love it the way you guys do. It's understandable. When you find something you like, you don't want any bad or negative things said. I'm sure they will love it and realize it's a great deal.

good luck .

Just remember, everyone has an opinion. When it comes down to making an actual decision, you and your FH have to make it based on YOUR opinions, not anyone elses. You may take their opinions into consideration but don't let that sway you from making the decision that is right for you. This is the first important decision (other than the wedding) that you and FH are making TOGETHER. My parents, especially my Dad, have tons of opinions on where we should buy, what we should buy etc. I've learned to take it into consideration knowing that the final decision will be made by FH and I!

don't be nervous, this is a GREAT thing and sounds like a fantastic deal. Don't let it slip by!

just take what everyone except your dad says with a grain of salt. They want what's best for you - but they may not agree with what YOU want.

Definitely listen to every word your dad has to say - as it sounds like he's the one to help!!!

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Just remember, everyone has an opinion. When it comes down to making an actual decision, you and your FH have to make it based on YOUR opinions, not anyone elses. You may take their opinions into consideration but don't let that sway you from making the decision that is right for you. This is the first important decision (other than the wedding) that you and FH are making TOGETHER. My parents, especially my Dad, have tons of opinions on where we should buy, what we should buy etc. I've learned to take it into consideration knowing that the final decision will be made by FH and I!

don't be nervous, this is a GREAT thing and sounds like a fantastic deal. Don't let it slip by!

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i agree totally. when i looked for apts, the only one I brought was FH. Even though we weren't buying it together, he is always logical and smart about it. I love my parents and valued their decision but this was one i needed to do on my own. It turned out well anyway because they love my place, but don't let it sway you too much - unless there are structural issues; obviously your dad has experience so I would definitely trust what he has to say.

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Posted by snwb08

you just want everyone to love it the way you guys do. It's understandable. When you find something you like, you don't want any bad or negative things said. I'm sure they will love it and realize it's a great deal.

good luck .

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well yeah just telling my dad yesterday the price he was WOW about it. I told him i would want the kitchen remodeled, new cabinets and all bc like i said this woman lived there for 40 years and its very old fashioned. The rest is just small stuff like ripping out the carpet bc it has hardwood floors underneath and probably having to care for that a little. Spackle the walls and paint. The bathroom was nice but next to the bathroom theres a HUGE linen closet, i would want to knock out the closet and extend the bathroom, not that we have to but i just want to(this isnt something that i HAVE to do but considering it. My dad said even with the work i want such as a whole new kitchen, with the price of the place it still will all come out less than most other places.

But yeah i am afraid of their comments hahahaha.

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Posted by zoe282

that's totally nerve racking. It's good you are bringing them though. My mom and dad always have imput that I would never even see or think about! But also keep in mind what your opinions are as you take theirs in. Good luck! That is so exciting!

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if it wasnt for the fact that my parents are good at renovating and decorating then i wouldn't bring them hahahaha. My mom did all the custom made closets herself in my apartment and my dads, they came out with how to update current apartment and did a great job. So i want to see what ideas they have otherwise i dont know if i'd put us through this LOL

thank you

ill give it to fh though bc yesterday when we got back and i asked about things we can do, fh paid attention to all the electrical work in the apartment and already had the answers for my dad

lol! it's understandable to be nervous, but in the end as long as you & mr are on the same page it will work out great & you know it!

ps: i hope my guest room is smashing!

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Just remember, everyone has an opinion. When it comes down to making an actual decision, you and your FH have to make it based on YOUR opinions, not anyone elses. You may take their opinions into consideration but don't let that sway you from making the decision that is right for you. This is the first important decision (other than the wedding) that you and FH are making TOGETHER. My parents, especially my Dad, have tons of opinions on where we should buy, what we should buy etc. I've learned to take it into consideration knowing that the final decision will be made by FH and I!

don't be nervous, this is a GREAT thing and sounds like a fantastic deal. Don't let it slip by!

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i think they would try to be nice about it if anything like i know FMIL would find all the positives about the place and focus on that and try to sway anybody else on a positive direction hahaha so thats good.

OOooOOoo & don't forget, someone you know has a father that guts & renovates homes too

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Posted by davenjess

just take what everyone except your dad says with a grain of salt. They want what's best for you - but they may not agree with what YOU want.

Definitely listen to every word your dad has to say - as it sounds like he's the one to help!!!

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well i know my dad, and he sees possibility with places i looked at and though oh no but hes also the most opinionated one. My mom is nice so doesnt say mean things or nasty about it but she wont have to say anything ill know just by her face hahaha.

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Posted by snwb08

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Just remember, everyone has an opinion. When it comes down to making an actual decision, you and your FH have to make it based on YOUR opinions, not anyone elses. You may take their opinions into consideration but don't let that sway you from making the decision that is right for you. This is the first important decision (other than the wedding) that you and FH are making TOGETHER. My parents, especially my Dad, have tons of opinions on where we should buy, what we should buy etc. I've learned to take it into consideration knowing that the final decision will be made by FH and I!

don't be nervous, this is a GREAT thing and sounds like a fantastic deal. Don't let it slip by!

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i agree totally. when i looked for apts, the only one I brought was FH. Even though we weren't buying it together, he is always logical and smart about it. I love my parents and valued their decision but this was one i needed to do on my own. It turned out well anyway because they love my place, but don't let it sway you too much - unless there are structural issues; obviously your dad has experience so I would definitely trust what he has to say.

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i honestly had NOOOO plans of bringing them, otherwise it wouldve been easier to bring them yesterday instead of going again today. But since i want to know how much it would cost us to renovate before we decide i had to do this. We asked my dad which turned into my mom saying she'll come and it wouldnt be fair to invite just my side so he invited his mother. The last thing i knew it became a big outing hahahaha.

Well the good thing is that our parents arent the type to say NO dont get it, they might have their opinions but wont be really opinionated about it. Even yesterday my dad said, all that really matters is if you two like it, were not going to go there to tell you whether or not to get it. You like it then good go for it...i think if i see their face and theyre not as thrilled with it, itll bother me hahaha but yeah its what fh and i think

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Posted by florezpeeps

lol! it's understandable to be nervous, but in the end as long as you & mr are on the same page it will work out great & you know it!

ps: i hope my guest room is smashing!

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youre going to have to fight joes brother for it he told us we HAVE to get a 2nd bedroom for him. The funny thing is when we were looking at it i actually brought that point up and said oh john would like this br for when he visits and joe turned and looked at me as to say 'are you serious' and said 'yes my brother is the deciding factor on whether we get it'

Good luck! That is exactly the case with the house we're going into contract with. It's a widow looking to move closer to her family. It's so nerve racking but exciting!

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Posted by Mizzdimple

ohh good luck !!!!!!!!!! i would be nervous too

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thank you

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Posted by Mici n KC

Good luck! That is exactly the case with the house we're going into contract with. It's a widow looking to move closer to her family. It's so nerve racking but exciting!

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And she had the nerve to deny your offers at first w** hahaha but it all worked out in the end so its ok. Its funny bc i told fh 2 weeks ago that younever know we can get a good deal and he asked how. I told him either theres somebody that needs to move ASAP so they'll entertain a lower offer OR an old person moving out after living in a place for so long and bingo

I know i cant wait to go but also nervous haha

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Just remember, everyone has an opinion. When it comes down to making an actual decision, you and your FH have to make it based on YOUR opinions, not anyone elses. You may take their opinions into consideration but don't let that sway you from making the decision that is right for you. This is the first important decision (other than the wedding) that you and FH are making TOGETHER. My parents, especially my Dad, have tons of opinions on where we should buy, what we should buy etc. I've learned to take it into consideration knowing that the final decision will be made by FH and I!

don't be nervous, this is a GREAT thing and sounds like a fantastic deal. Don't let it slip by!

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i think they would try to be nice about it if anything like i know FMIL would find all the positives about the place and focus on that and try to sway anybody else on a positive direction hahaha so thats good.

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That's totally key to have a positive person in the bunch. It's great that FMIL is positive....

I have this one friend who is Miss Negativity. I've learned to ignore and smile.....

Good luck and keep us updated!!!