All I want to do is scream!!!!!!

All I want to do is scream!!!!!!

So my fiance and I have been looking at reception halls for our wedding and have it a very clear point me wanted Sept/October 2013 to every family member. My brother and his fiance just got engaged 1 month ago and have now announced to the family that they are booking August16, 2013 for their wedding. I can't help but be annoyed, angry and fustrated as my brother doesn't see an issue with the fact that our weddings will be weeks apart. Does anyone else see something wrong with this or is my bridezilla side creeping through?

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I agree 1000%. Its soo wrong to have 2 weddings back to back if you are brothers and sisters, Especially if you mentioned a month and then they just book its sooo annoying. Do you have to be part of thei bridal party????

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My mom said she was going to ask me to be a bridesmaid but i'm still annoyed and angry that I have tried to keep my distant than explode. Apparently they don't see anything wrong with it and neither does my mom.

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I know another family that has two girls. They both got engaged around the same time and are having their weddings 3 weeks apart. I see it as being wrong in some aspects, but what are you going to do about it? I say make the best of the situation.

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Try your best to not explode its not worth it, you don't want any family drama while planning your big day. As far as being a bridesmaid just remind her that you are planning your wedding also so you guys will have to coordinate wedding related events well in advance. Try to enjoy every bit of planning and book everything early especially Video and photo so you get who you love : )

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Thanks for the advise ladies. I'll try to keep it all in mind and stay calm.

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I know how you feel. My FH's brother got engaged about 3 months after us. We already had the RH and date settled. He asked us if we could go on a shorter honeymoon so that they could have their wedding 2 weekends after us. Ummm no! Now they're having it 2 months after...which I still think is a little close, but what are you going to do.

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I would be so upset, especially if you have a lot of guests coming from out of town. It's almost like they're going to be forced to choose which wedding to go to! So sorry you are going through this.

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I would be annoyed. FH actually proposed 2 weeks after his step brother had propsed to his gf and i was so scared they would be mad but made sure our weddings were very spread out they are getting married 7 months before us I couldnt imagine to have set a date so close to them because if it was me id be mad. Im sorry that thats happening to you

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It is so nice to know I'm not the only one out there that thinks there is something wrong with this all this... I have to have a positive attitude about all this as I can't cause WWIII at my house. It's just fustrating that some people can be so selfish sometimes. I was thinking of pushing our wedding back a few months but then I started asking myself, why? to make other people happy? Why should I be the one to change my date. My brother and FSIL don't seem to care as their wedding will be first. In the end I like to think that our family guests will be more excited to see the girl, ME, getting married.

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Theirs will be the warm up, or the opening act for YOUR wedding!

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I would be so angry and upset if my brother/sister did this to me. That's extremely rude, and disrespectful to you.

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It's half and half. Partially bridezilla (because let's be real, anyone is entitled to get married any day of the year without checking with you first) and partially just effed up. I know because one of DH's friends did it to him! They booked it the weekend before our tentative wedding date. Fortunately we hadn't booked anything but I was livid. We would have been able to get married on our 6 year anniversary, but nope, we got married two weeks later.

All you can do at this point is bite your tongue and book your date. What about the weekend before theirs?!

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My best friend got engaged like 2+ years ago and didn't set a date or anything, and then I got engaged in July and she said that she wanted to get married is Sept/Oct(which is what I wanted) so I started looking for dates earlier in the summer and after I booked, she booked a date a month before me?? I didn't say anything but was annoyed bc I could have booked in Sept/Oct which is what I wanted. We are both in eachothers wedding parties so it is a lot at once.

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FH's brother just did this to us. We're set for 3/1/13 on LI, we've been booked since November. They JUST announced that they're getting married after Christmas in Georgia! It's so inconsiderate. My FH was like 'Hey, that's 8 weeks before my wedding.' His brother goes, 'so?' It's so frustrating. We're trying to be peaceful about it to, but I can't help but feel like they could be more considerate.