All we do is fight about money

Why does it seem like ever since we got engaged all we do is fight about money? Before we started wedding planning money was never an issue. I cant stand it! Does everyone go through this?

Amen Sister!!! FH and I have had 3 major fights in 2 years all about money. The advice I got from everyone on here (Thank you girls ) is to take a deep breathe. You got engaged for a reason and try to remember how much you love each other. The wedding is 6 years hours a marriage is a lifetime.

It is said that the biggest causes of breakups is due to financial issues.

But now at least you can try to improve on how you both handle your money so that it won't effect your marriage.

I hear that this is an issue with many many couples.

My fiance and I both read about 2 - 3 books on managing finances for our pre-marriage counseling and I'm happy to say we are on the same page.

Good Luck with finding your happy medium!!!

because wedding are mad expensive!!!!!!!!!! especially ig you and fh have to foot the bill it does become the topic of dicussion

i always get like all fussed up about money and fh just tells me to relax and everything will work itself out, its not the end of the world, money comes and goes

im not sure if im any help, but i know that it helps me when i have fh to stay come rather than add fuel to the fire

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Posted by Jna2010


i always get like all fussed up about money and fh just tells me to relax and everything will work itself out, its not the end of the world, money comes and goes

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This is me and FH EXACTLY! I HATE it when he tells me 'don't worry, it will all work out'. Was he planning on winning the LOTTO?

YES!!!

unfortunately I think everyone getting married goes through this. it ***** I'm with ya! if weddings weren't so crazy expensive things would be a little less stressful.

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Posted by Windy

Why does it seem like ever since we got engaged all we do is fight about money? Before we started wedding planning money was never an issue. I cant stand it! Does everyone go through this?

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Yup and my only advice is to not get so wrapped up in the planning that you forget the real reason for getting married. No need to stress if there;'s no money for personalzed matchbooks, no ones gonna care.

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Posted by Lolablue34

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Posted by Jna2010


i always get like all fussed up about money and fh just tells me to relax and everything will work itself out, its not the end of the world, money comes and goes

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This is me and FH EXACTLY! I HATE it when he tells me 'don't worry, it will all work out'. Was he planning on winning the LOTTO?

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HAHA my FH is!!!!!
we dont really fight over money, FH just didnt know how much weddings actually cost, i do, and no matter how much i tell him and remind him, he has the exact same reaction..... ***???? its a down payment on a house.... hahaha same convo over and over lol hes too funny.

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Posted by Jna2010


i always get like all fussed up about money and fh just tells me to relax and everything will work itself out, its not the end of the world, money comes and goes
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This is me and FH EXACTLY! I HATE it when he tells me 'don't worry, it will all work out'. Was he planning on winning the LOTTO?

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ITA, FH and i had a argument about money yesterday and he said the exact same thing.... i would like to know when b/c i dont see money growing on trees

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Lolablue34
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Posted by Jna2010


i always get like all fussed up about money and fh just tells me to relax and everything will work itself out, its not the end of the world, money comes and goes
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This is me and FH EXACTLY! I HATE it when he tells me 'don't worry, it will all work out'. Was he planning on winning the LOTTO?

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ITA, FH and i had a argument about money yesterday and he said the exact same thing.... i would like to know when b/c i dont see money growing on trees

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Oh man, my FH says this too! He doesn't worry about the money at all. He says that I do enough worrying for the both of us. At this point we have a savings account for the wedding and we're both putting in the same amount of $$ each month. I had been saving a year before the engagement so I've been the one paying all of the deposits. But he got me my dream ring so I guess that's fair.

YUUUUUUUUP! And it only gets worse.

I have a shopping prob. I know I do. What other girl you know has her credit card number memorized? So when we got engaged, FH made me clear off all my cards, which I did, BUT temptation is evil and I like to spend. So there are fights about my spending, fights about the house and the cost of living, fights about going out on the weekend, fights about me saving, fights about getting a raise, fights fights fights. I float like a butterfly sting like a bee fights. I am pro.

The best advice came from a married friend. She said that once the wedding over, the stress is somewhat removed. Than focus on the finances and who is 'in charge'. Cause if you do it while this is going on, it becomes very hard to communicate in a relationship.

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Posted by Lolablue34

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Posted by Jna2010


i always get like all fussed up about money and fh just tells me to relax and everything will work itself out, its not the end of the world, money comes and goes

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This is me and FH EXACTLY! I HATE it when he tells me 'don't worry, it will all work out'. Was he planning on winning the LOTTO?

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i hate 'it will all work out'...how??????
yeah the money tree isn't in MY back yard

Hey Windy!!

Dont involve fh that much. narrow it down to 2 vendors per thing..and have him choose. when u start talking about how much every single little thing costs, he will get annoyed and then take it out on u.

The real issue is the way he keeps throwing it in my face how much his parents are helping and saying i think the 'money just magically appears'. But I work too! Im contributing too!

We never discussed money before getting engaged, nor did we really fight about anything more serious than what movie to see or cleaning up the dog doo in the back yard.

I really dont know how to handle our financial disagreements.

Unfortunately I think all of us are going through this