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am i a bridezilla?? (LONG.. sorry...) - UPDATE!

Original post by isuser

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hi girls,

need to vent and please let me know if i am wrong... i have 1 MOH, 1 bridesmaid, very good friends of mine.

since my wedding preparation, the only things i've asked them to help me out is to pick their dresses, and help me with my gown. everything else i'm taking care of.

in my culture, i am paying for all BM expenses - dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, etc. etc.. i have given them the liberty of pretty much picking any colors/styles as i don't have a color scheme for my wedding. they picked a vera wang dress, $300 each. i said it's a little pricey and asked them to keep it to $250 (before tax) each. and one of the BM's mom is going to help them with it as she knows a really good tailor.

so i asked them if her mom can help me with my evening gown (i'll change into an evening gown), too. no reply.

so i asked them to go to rk bridal with me - one was busy, and the other one is reluctant to go (and ended up not going) because it's not high-end.

so i sent them pictures of the dresses that i tried on and liked. their respones were,'nice, but there's nothing special about the gown.' which actually are true comments. but i told them i have a limited budget to work with. and all the gowns they have pointed out to me are way over my budget.

now, i'm getting upset, because i feel like all they care about is how THEY are going to look. i want them to look good, too. and i have no problem with that. but... aren't they supposed to help me out, too?????? how are they helping by just telling me the cheaper gowns are not nice, and not going gown shopping with me.

have i turned into a bridezilla???? what should i do????

ETA: so i emailed the girls and told them how i felt, and they immediately apologized and said they simply didn't realize how stressed i was. and we're going gown shopping tonight!!!! and to prove their dedication, they said they won't talk about their dresses or anything until mine is taken care of!

MANY MANY THANKS to you girls for being soooo supportive!!!!!

KandM2006 Thread views: 1,383

Re: am i a bridezilla?? (LONG.. sorry...)

I think it's OVERLY nice that you're paying NOT only for their dress but for their WHOLE look!!! Just keep searching and hopefully you'll agree on something!!!

sgusti Thread views: 1,383

Re: am i a bridezilla?? (LONG.. sorry...)

Remember this is your day. If they were true friends they would understand and help you. Let a little time past and sit down and talk to them. Let them know how you are feeling. If they still don't understand then find new people. This should be a happy time and your bridal party should be your support and not your headache.

BethGail Thread views: 1,383

Re: am i a bridezilla?? (LONG.. sorry...)

you are NOT a bridezilla!!!! at least not on this one tell them if they think you should wear something more high end then THEY Should pick cheaper dresses!

marc_rai Thread views: 1,383

Re: am i a bridezilla?? (LONG.. sorry...)

Posted by nferrandi

You have done nothing wrong! Your 'friends' are being real b!tches and I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I understand that it's your culture to pay for your BMs attire, but did they think for one second that if you weren't responsible for what they're wearing that you would have about $800 more for you gown budget?

That was the first thing I thought! I can't wait until you post the pictures.