Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

It's me complaining again, I think its my new job! I'm sorry to vent yet aagain but I think I'm gonna lose my mind!

I am so upset over the way people are treating me, and in my mind, and I hope I'm right, I have nothing out of the ordinary.

Heres my deal. I asked 5 people in Feb and early march to be BM's. One dropped out stating money issues and I offered to pay and she then said 'it was a time issue as well'. Ok..whatever that means, but if you dont have time for the most important day of my life thus far, then there is a bigger problem in my mind. I have not spoken to her since, she says I SHOULD be calling her?? ( huh???)

Then my distant friend( for like 10 years) calls me to always talk about her, and her issues, blah blah. I am there for her, cause shes my friend...comes down to ordering dresses and she lies twice and says she went when she didnt, finally goes. She tells me she cant find 'time' to go get her daughter( my jr. BM) measured( hello..it takes 5 minutes tops) and so she ( jr. bm) thus drops out.

Now we are in August and I would like to place the order early to avoid any problems happening etc.....whats the big deal? Its what I would like, you would think I was asking for someones ARM.
My one BM says she is having issues and for some reason ( I still dont know) cant drive to Commack wedding center to be measured so she calls in her measurements over the phone...they say she never paid.
It's now OCTOBER and I asked, and BEGGED for her to work this out and she never did. I now cannot wait any longer. Im getting married in 5 months. So I basically tell her the dress order is going in, I gave at least 30 chances to get this straightened out, I even called Commack like 10 times for her. They tell me shes lying.

So then I get this BM telling me I'm demanding and agressive??? And that Im dramatic and some people are a little slower at things then others...Who would not be aggressive after 7 months of this?

IS it me? Honestly? Why do my friends care so little for my feelings? This is something SIMPLE for goodness sakes..what if I really needed them?

I'm just upset thinking maybe it's me but I dont truthfully feel I did the slighest thing wrong by freaking asking them to get measured for a dress?

oh wow..sorry so long. I'm in a bad bad place lately and I cant handle all this silly stress....is it too late to elope???

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

First and foremost
Listen, you've done all you can. Other than giving her a piggyback there, there's nothing more you can do without being called demanding. Has she given you an explanation as to what she plans on doing? For the life of me I cant understand what these BM's think..... as if the dress will be delivered in a week or something and that its going to fit perfectly!! Im no help here, but I just wanted to tell you that you are far from being a bridezilla. Good luck and keep us posted on the situation!

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try not to stress........i know how hard that is !!
it's not you at all !!! - it sounds like you have a bunch of friends who are walking all over you .........is there ONE that is interested and excited ? maybe you can ask her to motivate the others ? be the ringleader ??

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Thanks! Yes I have 3 including my MOH who are VERY supportive and say IT's not me at all, so I am very happy I have them.
I have never gotten the real reason for why one didnt go...her life was more important then the five minutes I asked of her. Yes, the funny thing is the ones who gave me the problems have kinda always not been there for me in other matters. I just think maybe its me and wanted to see if I was the one acting crazy.

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I don't think that your expectations are high or that you are being demanding. I would give this friend a time limit and then move on. A smaller bridal party will be cheaper for you in the long run anyhow and not worth the extra stress. I only have my sister and my life is so stressful as a result.
Hang in there

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

No honey you are far from a bridezilla it seems to me that your friends are not even taking this seriously. Like they don't care you are getting married or something. If I was you after all this is over I would rethink them as your friends who needs people around you with negativty anyway and drama it is your wedding if they were true friends they would make the time to get it done not give excuses

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I'm sorry you have to deal with this. It is not you. Hang in there.

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

You are NOT a bridezilla!!

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I don't think you're a Bridezilla at all! You're only asking for what needs to be done.

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

It's not you. It really seems like you have done everything you can, in a very nice way, to get them to do what they need. Focus on the good and maybe if you can, write the BM giving you the trouble a very nice yet diplomatic email with all the BM information such as place (yes I am aware that she knows all this already), price etc. So you know she has all the information infront of her and it is completely off your shoulders. Even state time frames maybe so she realizes you are not pressing her but these things take time. Like it takes 1 months for the dress to come in and 2 months between fittings etc and leave it at that. You put the owness on her, where it should be. Either way...good luck!

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

I DID all opf your suggestions...even FH said pick a time and that's it...Well that time was August 15th and still I felt bad, so finally this week I said thats it, the order is going in. I told her and she started acting like I was the one with the issue for rushing things etc.
I just dont get people..but Im better off in the end.

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

Try and hang in there even though I know it's tough. At least none of them owe you money. I have 2 BM's who owe me the down payment on the dresses. One of them is paying me back in weekly installments, and the other one disappeared off the face of the earth. She's not returning any of my calls...you think she's trying to tell something?????

I mean come on people things are not that serious!!!!!!!

But like I said hang in there and you are not a Bridezilla some people are just not getting their priorities straight. If I was asked to be in a wedding party, I would make that a priority.

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ugh i'm so sorry you have such an awful time with your bm's! sometime people can be so self centered they only care about themselves it's so ridiculous!!!!

Re: Am I a bridezilla? ( very long)

I am so sorry to hear you are dealing with this. First of all, you are not a bridezilla. Unfortunately, you cannot force someone (or ask nicely it seems) to go have their dresses taken care of. You did what you could and in the end, those who are meant to be by your side will be.

Has anyone used commack wedding center

has anyone had any experience with commack wedding center as far as everything. my FH and I went yesterday and they have a bunch of packages with pic, dj, flowers, etc. all included under one price and Im wondering how their work is, a little scared please give me some info