Am I A Terrible Person?

Am I A Terrible Person?

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you are FAR from a terrible person. It's easy to be envious of those that are doing things in life before us, or without us. As long as you can be happy for her, regardless of how you feel on the inside, I don't think you are a terrible person.

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IT IS SOOOO NORMAL!!!

youre not terrible you are anxious to start your family!!!!


and your wedding is soon!!! CAN WE SAY HONEYMOON BABY!???

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Yes, you are a horrible person.


KIDDING!!! You know I love ya and think you’re great…I think this is a very normal thing to feel, especially since you’re getting married soon and will presumbly be trying for a baby not too long after that. You shouldn’t feel bad about feeling jealous at all.

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you are HORRIBLE!!!!

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ha ha i hope u kno i was KIDDING!

no no .. i kno exactly how you feel...

we all want babies (well some of us.. and its jstu you want to have it first!)

ha ha totally normal!

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awwww you aren't horrible at all.....its totally normal for people to feel that way when they want to have a baby......i am sure that those feelings will go away or lessen as time goes on.....i dont even want to have children yet but when i am with FSIL and my nephew or see FH with our nephew it makes me get weird feelings like that too - but i think its more of an admiration b/c i think that she is so lucky to have a family and one day when we are ready i hope that we are just as happy as she is....as long as you dont let it interfere with your friendship i dont think you are horrible at all! your time will come soon enough!!!

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and dont worry you'll probably have your own little baby before i even get married!

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Its normal to feel that way.
Practice makes perfect and I happen to think that is the best part.
You have plenty of time. I have felt this way probably each time one of my friends has a baby it goes away as fast as it came. Our turns will come..

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Awwww. I know how you feel, this is how I actually felt when ALL of my friends were planning their weddings. I felt so left out. I'm so behind them yet we've all been w/our guys the same amount of time pretty much. They've all been married like for 2 years and are on to that baby chapter now.

I don't think I want kids, but the wedding stuff made me feel really sad. Every time I'd hear someone got engaged, my heart would sink.

I think your honesty is great and something everyone secretly must feel, even if it's just a tad

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not at all, it's completely normal! i agree, there could be a honeymoon baby on the way, you have the itch apparently!!!!!

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I just feel so bad for not being CRAZY excited!!!! I mean - again - i'm VERY happy for her....but I'm guessing I should be happier...and I told Dave last night that I was jealous & he said we'll get there....but I don't know....

I don't even think that I wanted to have a baby first - we aren't in any financial position to have a baby right now....i have no idea what this is...

thanks for listening girls & of course - for making me feel more 'normal'....

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i bet you will feel more excited as time goes on, you probably will be more comfortable with the situation and you probably will feel less envious....so just give it some time...the news is still so new to you and your initial reaction is normal, so dont worry or be upset......its better that you wait until you are totally ready mentally, financially, etc. and \even though it might be hard waiting for the perfect time in the long run you'll be making the best decision for you, FH and the new baby! and after the wedding is over getting pregnant is something that you have to look foward to - which is totally cool - its something else that will consume your mind after the wedding over

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i think it is totally normal to be jealous! trust me, the feeling will feed and you will be the most amazing aunt in the whole world!

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You are horrible j/k ..Jess that is so normal ....dont feel bad !!!!

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i dont think u are a terrible person, but u should never be jealous or envious of your friends....that is a sure fire way to lose a friend.

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not at all! my friend just had a baby in may and another is due next march. i wouldn't say i'm really jealous, but i am envious and can't wait to have my own someday! plus, i really wanted to have babies around the same as my friends. hopefully someone of them will plan to have another baby in about 3-4 years!!!

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that is human nature you probably are more disapointed than anything but it is normal to feel that way