Ok while I know the world does not revolve around me and I am totally not angry at anyone I am a little dissapointed at how it looks like the night before my wedding is going to turn out..I am staying in a hotel suite in the city the night before while FH is staying at our apt. Even before I was engaged I always pictured that the night before I would have my bestest friends (My BMs of course), my mom and my godmother stay with me and we could do a mini slumber party together. I always imagined how fun it would be doing girly stuff at night, waking up and having a big breakfast together! Well it turns out that is not happening. Most of my BMs aren't coming (so far only one person said they would be there), and while some of them have very valid reasons, (one has a baby, the other is FSIL and she has family staying at her house the night before, etc etc) I sitll can't help but feel a little bummed. To make matters worse, my mom and godmother both basically told me they can't stay with me either! (my mom has to take care of my 9 yr old brother and my godmother has people at her house too). So now I am going to be in a big suite with HOPEFULLY one BM but with my luck something will happen and I will be all alone the night before my wedding. The thought of that depresses the h ell out of me! Am I being a big baby about this?? What are you all doing the night before the wedding?? Maybe if I get a feel of what other girls are doing I will feel better (or worse depending! )
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I will probably be at my parent's house, bms will probably be at the hotel. But I am happy, our wedding is on a fri, RD is thurs and it will be late as it is and I need to get my sleep! lol
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I understand how you feel! You had this great picture in your head and now it's not happening and you're bummed out. You're not being a baby at all. It's natural to feel disappointed. You and your other BM can make it a great night just by yourselves. And if now, it'll be good to have some ME time the day before so you can relax. Get a massage and your manicure and and pedicure and watch chick flicks on TV. Or you can have an LIW brides party and we'll all come and entertain you!
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Well I am only staying with my MOH. . i think one of my other BM might be in the hotel but staying with her husband. . my sis will have a new baby, and other BM can't make it so it will be small but fine. .I figure we will all go out the night before anyway. so it's just really about going back and sleeping! the next morning folks will prob show up to see you get ready.
I would be bummed if I was all by myself but at that point I would prob not stay in the hotel.. .
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I am living at home and fh is at our house. So I will be spending my last night in my bedroom. Mom and dad down the hall as always. Cookie on my bed like always. And my MOH will be in town from Paris and staying in her old room down the hall.
Can you stay at your parents? Maybe that would feel more like you wanted it to be, your BM could stay there to and then you know your mom will be there.
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i don't think you are being a baby. i am doing this same thing. i am staying somewhere the night before and i totally agree that i would want people there with me. i am staying at a hotel suite and i hope my sisters are there with me!!
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Posted by MLAngelo
I am living at home and fh is at our house. So I will be spending my last night in my bedroom. Mom and dad down the hall as always. Cookie on my bed like always. And my MOH will be in town from Paris and staying in her old room down the hall.
Can you stay at your parents? Maybe that would feel more like you wanted it to be, your BM could stay there to and then you know your mom will be there.
If I could stay at my mom's I totally would (especially since she lives 4 blocks away form the church!). The problem is she lives in a teeeensy Manhattan one bedroom and there is no room for me. Also, the hair/makeup people are coming to the hotel in the AM and their stuff alone would take up my moms whole apartment..
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I'll be staying in my house with my mom only no one else since i am not having a bridal party. I dont mind will be like every other night lol
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Posted by MrsList09
I understand how you feel! You had this great picture in your head and now it's not happening and you're bummed out. You're not being a baby at all. It's natural to feel disappointed. You and your other BM can make it a great night just by yourselves. And if now, it'll be good to have some ME time the day before so you can relax. Get a massage and your manicure and and pedicure and watch chick flicks on TV. Or you can have an LIW brides party and we'll all come and entertain you!
Thank you! You are sooo right!
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I was also thinking about the night before. It seems like no one will be able to stay with me considering they'd be in a room with their hubby or boyfriend and I was wondering who'd be there with me. I'm sure, under the circumstances, there's no way you'll be alone through the night. Whoever is staying at the hotel - friends and any other OOT'ers will probably come to keep you company. I know it's upsetting that the closest people won't be in the room with you the night before your big day, but it will turn out fine and you'll have a great night!
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ya know, having that time be yourself may not be such a bad thing... it give you time to think over things and just live in a kinda fantasy for a bit imagining how your wedding day would be and how it'll feel to be married... i think that planning activites and having alot of people around doesnt give you that quiet time that one may want to reflect on everything... and when you get a decent size of girls together in one room, theres bound to me a clashing of personalities that could ruin the calmness you would like before your wedding...
as for me, im staying with fh at our apt the night before and i believe my parents will also be spending the night with us
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i would be sad too if i were you... do you think they are lying to you b/c they are planning on surprising you??? is the wedding later on in the evening??? can you invite other girls who aren't in your BP? i have no clue what my plan is- i will probably decide sometime next fall when the wedding gets closer. i can't imagine anyone really... my mom is a total MOBzilla!!!
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Oh man - I'm so sorry. I'd feel the exact same way as you... I'd pre-empt you being there alone and I'd tell this one BM that it is just you and her that night and emphasize how much you're THRILLED she can come!!
This way she can't back out.
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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz
ya know, having that time be yourself may not be such a bad thing... it give you time to think over things and just live in a kinda fantasy for a bit imagining how your wedding day would be and how it'll feel to be married... i think that planning activites and having alot of people around doesnt give you that quiet time that one may want to reflect on everything... and when you get a decent size of girls together in one room, theres bound to me a clashing of personalities that could ruin the calmness you would like before your wedding...
as for me, im staying with fh at our apt the night before and i believe my parents will also be spending the night with us
You are right about that.. My only issue is I have pretty bad anxiety so I know if I am left all alone I will be up freaking out allllllllll night!
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ummmmm I guess you'd be being a baby about it if you kicked and cried and wet your pants about it.
How about hiring some Chippendale dancers to come entertain you at your hotel room so you won't be all alone?
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I totally hear where you are coming from... I wanted to do that as well...but all my BP is saying they want to use their own shower...so we shall see. I dont' really mind either way. LOL
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Posted by MrsList09 Or you can have an LIW brides party and we'll all come and entertain you!
I was gonna say the same thing except I will be having my RD that night
You have everyright to feel upset and even have premission to let bridezilla out for a little bit Everything will be perfect it may not be the way you planned it (then again nothing is ever the way we plan it) but it will be the way it was ment to be and you will have a wonderful night.
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oh I forgot to answer your question lol I will be spending the night at my mom's and my sisters will be there as well we will all chillax and get ready together in the morning
gina409
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i dont think u r being a baby at all!!!!!!its totally normal to feel dissapointed bottom line whoever is with u and u guys will have a great time before u become a beautiful bride..and maybe the extra quiet will be a good thing in the end..hth
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I had stayed at our apartment the night before and dh was at the hotel. My man of honor and one bm stayed with me and honestly it was nice but we didn't stay up all night or talk just hung out watched tv after dinner then at 12 crashed. Dh was partying it up with his brother in law and family at the hotel and that ticked me off cause I rather of done that. I mean no one was hung over but I rather of had people who entertained me then just crashed.
So if you want and do not mind go hang out with your dh or have friends over if it bothers you to be alone.
